Experienced, Sane Dominant/Switch Seeks Submissive/Switch Female Playmate.

Whether you're just looking for a safe, no-strings attached way to learn the ropes, or you're an experienced switch/sub looking for a safe, sane experience, let's talk about the possibilities! I'm about fun and making things easy and simple for all. Guarantee: No sadness, no drama. I'm committed to making sure that time spent with me is a total escape from all that.

Warning: I'm very into tactile and erotic play, especially tickling - so, you know - if you list tickling as a "hard limit,' keep that in mind ;-)

Just a few words about me as a top & bottom.

In top mode, I'll pretty much do whatever you're into, so long as that doesn't include any of my squicks, and so long as you're up for doing what I'm into - after all, fair's fair.

In bottom mode, I like psychological scenes, ritual scenes, etc.  I'm not into heavy pain.  I can't do CBT, I'm WAY too much of a whimp for that.  Also, not into forced cross-dressing and sissy humiliation.  Nothing wrong with that, if that's what you're into, and I love my x-gen friends, but I'm not into it, so -- 

I've been in the scene for a very long time now, and through a million different phases and down a million different roads.  What I've discovered is that, for me, BDSM is primarily a head thing, and a lot about trust.  I do have a very accute sanity barometer.  I'm very careful about who gets into my inner circle.  I love different, unusual, eccentric people, but crazy is a deal breaker.  In my experience, crazy = dangerous, and I can't deal with dangerous.  Dangerous doesn't turn me on.  Well, not anymore ;-)

About relationships/friendships in general.  I believe that trust is a vital element of any healthy relationship, and all trust starts with honesty.  Honesty is the key.


I love erotic/sex art photography. For example,  I'm a admirer/supporter/defender of Mapplethorpe. I also admire the modern artistic concept of Suicide Girls very much. If I write to you to compliment your photographs, please don't interpret that as a come-on. I'm being sincere. I promise.

Just one more thing. I support the concept of community. I gues that makes me a communist :-)  It's really uncool to join a community forum of any kind and then act snobbish and exclusive. So if you're someone who has made it clear that you won't talk to some people here because of their race, sex, age, sexual orientation, etc., or, if you are generally putting out an uncool or caustic vibe, we probably won't get along.  I understand that some people are here to use the forum as a dating service, and that's fine, but being rude to everyone who doesn't fit one's "mate profile"  is obnoxious and immature.  If someone says "hi," say hi back.  Don't be a little shit.  K? 

P.s. - Maybe it's just me, but there seems to be a shitload of guys (and some women) on CM who look like Kenny Rogers.  The Willie Nelson look also seems to be popular, as does the Robert Goulet.  I promise - I swear - I don't look like any of those people :-)