Right there, so you're reading my profile, that's a good start. There may be a quiz at the end.

Who Is Tigger?

Firstly I'm from Glasgow, if the name didn't give it away, although I live in Edinburgh these days. Whilst I identify as primarily as a submissive, I can and do top. I suppose some might class me as a switch in denial, but I prefer to think of myself as a submissive with an evil streak.

The manifestation of this “top” streak is restricted to doing “nice” things to people I like. I do sometimes stray into actually being Domme and there are one or two delicious people who manage to inspire my Domme streak very nicely.

When all is said and done though, I'm submissive and I need it, it is my sustenance. My evil streak is like chocolate, nice to have now and then but not really suitable or satisfying to have that as my main diet.

A Tigger at Play?

In terms of club play, these days you're more likely to see the evil streak rather than the submissive side. This is because, whilst I am submissive, I don't “present” as such unless I'm either in a relationship with somebody presenting as dominant, or indulging in that type of play with one of my good friends. However, volunteers to thwak me or tie me up are always appreciated as long as it's in a club.

I don't do casual play, I (to steal SkinnyLinny's term) much prefer "friendly play", that is to say if I've met you a time or two and we get on then I may be open to the idea of playing with you. I don't engage in play outside of clubs with people I don't know very well. In other words, if I don't trust you not to take advantage of a very floaty tigger, I won't play with you outside of a club environment. I am fully back in the game with regards to club-play (and club level play (this for me means play that is not directly sexual)), but only with people I know and trust.

I'm a rope person (well restraints in general but rope in particular). I'm both an enthusiastic rope bunny and an enthusiastic rigger, though I am spending a lot of time tying of late and not nearly enough time tied. In kink term the ropes stuff is sort of on a separate track from the rest of my kink as well as the rigger and the rope bunny being two very different aspects of me. The rigger is a frequently (but not always) asexual state of being where I get a mental buzz and enjoyment from it rather than a sexual buzz. It's the challenge, the art, the technical aspect. Once I have somebody tied it can change dramatically, but that depends on the person. The rope-bunny state can be a sexual or non-sexual thing, but it is always a sensual experience.

My list of interests is not exclusive but it is an indication of what I at least have a bit of experience of. For more info on my kinks and vanilla interests just ask me (though please don't launch straight into a conversation by asking what I've done or what do I do in the kink side of things, always gets my back up for some reason). Oh and if you're too far away to come and meet me for coffee (or tea), then you're too far away to become a playmate.

What *Do* Tiggers Want?

I am currently looking for elusive that primary partner who will weather the storm that is me and still adore me and vice versa. I don't want monogamy, but I don't want full on poly either. I want mono with sprinkles. I want love, I want somebody to grow old with, but I don't want suburbia and 2.4 children. If you want me for more than just a bit of fun now and then, you're going to have to make that damn clear as I have no intention of playing the guessing game again.

I am currently enjoying myself and I have friends and playmates with whom I am intimate as whilst I am open to the idea of non-monogamous relationships (and currently sort of party to one), I am only open to these things provided all people involved are aware of the situation and are happy with what is going on. I don't do secrecy, even if I do discretion. Ethics, honesty and integrity are not just hollow words as far as I am concerned, they are standards by which I try to live, even if I sometimes fail (even people as fabulous as I am are after all only human). Not all of my current playmates and lovers are listed on my profile, but they are still important to me.

None of this mean that I'm particularly looking for people to fuck as I'd rather be friends with somebody first. Primarily I am looking for new friends and people to play with in clubs, though I am not averse to well mannered offers of more.

Manners are important to me. This means I'll talk to mostly anybody and at least try to be polite, even if it is to say "thanks but no thanks". Politeness does not equal weakness or that I can be swayed from a “no thank you” by continued pressure, I try to be polite, but my second rebuffal often offends. “Maybe” or “maybe later” isn't a no, an “I'm not quite sure I know you well enough yet” isn't a no either, it's just a “not quite yet”.

A Tigger at Large

As my first munch was on the 23rd of March 2006, I can't really class myself as new to the scene. I've met some really great people since then and been to some wonderful events. I am a big advocate of events in general and will state and re-state my arguments why munches and clubs are good things until I'm blue in the face. I respect that not everyone feels the need to go to events, just don't make disparaging remark about clubs and munches (especially if you've never been to the event your gain-saying) and expect me to leave the remark unchallenged. I also help run the Edinburgh Lunch Munch.

Vanilla Tigger

Now for the bit that most of you will skip, vanilla me:

I am bisexual. I have *very* strong views on my sexual identity and if you think that "women only go with other women to excite men" or "women only go with other women cos there's no man around to interest them", then you and I will not get on. Yes this is vanilla me, it's gender politics. Politics of all kinds is something I get passionate about (forget boring old men in suits and party lines and think instead about equality, civil liberties and the right to self-determination). I am also a feminist of the third-wave variety.

I worship the printed word and view the printing press as man's finest achievement since language itself. So much so I cry at book burning scenes in films and view Fahrenheit 451 as one of the saddest films ever made. I write compulsively and always have some project or other on the go. A geek with a love of SF, fantasy, comics, board games and the likes. Oh, and I love history, archaeology,anthropology and playing with swords.

I am very out going and “bouncy” is a term that has been applied to me on a fairly frequent basis. I would like to describe myself as intelligent, eager to learn, creative and exuberant. I would also like to think I'm easy to get along with and can adapt to most social settings. But this is my vanity talking I suppose. That said I am fabulous.

Speaking of vanity though, I have no illusions about my appearance. I know that I am gorgeous, but I also know that I'm outside of "normal" BMI range. I do not need others to tell me this. I know that being outside of the “normal” BMI range will mean that not everybody will find me attractive, I can deal with this. If my size or weight are issues for you then I suggest you move on, swiftly, and without passing comment.

You can also find my profile on one or two other well frequented sites.

TTFN (Ta Ta For Now)

tigger

P.S. If I've not met you, or at least have a basic conversation with you via messages then we are not friends. As such any requests for friendship coming from those that I haven't met or chatted to extensively will be denied.