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Profile briefly looked over 112020 and checked for any glaring errors. MUCH more frequently found on Fet (MANY more photos available there) with the same name.
Im an experienced Polyamorous, Lifestyle, Heteroflexible Dominant looking for a sub for long term relationship based Ds dynamic. I already have one collared sub. If you are looking for casual play only, Im not the Domme for you. NOTE - allow Me to save you the trouble. No, Im not a pro Domme. No, Im not available for sessions. No, you cant buy a used-anything-of-mine. No, I am NOT looking for a phone or cam slave to do anything you think I might find entertaining (I wont, believe Me). Youre more likely to find me on Fet, I tend to answer more frequently there as I am just on that site more often. I do check in here now and again.
While Im certainly kept busy with offline pursuits, as always, Im interested in quality real-world connections with interesting and decent people who prefer to live the majority of their lives offline as well.
ME Im half-Asian. I work out a lot. Yes, its a long profile, I know...but please do us both the kindness of trying to at least hit the high points, hmmmm?
WHAT I LOVE If it reinforces the Ds dynamic, Im likely into it or would entertain it. The whole person is a lot more interesting, to Me at least, than a laundry list of fetishes. If you have good personal chemistry and the dynamic works - then I find that the fetish stuff will work, barring the obvious areas where your interests arent even close, which leads Me to...
NO THANKS I am into most aspects of Ds and BDSM with the EXCEPTION of Bestiality (eeeuw), PuppyDog training, Scat, Medical Play (except for urethral sounds - I am rather fond of those), Infantilism, and Blood Play Piercing (fun to watch, just not for Me). I am NOT into cross dressing or forced fem or sissification. I like My men to look like men...sometimes whimpering, crawling men...but men nonetheless. -)
MY STYLE Sensual Sadist - My style is very sensual, no matter what type of play Im engaging in. I really like contrast - kissing while inflicting pain, sharp nails and a soft but implacable and demanding voice, a beautiful Woman who knows just the right way to be cruel...thats My style!
WHAT I WANT and who I enjoy meeting I am always open to friends in the scene, particularly other Dominants and Dom and Dommesub couples - trading devious skills is great fun! SUBS should be relatively LOCAL, between 20s to 40s, bright, fun, decent human persons, in good mental and physical condition...fit and attractive, preferably unmarried, etc.
Please have your own pursuits...as I certainly have Mine.
ABSOLUTELY NO ONLINE or PHONE training - real time is the goal!
EXPERIENCE IS NOT NECESSARY, NOVICES OK - Actually, Ive always had a bit of a soft spot for them - it is easier to teach someone exactly what pleases Me when I dont have to help them unlearn any bad habits. Plus, trembling is cute.
HOW TO GET A RESPONSE I will not answer you if you dont have a picture! And WHAT is with all the pictures of big white butts and penises? Ok, I get it, you dont want to show your face - but how about a discreet and classy whole or torso body shot - without the waving flagpole being the ONLY thing filling up the viewfinder!? Geez!
Write something, whether long or short, that is thoughtful, sensible, and that shows that you glanced at My profile. Please, oh, please - dont spell your ur...youre not tweeting, youve got the whole page...and try not to murder the English language - settle for simple assault.
YOUVE READ THE IMPORTANT PARTS and you can stop now, unless youre so d*mn fascinated you want to learn more Im not into all the guys who say cheesy things like Oh! Mistress! I believe in the natural superiority of women! Oh! Let me be your lifestyle slave! I want to turn over my paycheck to my Mistress! Oh! Its an honor to have you trample me! I think that sort of thing can be a huge burden for both parties to sustain over time...but if you can make it work for you - hey, more power to you.
I dont like full time footboys - the guys who love feet to the exclusion of all else...dont worry, you wouldnt like Me either - as I dont particularly care to have My toes and feet licked - it makes My toes chilly! Kissing feet, rubbing feet - Im RIGHT with you there...even the occasional toe suck, but lets not make a meal out of it, huh?
My life includes SM but is not (pardon the pun) dominated by it. I believe that both sexes have inherent and complementary strengths and that either sex (or sexual orientation) can be a gifted dominant (or submissive) - it depends purely on talent and inclination.
I have learned some wonderful skills from dominants of both sexes...and I respect others and their fetishes and wishes, even if I dont care to participate in them.
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Update! 3/2022
*** I don't bother to respond to "Hi" "How are you" and similar one liners. I get too many to bother.
I'm currently open to and - if not actively - perhaps somewhat lazily (as in waiting for one to fall into My lap) seeking a great second male submissive. I'm open to the RIGHT person and situation. I don't check this site frequently though as I'm busy and it's frankly easier for me to wait for mail to accumulate.
I have previously been in and enjoy an mFm hinge type triad and I've had 2 live-in submissives in a relationship. One moved / things happened, what can you do?
I like to let relationships develop naturally into whatever they are meant to be, so I'm not saying I'm looking for live-in just that it once worked out well and was a dynamic that suited Me / us.
Now, WAIT WAIT WAIT - Don't start writing yet.
In the interest of full disclosure - I already have a collared boy. (Who is NOT bisexual so, there will be no forced bi in my household). He's just not going anywhere. SO! You must be poly or open to exploring poly. I am not the jealous type and I expect that to be true of you as well. If that's not going to work for you and you're looking for long term monogamy - I am NOT the Lady for you.
YOU MUST BE:
LOCAL or WILLING TO RELOCATE. Sometimes it can work if you're able to travel frequently, and air travel obviously shrinks distances, so this isn't a 'hard limit' ;)
ATTRACTIVE & FIT (as in, no stranger to the gym, you know what olympic lifting is, and maybe you even like the occasional crossfit workout. You appreciate words like 'vascularity' and 'striations' and you know how to make a mean protein shake.
Brainy AND Brawny - we can figure out the fetish connection and likes/dislikes IF we actually connect on any other level. I don't JUST want to beat the snot out of you, I want to like you, find you intriguing, engaging and attractive...and THEN beat the snot out of you. Just kidding...mostly.
POLY or OPEN to the IDEA of being poly.
You are a stable, rational adult who just happens to crave more than a vanilla relationship can give you...but you are capable of managing your own life and pursuits...and at the end of the day, you would love to lay all that control at the right Woman's feet.
You HAVE A PICTURE. Let's be honest, this will never work without attraction, so...
Just a HINT - you will do WAY better with Me if you put a little bit of effort into your reply, 'I'm interested' or similar one liners don't exactly endear you to Me. Asking if I'm interested in X when I've clearly stated in My profile that I am (or am not) - grrr. If you're far away you'd better be telling me about your family who lives nearby, plans and ability to visit, or remote work capability - otherwise WHY are you writing from WAY OVER THERE?
Tell Me what you're ultimately looking for or have failed to find and what you think you can offer in a relationship to a Woman (that is NOT code for money, you cynic) - what do you see your ideal situation and future looking like - what would make you so content - so happy? What future seems out of reach now but would be just what you would be afraid to hope for if you could have it? Have you ever connected with a Dominant Woman via Kink AND outside that arena?
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Everyone criticizes CM but I like this site.
I've heard people complain that there are no genuine lifestyle dominants.
I've had waaaay more success making real time connections on CM than on any other site. I've met several awesome lifestyle male dom/sub couples and other female dominants (with a couple that I know personally who are LOCAL non-pro and looking for personal relationships). These are folks we hang out with regularly who are terrific people in addition to being lifestyle. I also communicate with a small number of non-pro Ladies in other cities.
I've also met a few local quality male subs who are genuine submissive gentlemen and who fit my very stringent requirements for distance and fitness level. I've played with a few as well and even when it didn't necessarily become a "relationship" I've maintained a friendship with them and invite them to events or gatherings. I've even visited a couple of them and stayed in their homes when I was in their area for events such as Tampa's Fetcon.
Yes, I have to weed out the morons looking to wank just like anyone. I also communicate with a few out-of-town boys who have cam verified and talk about making a visit to my area. We'll see.
So, why is everyone so down on CM? While I imagine that the experience is very different for a male sub, but is it THAT bad? Are there other sites that have been so much better for you?
I met my current sub via ALT years ago...which I'm no longer active on, too commercialized. I met the other boy that I've been training since August 2011 via CM. It DOES happen.
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Stable, sensible FEMALE subs or switches welcome - because you are rare, like unicorns. I enjoy women, on occasion, and friendships growing from that would be welcome.
MALE SUBS, well....
Ok, I have 2 collared boys now. So... I'm good. Awash in attentive testosterone. No new boys needed. Boy levels are at Maximum. Except -
I mean, the two of them think that they are funny and give Me a hard time and say that new applicants are welcome if they want to split up more of the housework & chores, but...I'm pretty sure that they are kidding.... pretty sure.
Aaaaaanyway. Service subs... maaaaaybe....for beatings and training and service. And pool cleaning and also beatings. And laundry and yard work... massaging and carpentry... and also sous-chef-ing... accompanied by beatings and/or electrified testicles (aka - Butler / summoning device from the other room).
Beware the Domina with an off-kilter sense of humor - our punishments are curious and unpredictable.
Don't be frightened by beatings - one of the boys is a HUGE wuss (you know who you are) and can only take level 3 beatings - mockery ensues - but that is all that seems necessary to dissuade him from bad behavior.
Here's the thing though - guys keep writing and saying - I can clean! I can rub your feet... yeah, that's not really necessary. They do that. If you have specialized skills... you're a carpenter or you are next-level - you can say... help me build bondage furniture I've designed on paper but can't translate to real-life and then you'd like to help Me test it out - THEN we can talk. The boys have skills - but woodwork and construction - that's not in their bailiwick.
Mind you, friendly additional boys might make good scenery at parties or good extra guest foot-rub-ers. Or tables... footrests... etc. But if you're trying to just get Me to introduce you to anyone else I know or to tell you when we next intend to go to a Munch or local event... your one liner "I'm available!" isn't going to do it. Who are you? How are you different or interesting? Don't tell Me about what your penis likes. Beyond some outliers - it's probably NOT that different. So, you know what is different? You have a vanilla personality - tell Me about it. Sometimes, if I feel like it, I may tell you why your approach sucks and you're not getting any replies. Unless it is so zero effort that I can't be bothered.
I am even ok with cut and paste introductory messages as long as they are GOOD cut and paste introductory messages. Try not to make it so obvious, you're killing Me.
One more thing. If you send Me a one liner giving Me no info beyond stating your availability or if you ask Me if I do Cam or phone training or if I will session or if I like any of the things that I have explicitly stated that I don't like in My profile - I know you didn't read it (which likely means you haven't read this) and I feel no qualms about deleting such messages.
If you've ever sent such a message to anyone and wondered why it was deleted... there you go. |
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I am polyamorous and dominant.
I've got a collared boy and I'm also being served by another boy. He's new... we'll say he's "in training" and "owned" but not "collared"... eh, semantics. If you're awesome and you'd like to accompany Me/us & some of our friends to a local event or munch, hey, I'll consider it - reach out and say something polite & sensible AFTER reading the bulk of My profile, if you please.
I'm NOT A PRO DOMME. This is a meritocracy, baby.
If you want training or a position with Me as an additional sub, houseboy, etc...with an opportunity to move up in the ranks and earn a collar - and I'm LOOKING for a second boy to COLLAR, then you're going to have to be smart, funny, attractive, and willing to work well with others.
Read a couple of journal entries down for basic requirements.
I also sometimes know other Ladies who are looking and sometimes you may not be the right one for ME but... you might be juuuuust right for someone else.
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Fetcon is around the corner!
I'm getting excited! Less than 2 weeks until Fetcon! I'll be at the in-hotel play parties on both Friday & Saturday nights.
I've already earmarked a couple of interesting-sounding demos and workshops. I am torn between the "Full Contact Resistance Take-down" demo and the violet wand demo, both on Friday at the same time. Hmmm. I'll probably attend the Lew Rubens demo ('cause, hey, it's Lew Rubens), I am also interested in the photography/video demos, among other things.
See you all there! |
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CFNM - Clothed Female Naked Male
My boy & I went to the Clothed Female Naked Male party held Friday July 8th at Command Performance in Pompano Beach. I enjoyed Myself, it was nice to talk to other Ladies. My boy seemed to be the only collared male in attendance. I would definitely try it again! |
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Um, wow. Check out this link to an article with video of a leather clad Domme (not what I'd choose to wear for a sunny afternoon relaxing in the park, but that's just Me) lounging in the park with her faithful subbie footrest in front of numerous onlookers. (link contributed by P!): http://gothamist.com/2011/06/08/video_dominatrix_enjoys_williamsbur.php
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See the apology to Me posted on the profile of Machine1986 - (or see below). I told him he can take it down on Monday, May 30, 2011 (but I'll leave this journal post up for a little humiliation for posterity).
Hmmm. Should I forgive him?
Apology to knl4myplzr
Mistress i am truly sorry and deeply apologetic for wasting your time as i know you are busy and time is valuable. i have no excuse for my lack of communication and disrespect. There were circumstance in my life which led me to Orlando and I lost touch with many. I realize now that losing a connection with most was not a mistake but with you a truly grave one. For I understand the importance of your time and how lucky i was to actually capture your attention! Especially considering there is NO lack of subs chomping at the bit to serve you, that or just be granted audience with you. I BEG you mistress please forgive my unintentional disobedience and allow me a chance to make it up to you , i will endure any punishment you see fit to put upon me if you indeed choose to do so. Please Mistress accept my sincerest apologies. Please allow me a chance to serve.
My deepest sincerest apology- your ready, willing, apologetic BOY.
This was My favorite response to the above - from an old friend:
Dearest UberFemme,
I don't know whether you should forgive the apologetic boy. I was with him until he wrote "chomping" at the bit instead of "champing". That is a common rube mistake. Acceptable to use, but sophisticates us the correct original term "champing".
I would forgive him, but it's close...REAL close!
Humbly,
Your Fool
And another response to this journal post that got a laugh:
Well, if he's "truly sorry AND deeply apologetic" you should forgive him. If he was only "truly sorry", I'd say no. But since he's also "deeply apologetic", I say give Einstein another chance.
And Finally, The Sympathy Vote:
i would vote for him to have a second chance. i know my opinion may not mean much but if i ever get lucky as he was and screwed up i would hope for a second chance and that someone would vote for me to have another try. |
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Last night's Pummeling Demo hosted by the LAC's Sir Top & Sub Bonnie was a lot of fun. Well done presentation by Boy Nick...Of course, it helped that I brought My own willing "practice dummy"...Life is GOOD. |
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Welcome to My "Stupid/Funny letter section!" I will keep adding to it, NEWEST FIRST, as necessary... I know that some like to revisit this section for the newest letters, so I will occasionally move it to make it a more recent post - and easier to find. I'll try to keep it on one of the first 2 pages of My journal!
Wow, how CAN I refuse this offer? Is he seriously asking to live with Me in exchange for submission b/c he's getting thrown out of his parents house?!? "Omg, I can't believe I came across your profile. I think we can work someting out...I've been having a problem with my dad and he wants me out. I would love to submit to your rules..."
Office Storage Available: "hi miss..ever seen a guy fuck his peehole with a pen?"
Amen: You have the kind of body that would make a Bishop kick out a stained-glass window.
Phat Chance (accompanied by a pic of his backside in a fringe skirt): "I have a bet for you;) I bet that my ass if phatter and better than yours;) I even made a video of me dancing to a beyonce song in a pink tutu shaking my ass hehe.I swear if its not way better than yours or any girl you know u can post my video wherever u want haha?? lol whats ur email ill send u it"
Sock it to Me: "im looking for a woman who would be willing to wear a brand new pair of white cotton ankle socks and stuff her feet in my mouth for an hour."
Binky? Really? For *sake! "You are amazing Omg May i get on cam and prance around for you to humiliate Princess? id love to get all girly and suck my binky in a tutu and high heels like a sassy lil sissybitch tehe care to watch n tease a prissy bitch?"
I thought I'd heard everything...apparently not. "Do you enjoy facefarting Miss?"
Really? I mean...Really? I would think this was a total joke except that his profile says he joined CM 1/2007: "Hi, How much for a video session where i smush pies in your face ala the 3 stooges - Pieman"
Passive Aggressive Much? My response to a recent inquiry was something polite along the lines of "Not looking now, good luck hon, best to you in your search." ...and then HIS response to that was, "Understand. Your loss. Best to you as well." Wow. Thanks for making Me 100% certain that I made the right decision!
Silence is Golden: "...May I ask if you talk to the person while you dominate him?" No dude, I just mime shit and wait for him to guess!
High Fiber Diet: "You are Gorgeous! Please let me eat your toilet paper after you wipe your Beautiful A**!"
Good to know: "I'm in it for your breasts."
Moronic pseudo Dom: "hello i like to challange femdoms to see if any one is able to win over me"...WELL, if he wants to "challange" Me in a spelling bee - I'm feelin' pretty confident.
wow...I must be cooler than I thought if guys are going to start praying to Me. "Thine is the Queendomme, the Power and the Glory!" Thanks, er...thou art far too kind!
Puppy Love: hi Miss, how are you? Miss do you believe women are superior to men and that man aren't worth anything and should be lil sissy pets like toy poodles?
To comply I'd have to be very very coordinated indeed: "Would love for you to pierce my c**khead while facesitting me and peeing in my mouth!"
I hope this is a joke, but he sent a pic along with the letter in which he was wearing a tee shirt with what appeared to be his first and last name on it, so... "I am a submissive who dreams of having a woman inflate me in an inflatable suit of some sort. i wanna be wearing a gown and then all of a sudden inflate. if im inflated you have full control over me. make me look pregnant. inflate me like the little girl in willy wonka. hypnotize me and make me think im inflating. i will be your slave and you will own me. let me know if u are interested. thank you."
Aaaaargh! This seemingly mild one annoyed Me. One liner, "how would you rate your feet ma'am?" from a guy with a one-line no-pic profile. I deleted it (so little effort expended, not even worth the courtesy of a "piss off" IMHO) and got another one line follow-up, "do you think they are lovely?.......your feet i mean" Like the reason I didn't respond is that I didn't comprehend the complexities of the question!?....grrrr...I feel like I should reply that they're a zero, and I've got a hangnail, a hammertoe and a vicious bunyon (there's a freakin' picture of My feet on My profile, YOU rate them, Zagat!). You know, this guy is sitting somewhere, in front of his computer, and wondering why he's not getting responses. >:(
DUMB*SS: "I am ready to submit" er...are congratulations in order? Shall I make a notation on My calendar?
OK, Now I don't want to make fun of the guy if English is not his first language, but are you kidding? "hello, i go true of all ur profile it was very nice u are the girl that i real love i nedd u in my life i will make joy and happines all the day of your life babe pls i want u to reply me true yahoomail so that will can go and talk beter on yahoomensanger i will especting ur repply as soon as posible"
VENOMOUS ONE LINER edited for vulgarity (but not, lol, for poor grammar and spelling) "your a f***in loser and a nut case honey.....get a f***in personaltiy...you skank" Yes, I'm sure that's My problem, lack of personality. My profile is so very cookie-cutter.
I replied with this... "That was My fave stupid message ever! Thanks....also, you misspelled personality. Oh, and "your" should be spelled "you're" or "you are." Get a friggin' dictionary, you fool. :) People mystify Me...they need a hobby. I know! How about BDSM! If they spent half as much time having some good unclean fun... :)
Would you like salt with that? "Hi ma`am i would love to eat your *ss thank you"
WHY would this approach seem like a good idea? WHY? *sigh* "Hi sexy, What are the plans for the weekend? Do you will like to hangout. Let me know if you are interested at my handle at (website removed). I hope to hear form you soon. I'll love to eat your fruit many times. So good you ask me for more..."
PEE! ..."i want to have u piss in my mouth please"...I'm starting to suspect you guys are just trying to write weird stuff to Me just to make it into this section, lol! Hey, at least he was polite, yeah?
YAHOO! ..."want my y ah o o ID and password?" Why would I???
PRISCILLA, QUEEN OF THE OUTBACK... Totally out of the blue...um...no thank you. "Mistress would you like to see some pics of me on my drive across the australian outback? i drove 600 miles wearing white bra, g-string and stockings..."
BIG MEANIE! ... Hey just HAD to share this one - It said simply, "you look like crap" and then "and your fat"...This was My (quite restrained, I thought) reply to the above: Actually, it would be "and you're fat" NOT "and your fat." Your is possessive, while you're means "you are"... For example: YOU'RE a dimwitted insignificant moron. I'm sure that YOUR brain and other parts are quite small and rarely used. See the difference? I'm smiling all the way to fatcamp baby. :)
CAMEL TOE? Proof that there is a fetish for everyone...he was polite about it...from a Dom guy..."Wondering if you, or any female subjects or friends, have a camel toe you deem worthy of posting in some Yahoo groups I run?..." (tempted to get a picture of a camel's toe, just to be contrary...thanks to P for giving Me a pic of a real camel's toe!)
Oh no, not this guy again... If you're seeking it, shouldn't you be able to spell it? "seek to please female hypnotiuzer"
Some "Doms" are weird...Mystifying - from a male dom. "Let's f**k sluts together." ...Um...What?
You Make Me Weak... Made Me smile. I picture this guy sort of hunched over his desk for support! "God I feel so weak when I look at your profile. I need to calm down since I am at work" Then he sent this follow up: "Why is it I suddenly feel so weak?" To Which I replied: "Probably, lol, you should drink more water. If you don't feel better, put your head between your knees. If you still feel funny, call 911! :) " LOL!!
HAY IS FOR HORSES..."hey there!" What in the hell am I supposed to say back to that? "Hey there, back!" Moron.
BIG EFFORT... "i like to be ur slave so much" - Really? Cuz'...it really shows...I mean look at the effort he put into it...wow. (Mistress makes her stunned face)
CLEARLY MISTAKEN about the nature of this site! Blank profile too. "Hi Baby, U look good.. I am new to this site so dont know much about it.. Kind a looking for some fun.. Would U be interested. I am 33 male and straight :) Xo"
UM. Of all the obscure one liners... "I suggest you get a blow up doll MISTRESS" Thanks, I'll, er...take that into consideration.
Is it Me, or... "I am interested in chatting with you. You seem surprisingly inexperienced." Really? Huh. Ok. If he says so.
BRIEF BUT CUTE, actually: "Your legs rule Miss.You have cool eyes too." LOL!
Most Pathetic one-liner, ever: "Your fucking hot! what are your measurements baby" From a moronic male "dom" in CA.
AWWWWW! "marry me" that's it - cute.
Er....What?? "would you like to have white slave?" You think he wants to roll himself in paint or flour??
More idiotic one-liners: - made Me chuckle for a while, though! "your pics suck" Thanks! So glad you cared enough to send the very best!
WEIRD "Those stockings...are not silk. They are good enough for you?"
My FAVE Funny LETTER!!! "Hi Are you interested in a roleplay session involving pie throwing"
Most Direct & to the Point "ballbusting needed in San Jose, 43 white male?????? Your high heels stepping onto you know what."... Actually, yes. I do know what!
Errors & omissions - If you're going to correct someone shouldn't your own note be beyond reproach and your suggestion accurate? "you have an a mazing profile and i am sure you are an amazing woman. you might want to respell this bit: this is a MERITOCRACY baby! sadly i live far away for now, but i hope you find all you are after and live happily ever after." I directed him to an online dictionary and the definition and 100% correct spelling of "meritocracy" - a word he had not known, and therefore assumed was misspelled. Twit.
Needs Spellcheck: "seek tru love need more information your ads was not wordy entough"
JUST DUMB: "are you a chinese?"
Last (and least) - "I seek to be hypnotized" ...that's it, nothing else. I couldn't help Myself, I wrote back, "go to a hypnotist." Puhleeeeeze. He wrote back, "no $$$$$$$$ i seek a lovely lady"
Seriously people, are there drugs in the water?
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Fun with a Domintrix in Advertising!
This is an older (2006) ad for the Mini Cooper..."Mini Dominates Winter," which shows a Dominatrix teasing, spanking, flogging and paddling a Mini Cooper. I had seen it before years ago but just wanted to share, it's just too good. The original ad is no longer active on Mini's site, but I found a mirror site (see link below).
Be sure to just allow it to run for a while without clicking on it to see some of the things she'll do without your interference, then click on each of the snowflakes to learn about a specific feature - and see what she does to emphasize each one. I remember watching this open-mouthed when it first came out!
http://pixelpusher.ca/portfolio/mini/dominatrix/
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Fetcon, Tampa, August 2010
I've been meaning to write about our adventures at Fetcon, but haven't been much in the mood, so..."there is too much, I will sum up":
Excessive shopping for corsetry, clothing, and toys - check.
Great friends, an M/f couple, to travel and hang with - check. You know the test of friendship and chemistry is whether you can travel together - I/we love them!
New friends in Tampa - hell, yes.
Mental notes for next year - Yes to the hotel restaurant and Spain, the tapas place down the block...NO to any offsite pretty to look at but no actual play parties - and an emphatic YES to the onsite hotel playspace where photography is barred and moan-y smack-y sounds abound!
In person, Lew Reubens is kind of hot, lol. But given My particular proclivities (male subs) I'd dearly love to see a demo by Van Darkholme. |
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So, I've had a collared sub for some time now. For those that are curious, aside from the D&S aspects, its a bit like being married in a sort of 1950s way - only where I'm the husband, lol.
A few weeks ago I attempted to do a load of laundry and realized that I couldn't remember how to turn on the dryer...it had been so long.
I kept staring at it, cluelessly, vaguely recalling there was some sort of button involved. Aha! As it turns out, one of the knobs you turn also doubles as a button. Sweet success!
You know you're in trouble when you can't remember how to wash your own Hello-Kitty Underpants. Yep, the secret is out.
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This is quite possibly the most wonderfully offensive thing I've seen in years...
Choose from an amazing variety of accessories and clothing options...full rubber bodysuit, latex gloves, harnesses, ball gags, gas mask, nurse's or maid's outfit, Baby outfit, Betty Paige style animal print bikini, Leather daddy hat & harness, Pig mask, Gimp mask, Goth Mary Jane shoes, horse tailed butt-plug, garter & fishnets (I was fascinated by the tiny clothespins & clamps)...Yes, folks, its BDSM Dress Up Jesus...find the right fantasy look for your savior, or go to some of the related Halloween dress up pages, here:
http://www.jesusdressup.com/bdsm.html
The banner at the top reads, "Remember, its not a true sacrifice unless it hurts a lot"
Once fully dressed, print & cut out to share on his own standup cross - invite hatred, open-mouthed astonishment and ridicule from your peers & acquaintances!
Its not that I personally find this offensive, its more that I'm astounded by the amount of free time that the creator(s) must have. :)
To offend and horrify others in even more creative ways, including dressing him up as Satan, Darth Vader, a Teletubby, Elvis, Wolverine, Mr. Peanut, Oscar the Grouch, Robocop, a KKK member, & even a member of the Taliban- try these additional Dress Up Jesus pages (not linked from the main page):
http://www.jesusdressup.com/oz.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/halloween.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/holiday.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/superstar.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/hollywood.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/christmas.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/number2.html
http://www.jesusdressup.com/chillinvillians.html
Or, try this frightening pumped up kinky bondage nun (with treasure hunt):
http://www.normalbobsmith.com/nun/
Or Satan Dress Up, because all is fair in love & satire (there's one for the Muslim Prophet Mohammed too, its sort of equal opportunity offensive):
http://www.normalbobsmith.com/satandressup.html
I also think Bobble Head Jesus is pretty cute, and another thing that gets a giggle is this extra long last supper lunch box, suitable for your daily tasty sub sandwich. Hmmm. I kind of want one. From the site: "This...metal longbox gives you the power and glory of Jesus' last meal" (WHAT kind of marketing is that!?)
http://www.lunchboxes.com/supper.html
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I direct your attention to a humor piece called "Good Idea, Bad Idea" (the link to the page is below):
Good Idea: Recognize that Mistress is *not* a democracy, that you are instead living under a benevolent dictatorship at the bottom of the food chain.
BAD Idea: Attempt to grab Mistress's private parts and declare a socialist revolution by shouting "The workers shall control the means of reproduction!" - it was written by a very funny submissive guy, and there are some more pieces, the Sally Struthers Sub Male Placement Ad, and his Thunderdome style Fight to the Death solution to the disproportionate number of male subs to Femdoms. I laughed My head off...Good Idea Bad Idea is My favorite! Bork! Bork! Bork!
Links to the humor pages are toward the bottom:
http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html
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Showtime has a new show called "Secret Diary of a Callgirl"...based on an actual blog that's supposedly written by a real London callgirl...
So, in season one, episode 4, which aired a couple of weeks ago, one of her regular clients asks her to dominate him...so she contacts a real Dominatrix for a crash course...frigging hysterical...and they actually did it really well.
I was impressed, they even briefly mentioned the "no hit zones" at the back of the spine and around kidney areas! There were some great one-liners...as to orgasms, naturally the escort is used to providing them, and says, "well, if they don't come how do you know that its over", and the Domme looks surprised and says, "Well, My watch beeps."
During this she keeps yelling at the sub she's brought to assist in the demonstration, "Position 3!" "Position 4!" while he scrambles to obey. My boy and I laughed aloud. I'm going to have to come up with some positions for us to number, but, since I have a twisted sense of humor, I'm going to make them Yoga positions. Position number one can be "bound tree" and I can laugh while he tries to stand on one foot with the other on his upper thigh and his hands in a church steeple over his head (I don't think he'll be able to manage the crossed over elbows with one wrist grabbing the other, so hey, we'll modify...I am, after all, a merciful Goddess).
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Quotes I've seen recently that had Me thinking, and chuckling:
Never attempt aversion therapy with a masochist. Results can be unpredictable.
....and....
A Sadist is a Masochist following the Golden Rule. Thinking about that one? Got it? Got it? Ha! |
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Urethral Sounds:
I was delighted to find some urethral sounds online that were made of stainless steel. Most are chromed brass. Anyone who has ever owned anything chromed knows that it may flake when chipped, which has always been an unpleasant mental image for Me, especially when applied to the inside of My boy's bits & pieces.
Doing a little research, I discovered that common KY Jelly (like more expensive cousins such as Surgilube) has a bacterial inhibitor called chlorhexidine gluconate, which is, according to wikipedia (love wiki), an antiseptic, bacteriostatic, and a gram-positive & gram negative microbe bactericide. Cool, huh? We combined it with some good anti-bacterial soap to prepare "the implement".
Anyway, it went so smoothly as to be nearly ridiculous. It practically fell in. I had to hold it out really. And, don't misunderstand, there is nothing abnormal about the size of My boy's urethra. Perfectly modest, I assure you. It was amazing. You could feel the thing all the way down the shaft!! I had him close his eyes, operating on the theory that if he didn't see it going in, it would be less painful - like looking over your shoulder at the doctor's office when they give you a shot. This had the added benefit of making it impossible for him to see My mouth make the "O" of surprise when it went in so easily!
He says its a nearly indescribable feeling. Like the first near-pain moment right before you start to pee - but constant (I assume that will make sense to other guys - not so much to Me). He also felt that his orgasm was more intense, and he felt as though he was being stimulated from the inside, as well as the outside. He also says that it didn't hurt, and that he'd expected it to be painful, but was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't.
I really enjoyed this. The big "turn on" for Me is really that, like anal play, this clearly demonstrates that ALL of him is Mine and that there is no part of him that I cannot do with as I like. If I wish to stick a steel rod into My toy, then as long as I am responsible and do it safely (research before attempting, safety concerns addressed, etc)...there's nothing I may not do...and nothing he's unwilling to try to please Me. Mmmmmmm.
Well, as the sounds also have a flattened tab on the end, for the affixing of various electrical devices...I'm looking forward to combining the sounds with some electrical play...and finding out what it feels like for him to be electrified from the inside. Wish him luck. :)
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Civility in the Scene:
This is one of the best articles that I've read on our community in recent history. The examples section was especially insightful - I've witnessed and had recounted to Me a lot of poor behavior. I know some excellent players who will not wander into the public scene. I avoid it Myself. This also serves as an excellent warning to subs about what is NOT appropriate behavior from a Dominant - no, you're not crazy, and sub or not, you don't have to put up with this sh*t.
Read the article! Mistress commands it! http://www.sfmunch.com/SFMunchEthics.html
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I saw this really funny gay comedian (Sabrina Mathews) on a TV special, and she was very butch - she goes on about her mom saying, "my mom doesn't mind so much that I'm gay as that I'm not femme". She asked, "don't you ever just want to carry a nice purse?" "no, mom, I have never in my life wanted to carry a nice purse" "so, she finds ways to make me carry HER purse, and its just me and a bunch of guys holding them out as far as we can get them, waiting outside the dressing rooms. Its like, she thinks if I carry a purse, the rest will follow, like its coated with some kind of butch-eating bacteria".
That cracked Me up! |
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So, the other day I point to the open curtains of My bedroom window and say to My boy, "go close the curtains." He looked at Me for a moment that I deemed too lengthy and I added, "Up! Now! Don't make Me point imperiously again!" |
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Quote from an odd little vampire book I just read- You Suck, by Christopher Moore...the whole book was bizzarely funny, but this was particularly silly & made Me laugh...
"Like a toaster, I control the darkness." |
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I did NOT write this...but it was so funny I had to show it to all of you!! What a GOOD IDEA! BEWARE!! This is from a post in a national vanilla dating site's forum...scary, lol...and I want this woman as a friend!
"...let me give you the skinny on a small percentage of men that are doing their level best to make women fearful, nasty, bitter and harsh.
Some men when you turn them down as politely as possible, get abusive. I have received things like "What are you so afraid of, you stuck up b*tch?" I reply, "I am afraid of getting together with an abusive butthead, " or "catching a venereal disease." *click block* Other men seem to be under the impression because they find you sexy, that you suddenly owe them something, and when I say something, I mean sex.
I have a big collection of "d*ck pics" that I have been sent, totally unsolicited. I am not sure why men send them to me. As if I am going to see a picture of their turgid organ and drive right over. When I get one, I immediately send it to all my gay boyfriends, because hey, they appreciate them. Then I post it with a personals ad, to Craig's List using their e-mail, with a gay personals intimate encounter ad, ususally including some outlandish and depraved fetish request. If a guy sends me his phone number, I will post that too. I have no shame about this and I consider it a form of behaviour modification. Some day I will pass out the web page where I have them all posted, complete with their names.
If they manage to behave long enough to get past the letter stage and get a first date, they can get worse. One guy I went out with actually pulled out his erect member and asked me "don't you just really want to suck it?" I told him that I would not suck it, if I was stuck in deep space and his balls were the single source of available oxygen. I then informed him, that should it get to my mouth, I could not guarantee he would not draw back a bloodied stump. As I cheerfully drove off, I heard him exclaim "Goddammit, not again."
So you see, the men who are getting a lot of nasty responses, are either adept at picking some very grumpy women, or they are hiding something when they say they get only nasty or vulgar responses. I would lean towards the latter." |
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Whether you're eating your Turkey from the table or from a dog bowl underneath it...
Happy Thanksgiving To All!!
I hope that you're all having a warm and wonderful week (hey, alliteration, how d'you like that!?)...and...hey...you put that gravy boat down - right now! We've got latex to fit into over the holidays! Stupid diet. :) |
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New York!!
Recently made a trip with My boy to NYC for a week.
We stayed in a gorgeous mid-town hotel...great corner suite with a giant king bed and marble bathroom...
Ate at Carnegie Deli (LOVE the cheesecake, the matzoh ball soup and their monstrous version of a Ruben is worth every calorie) a couple of times...loved Molyvos, the Greek Place in midtown - you've got to try the Lamb ravioli - oh My GOODNESS! Surprisingly good meals at the Michael Jordon Steakhouse in Grand Central Station (try the Gorgonzola fondue - very decadent, or the signature macaroni and cheese). We loved the salad and Pizza at John's Pizza...zagat claims they're the best in the midtown/theater district area.
Saw Avenue Q - and LOVED it! I was in Vegas some months ago and had wondered what was up with all the fuzzy orange taxicabs...so I was delighted to catch it while in New York. Very irreverent, silly, heartwarming...very much a musical for GenX. My boy had never seen a musical before and let's just say that it wasn't very high on his list - but even he laughed aloud and loved it!
Toured the financial district (posed with the Bull's balls), walked in Central Park, went to the Museum of Natural History, the Metropolitan Museum of Art, and the Museum of Sex. Some of the posters at the latter say things like, "please do not caress, fondle, or mount the exhibits" and "impressionism. cubism. jism."
Went to the Leatherman shop in the Village - too bad, I wanted some leather pants or something for My boy, but all the colors I like apparently mean something hideous, lol, in code....no red - as apparently this means you like fisting. No chocolate brown - that means, well, I'm sure you can guess. Some nice stuff, very well organized, truly amazing selection of men's leather clothing.
Made some great purchases at Purple Passion/DV8. Better quality, selection, and prices on actual toys and equipment than I see at home. The Noose was nothing special. I have to say though, for clothes, I didn't realize how good we have it down here ...the selection at Eurotique in West Palm Beach and The Fetish Factory in Fort Lauderdale is exceptional and puts to SHAME the selection of clothing we saw anywhere. Lucky us!
We only made it to one fetish event...the Dom Sub Friends Party hosted at a club called Bacchus. Very nice crowd, accepting and friendly. I have to say, everyone dressed very differently than we do here in the South Florida scene. More classy, lol, and MUCH less obviously fetish.
Most of the men were wearing dark suits, in some cases black tie, shirt, and suit...for that sexy mafioso look. The women wore dresses and more evening-out wear, with a hint of lingerie...tougher to tell who is sub/dom that way...plus, I like being able to see more of a slave.
To Me, nudity, or exposed flesh is part of slavery...a slave is literally on display. Though, lol, there wasn't much of Me that wasn't displayed either, lol - I've a fondness for skimpy outfits! We were dressed much more punk/goth/fetish...so looked more like Sid Vicious and Bondage Barbie, lol.
Though, judging by the number of Male doms who got a bit down in the mouth after hearing I wasn't submissive, I'd say My outfit got rave reviews, lol. They were all very nice though, and not pushy about it at all. I don't mind being asked...as long as they graciously take no for an answer.
We played very briefly...and got a compliment on the scene...and, ha!, RAVE reviews on My subbie boy's nude body. I had trouble stuffing his head back into the cab for the ride back to the hotel.
There was a passionate play rape scene played out right in front of us. At first, we wondered if they were serious and someone should intervene, but apparently she was dating the guy and had been told in advance to wear clothes that could be torn away and to sit and wait for the "attack".
We ended up skipping Paddles, the last fetish club left in NYC, since frankly, we'd heard some pretty abysmal things...and we didn't make it to the rooftop party over the Bridge in Brooklyn...because I'm a Florida Girl and even in September, I was freezing My butt off! Stand on a roof in a tiny outfit and corset? I don't THINK so! Next time I'll get a parka and a mink corset, maybe then. :)
So, what's the lesson - what did I learn on My/our trip? I learned that My boy is an excellent travel companion...very mellow and willing to try anything. And that you should always bring a sub to scrub you in the shower and to rub your feet - 'specially when you vacation in a walking city! Whew! My feet were killing Me...thank goodness I'm not vanilla!
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There are 2 other new posts below!!
COLLAR - finally!
I finally found a collar that I liked...and I bought one for scene outtings and play, as well as one deniable collar that My boy can wear out to vanilla venues. Both locking, of course.
The formal collar is so comfy he can actually sleep in it. :) And can I just say how cool it is to enter My room and see a naked, collared slave sleeping against My snow white sheets, exhausted from having been put through his paces the previous night? And no - I don't make him sleep on the floor - a) I've got tile and OUCH, and b) I like to cuddle...and its a king size, I don't mind sharing!
My boy has been officially "collared" since April, so I was really hunting for a good collar...and I was very excited to find it. We hadn't seen another like it. |
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Slave Auction & Abusement Park Party
I went to the local Slave Auction in Pompano Beach last Friday night - mixed though mostly older crowd but super nice and friendly - very approachable. A lot of Dominants (male and female) who actually seem to know what they're doing (nice to see!).
Had an unpleasant experience with one ridiculously fat guy who was...well, honestly, I have no idea if he thought that he was Dom or sub...what he WAS - was RUDE. He walked up and just said, "hey how would you like to masturbate? How would you like to rub your t***ies in my face?" Um. ok...CRAZY person! I thought the sub guy standing next to Me was going to have an aneurism he looked so pissed, lol.
Its worth noting that sub guys are only subbie sometimes, and that subbie doesn't mean wussy...its nice to see that while a guy's backbone may be bowed to Me...its definitely still there!
This kind of thing doesn't bother Me...pretty much I just think...WHAT a freakin' loser...and move on. I mean seriously, has this approach ever worked for him? Jackass! :)
On Saturday night, My boy and I went to a party in North Miami/Aventura held by The Abusement Park family ("Abusement"...isn't that CUTE!?)...neither of us had ever been to one. It was actually pretty cool. Good mix of "real" players, some nice eye candy, and cute little goth kids playing dress up and dabbling...which is fine, you know what I mean though...I think they just like the fashion and getting to tell their friends later "I went to a fetish party and got spanked!"
My only criticism is that, the music is soooo loud, that even if you want to play, you really can't...and that for Me, play is discouraged, b/c there was a guy taking video and pictures. Personally, I don't care to be filmed. I'll stand still for photos in fetish gear, but not actually playing, if I can help it.
What else, hmmmm....oh! We met a really nice couple (male Dom, femsub) who were pretty obviously real players...and I really really enjoyed watching them. The girl has such a beautifully expressive face and was so obviously (and so unlike all the others there) into what he was doing to her...her face was...I can only describe it as rapturous.
Anyway, the skilled Dom guy (we'll call him Sir W) and I got to trading compliments (ok, ok - so maybe I played a little - the camera guy can't be everywhere, lol) and talking and we traded numbers...I love making new cool friends in the scene...especially dominants - trading ideas is fun and I'm always willing to learn!
The only other thing that was funny there was that I saw a few people with...get this...yarn floggers. Yup. yarn. string. With little knots on the end. There is no swing that is going to make this hurt. They come in neon colors and are so light its like holding nothing. I theorize that this is a natural extension of the club kid/rave scene meeting the fetish scene...remember those glo sticks the kids used to dance with at raves? Well, now there are neon string floggers that glow under black lights. Ridiculous.
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The nicest thing you can say...
Awww! Just wanted to share, I think My sub said the nicest thing to Me that a man can say to a Woman...any woman! Try this on YOUR Lady, I guarantee outrageous success!
I said something yesterday morning about having to go to the gym to work out in order to insure that the size of My butt remains a reasonable and modest dimension ;) ...
He smiled at Me and said, "Even if you became a BBW, I'd still want to be Your slave." He also made a thorough and exhaustive study of Me naked, kissing all My bits and pieces, one by one, and telling Me how much he loves each one!
For those of you who've seen the chick movie Bridget Jones' Diary, all women want to believe you'll love even our "wobbly bits"! :)
Has My boy got the moves or what!? GOOD Boy! |
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Sour Grapes Letters! ...
I need to vent. Some guys are sooooooooo effing stupid!!
I've been answering emails today and to a few guys I've written a very polite "Thank you, but no thank you. Good luck in finding what you seek". I mean, that's pretty polite, right? To which I have gotten the following replies...just TODAY...
"Why. What do you know about what I seek anyway"
"Well, I thought you were openminded but I guess not"
"I can see you have a problem with me being black" (WHAT!?? Where is the SENSE in that!?)
"you don't even know me, you shouldn't judge people" (saying "no thank you" is judgmental!? And, not as if it matters, but no amount of knowing was going to make Me accept this guy...and I am entitled to find someone attractive OR NOT for MY own REASONS and not have to take CRAP about it).
and finally,
"you're not that pretty anyway"
WHAT is it with some guys!! Do you KNOW how many times I've read guys COMPLAINING about not getting ANY replies...well, maybe THIS IS WHY!!
Instead of replying politely, even if just to say "no," maybe I'd get less pissy replies if I just did what many other Dommes do and deleted them all! Why do I BOTHER to be polite if people are going to take it this way!
There really is no nicer way to say "I'm not interested"...and I hate to just leave people wondering when they get no answer!! AND THIS IS THE KIND OF RESPONSE that consideration for the feelings of others engenders!!
SO - next time ANY of you, even the nice and polite ones who thank Me for replying at all even if just to say "no thanks" (BLESS your hearts! and you KNOW this rant doesn't apply to you!)...don't get a reply from any Domme that you've written, before you trash her, keep in mind that IDIOTS like these may be the reason she didn't reply!! Nice guys can end up paying for the sins of idiots!!
Pfffffft!!!!! |
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Fetish Factory 11th Anniversary Weekend...
So, kind of last minute (which involved frantic shopping for accessories and such)...we decided to go to the Fetish Factory 11 year anniversary party...the Xtreme Players party on Sunday night....
Some of you know that I haven't been out in the public scene in YEARS...but, you know, I've got My new boy, and My friend ScarletDomme wanted to go too...sooooo, we did.
All I can say is, wow, I wasn't missing much, lol. I dunno, maybe the public scene is just not My thing anymore...
I'm not even sure what was missing exacty, I mean, there was plenty of eye candy and a lot of, you know, sexual acts around...but, it was more like watching a live porn video...for the most part it seemed to be missing the ...gosh I feel cheesy saying this...but the intimacy and loving parts of the lifestyle...you know? I've been to private parties and smaller clubs where I felt a better kind of...vibe...more sincerity, less plastic maybe?
Again, hard to explain what I mean...and please don't be offended if you like these kinds of parties...I'm not saying I'd never go again or anything...it just wasn't "all that".
Some upsides were great fashion (of course), though it seemed a 99% latex crowd. Lots of fetish performers...cool dancer performers in cute ponygirl outfits and all, dancing on top of cages and things. Rubberdoll, the fetish model, performed...it was a cool show, but I'm not really into the whole body latex outfit complete with hood and flashing lights in the gas mask kind of scene. I realize that it is the appeal for some folks, but its too impersonal to play with someone who looks like an alien, or who could be anyone behind the mask. I want to see YOU. They used one of those latex bed thingies (lol, technical term?) where they seal you between two pieces of latex and suck all the air out...you know, where there is a little hose for the person to breath through, and usually a dildo or something on the outside....
My favorite was this guy C Allen Falkner who was AMAZING!! He does this crazy suspension act with all these piercings along his sides (in front, OUCH!) and on his trap/upper shoulder area. Humorous too, the first part of his act was to this country-ish song (Johnny Cash, doing a remake of NIN "hurt" - thanks P!) that starts "I hurt myself today" and ends his act on Down With The Sickness, by Disturbed. Wow! He rockets back and forth, held up only by all these bleeding hooks and piercings, throwing his body around in these wild gyrations during that song...they raise and lower his suspension setup while he does this, and he cuts his own way free from the last piercings in his upper shoulders with a knife.
Many non pro-performers were still players...there was a guy going down on a girl about 5 feet away, a transexual (with lovely breasts) in a (ready for this) latex NUN habit vigorously f*ing (and being f*ed - they traded off) another nun (female, but she was wearing a strap on of her own)...though they also used a double sided d*. They were at it all over the club, for seriously - hours (viagra you think??) ...and ick, one couch was literally dripping when they got up. Who wants to sit there now, lol?
Huge gay crowd, which was cool (gay men have the best bodies for eye candy), a surprising number of crossdressers, some really quite good, and some painfully obvious...lots of naked scary men, some with just c*k rings on...and a few who kept walking around masturbating and watching everyone else, lol. Also, a couple of subs walking around (hysterically) with their own equipment...and then handing crops and such to random women to be hit with them.
There was also a male Dom who was pretty skilled with suction (using a lighter to burn the oxygen out of little jars and then putting them all over his female sub), who was also using some electrical play (big metal fiber electric blanket thing...maybe it was more fun than it looked, I've never used one), and some very nice florentine flogging from him as well.
He introduced himself as "Uncle X"...er, what? First off, "uncle"...? That was new. But you know, I wouldn't introduce Myself to anyone, sub or dom, as Mistress Whatever...just, you know, "hi, pleased to meet you, I'm...(insert your name here)" seems to work great for everyone, I think. Comes off a bit pretentious, or is it just Me?
Cameras and flash bulbs absolutely EVERYWHERE.
*sigh.
I guess I could have come up w/a more PC sounding description, so try not to flame Me too much, huh? Its just My opinion, you're welcome to yours. :) Maybe something a bit quieter...more private...less...plastic. |
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Cuddling 12 Step Program...
Ok, this made Me laugh. My sub is giving Me a footrub, right?...and he pauses and says endearingly, "Mistress, can I be done massaging now? I'd like to cuddle." :)
I'm going to put him in Cuddlers Anonymous, "Hi, my name is X, and I'm a snuggler." "Hi X!!" |
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(blushing) tee hee! My sub's neck (and part of his chest) is all red and hickied-up...with some bite marks...it looks like he was attacked by a rabid raccoon. You boys watch out for those Asian Dommes now...they bite! |
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The 1, 2, or 3 Game!
Hello all! Bit of an update on My latest activities...
My wonderful new slave is still doing his utmost to make Me happy (sometimes so happy My limbs become uncoordinated, lol)...I wanted to share with you all a little "game" that I (and two of My friends) played with him on Saturday night.
First we gave him an oral quiz (not THAT kind of oral!) - he knew things like what My bday was, how I like My drinks, what kind of shampoo I use, what My favorite undies are, what My favorite flavor of ice cream is...that sort of thing...but THEN we got to the hard (no pun intended) part...
Blindfolded and bound, and placing him in various kneeling and standing positions as necessary for each activity, in no particular order, each of the 3 of us did something to him.
Things like deep kissing, biting, licking and sucking on his neck, spanking, face slapping, pinching, kisses with dark chocolate in our mouths (mmmmmm, delicious!), running our long hair all over his body, making him lick/bite/suck the skin of our necks, having him smell our hair and skin, and feel our skin with only his face, kissing our feet, pinching him, various forms of cbt from smacking to crushing....and a few other things I'm not going to tell you...but use your imaginations, lol...
Let's just say I wanted to see if he could use all his senses to identify which of the 3 in each case ...was his Mistress.
He was so delightfully nervous! I really enjoyed watching him savor all the kissing (and what not, lol)...and watching him sort of thinking or trying to push forward to figure out which was Me.
Then, at the end, we removed the blindfold... I tallied the number of incorrect answers ...and I made him pick one of 3 folded pieces of paper from My hand. They said, "hours," "days," "weeks"...
As in, the number of hours/days/weeks that he'd have to endure some serious chastity training! Poor thing, he picked the piece of paper with the word "weeks." :)
Any votes for commuting his sentence? What do you guys think, lol? Lets just say he's in the double digits...
Somebody's in Trouble!!!!
He said something interesting later, that he wasn't sure how he was going to feel about being "shared" ...turns out...thumbs up! lol
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Ok...while I am STILL OPEN to a 2nd personal sub (male OR female) - I do want to announce (dum da DUM!!)...finally...that I have JUST collared a fantastic boy! Yay!
However, as My new (and adorable!) boy is NOT bisexual - any MALE subs who apply must realize that, while I generally prefer one-on-one play, any occasional scenes or even social situations where you're together in the same room (possibly more only if you guys get along well) will not include bisexuality! And NO, I don't object to bisexual subs - BUT I don't want to do "FORCED Bi" with him as he's really just not into that.
FEMALE subs are, of course, welcome...and may CHOOSE whether or not to participate in any scene with a male sub, it is NOT REQUIRED - it just depends on our mutual comfort level and discussed limits, though of course I expect that we'd all be out together socially on occasion...so there will be SOME interaction! :)
While we're still in that cute "honeymoon"-ish phase (you all know what I mean, right, lol? Where you're still laboring under the misapprehension that the other person is damn near perfect?)...I think...I hope...we'll be able to maintain a really warm and satisfying long-term arrangement.
I am very interested in Poly lifestyles though, so please continue to apply - as I said, I'm interested in male or female subs or MAYBE a female switch or dominant - as I'm very curious about poly groups and families...though I need to be the "alpha b*tch" in any arrangement, lol. |
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Hey all - just went snowboarding for the very first time!
Fabulous! All I can say is I've got that "falling leaf" technique MASTERED, lol!! And, if any of you guys (and girls) had been there...you might have gotten to see very very undignified Mistress-taking-a-big Superman-faceplant-into-the-snow a few times along the learning curve!!!!!!!!!
The other fun-for-spectators bits would have been...Me hopping along sideways like a demented rabbit in a vain attempt to clear the board of snow (I picked up more slush than a plow) - with both feet strapped to the damn plank, and also the ..."ouch, that last fall really hurt, I believe I'll just lay here and let all these nice people ski and board over My inert body"....
I need a massage! My hamstrings have never been this sore in My life! |
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Hey guys - in the interest of giving equal time to "contrasting points of view" - here's a letter that I got from a guy regarding the rant on 2/12/06. I also wish to send out a quick THANKS to all the guys who responded positively and appreciated the honesty of the Rant - and thought that I should leave it up as it might be helpful to other subs out there who might be struggling to find someone both competent and attractive! So, without further ado - here's the contrasting point of view! (Hey, I made a rhyme! Go Me!)
***********WOW what a bunch of shallow garbage .. LOL .. i guess you're entitled to it though .. do you really think your that "good looking" that you need all those 4 pack abs shit ... LOL ... trust me Skank .. you're not!what a pathetic shallow excuse for a woman!I date women twice as young as you and don't need the superficials you do. Perhaps you need to check the stamp on your ass .. its way past due!time to wake up !!!dont bother writing back I'll only insult you by not reading it LOL ************
Ok, now I do want to point out the funny spelling and grammatical errors - but that's ok, hell, I make them too...don't we all? And I assume that he's saying that 29 is old (past due stamp thing) - but what REALLY makes Me laugh...is that a woman twice as young as Me...would be like 14 right (he's 49!)? LOL! Anyway, yes, he's entitled to his opinion. And, I enjoyed the laugh. Can you say, BLOCKED USER? Also, his profile consists of a single sentence. No wonder he's having trouble and feeling a bit grumpy! I guess you can't please everyone! :)
...But don't misunderstand Me - I'm not laughing at this guy because he disagrees with Me - but rather because his response is so..."you're ugly, you big meanie! And I'm way better than you, so there!" Maybe its just Me, but I think that he's missing the point.
Another guy wrote basically that he's a nice guy with no time to work out but he still has a lot to offer - ok, well, now that's a sensible response!
But, he has to realize that he's going to have to work that much harder if he's not her "ideal" - and that he'd better have a helluva good intro letter! Sell Sell! I know I'm asking you guys to embrace contradictory ideas here - but, if you're nothing like what a Lady has asked for, why waste her time and yours - go out and make the best of yourself (and no, I don't just mean physically) before you write to her - and say you still want to try - then at least do better than a pathetic misspelled one-line missive. And, if you are not and don't care to look like a Ken doll/Backstreet Boy/Bodybuilder - then consider writing to some great Dominants who maybe don't fit your fantasy ideal. Love you guys, and whether you agree or not thanks for reading and good luck to ALL in their search! Mwaaa! (That's a kiss folks!) |
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"WHY CAN'T I FIND A DOMME?" You know - if you guys can handle brutal honesty....(deep breath)...MAXIMIZE YOUR POTENTIAL!!!
Make yourself as attractive and appealing as YOU can be. That does NOT mean you have to look like Brad Pitt (personally, I think he's unnattractive - you can never tell what a particular woman is going to find sexy...its a very individual thing)!
And for goodness sake write a thoughtful intro letter (personally, I don't care if this is a form letter but for some reason many other Dommes DO care...I think, make a good thoughtful form letter and then add to it - what you liked in her profile, what she said that made you want to respond to Her in particular).
********************* I AM NOT TALKING TO THE REGULAR GUYS WHO HAVE EMAIL CORRESPONDENCE WITH ME - YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND BELIEVE ME ITS A SHORT LIST - YOU GUYS ARE GREAT AND YOUR LETTERS ARE FABULOUS - THIS IS ONLY VERY GENERALLY ADDRESSED TO THE "VAST CLUELESS HORDES" THAT EMAIL DOMMES SEEMINGLY INDISCRIMINANTLY...TAKE FROM IT WHAT WILL HELP YOU AND LEAVE THE REST, OK? AND BY THE WAY - JUST FOR YOU GUYS, YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE...DO YOU THINK I SHOULD LEAVE THIS POST UP OR DELETE IT...I MEAN, IS IT HELPFUL TO SOME??************************
Ok, now I'm going to PREFACE this by saying ............. I hope this doesn't discourage a guy with a great personality and just a decent build and a nice face - who knows, he might be the one for Me (or another Domme) - but you know what - until you meet Us - think of it this way - if you REALLY want to make a gift of your submission to a great Dominant Woman - don't you want to make certain you're giving her the very very BEST of you? The most that you have to offer? Because ideally, that's what you should also have the RIGHT to expect from Us!!
Ok, here we go on the RANT as to why SOME subs can't find a Domme - for one thing, keep in mind - many of you guys all ONLY contact the hot Dommes! Not the fat ones (or just a little older, or chunkier or whatever it is you don't like) who are safe and skilled and sincere and might really be able to help you explore - always the good looking young ones...what's with that? I'm going to be older (hopefully not fatter though, lol) someday - and it bugs Me!
You DO realize that the competition for the really I-look-like-I-just-stepped-out-of-Skin-Two Magazine Dommes is fierce and that subs are lined up 50 deep, right? (Which does beg the question to some guys - WHY are some of you writing her such a lame introductory email then? You have to STAND OUT in the throng...see other journal entries on LAME letters!). You should also realize that MAYBE - what do you think? - 1 in 20 of the hotties knows which end of a whip to hold AND is genuine and earnestly interested in helping to develop and explore someone? You guys limit your options so much by being, well, MALE.
Do you have ANY idea how many hours I have to put in at the gym to look decent? Do you have ANY idea how much "good food" I swallow and how much "bad food" I just look longingly at? When does a woman get a rest from having her thighs inspected by a man and having to keep looking like a 23 year old? Even when we're 43? 53? 63?
Its very annoying to know that all the skill and care you've put into mastering something is valued, yes, but not nearly enough, and not nearly as much as what you look like. I'm pretty, yes, but that's LUCK - I was born this way, and the rest I work DAMN hard for...but the Me inside - the Me that's going to comfort you and be proud of you when you DO for Me, Achieve for Me...the Me that's going to kiss away your tears when you SUFFER for Me - that's just Me, not My package and THAT'S what you boys should keep in mind. Hell, if I blindfold your happy ass, which I MAY do - you're not even going to SEE Me when I do it....sheesh!
Sometimes it depresses Me and I think I'd get just as much mail if My profile just said, "Hey, want a good beating? I'm a total newbie and I could hurt you through My total lack of skill or care - but f*ck it, I'm hot!"
Ok, say you do realize and you just don't give a crap - you want the magazine girl no matter what you've got to do to get her. You're willing to take ticket #51 and stand in line for her - I can at least help you up your chances, because, lucky for you - we can be JUST as shallow - and WE can AFFORD to be picky (see above - lined 50 deep, at LEAST...the problem is that the other 49 guys are usually not QUALITY...but that's still a lot of noise to be heard over, isn't it?). We want personality, brains, genuine people with compatible submissive desires, sure...but we also want BUFF. We want good-looking. We want abs. We want fuzz free butts that bounce when we smack them. We want big cocks that sort of go *boing* when we whack 'em. (ok, I'm adding here that this does not mean that I want to HEAR about the size of your member in your first email, lol - ok? Also, despite popular misconception the average male member is only 4-6" long - that's right the 8 incher is NOT what you have to aspire to here...also, ask around, most women prefer girth to length). That's right - we want the guy who looks as much as possible like the one on the magazine cover too. BUT we'll scale our expectation down a BIT if he's written a great letter and is otherwise fabulous and sincere...And, for the too-brief years that We look this way - and we can get him, the guy with beauty and brains...why wouldn't we - wouldn't you?
So is it fair? No - but simple market economics - lots of YOU few of US. SO, DO WHAT YOU CAN - work out - you KNOW (with VERY FEW exceptions out there) that you can look BETTER than you do NOW - no matter what level you're at currently! I know that I ALWAYS need improvement! I feel like My thighs are always fat, LOL, no matter what I do...!!! I have to be superskinny (which I'm NOT) to make them look "right" to Me! But I love Me anyway, and I'm NOT saying that you shouldn't love yourself no matter what, but again MAXIMIZE what you have! Go to the GYM! I can't emphasize that enough - maximize what you've GOT! Keep your hair nice and your presentation neat and clean. Don't neglect your mind either - read a word a day calendar, WHATEVER! Even if you're not that good-looking - a not-cute guy with no kind of body may be a 4 - if he's all buff and has a really good physique - he can get bumped to maybe a 6.5 or so...and you'll up the level (both mental and physical) of Domme you can attract! It may be sad and it may not be fair - but a really good-looking guy doesn't HAVE to work as hard - just like it is for Us.
And you know its true for you too, boys - if you saw an older Domme with a great figure, even if her face was kind of plain, you know that slides her up in your estimation. So, keep in mind what you're OFFERING US...and MAXIMIZE your potential before you bitch that you can't find a sincere Domme...and maybe try not to be quite so focused on how hot she is, ok? I mean really, I can only keep My breasts from heading toward the floor for so long no matter how much I work out, you see what I'm saying? But I'm not going to be any less skilled, or any less sincere, when I'm 63 and I don't look anything like the magazine girl anymore.
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BEATING the ATM!!
Hey guys, a nice sub guy said the funniest thing: "...well i am sub to the right person.. it just seems there's nothing but financial dommes and pros on these websites.. im not looking for that... its not that im a cheap ass its just i can't serve someone who looks at me as an ATM... theres no fun it it for me.. i'd like to serve or play with a domme who enjoys dominating men and has fun doing it..."
NOW THIS GIVES ME THE funniest mental image - of an ATM in bondage, spitting out $$$, with a ProDomme beating it....NOW NOW - DON'T get offended, REMEMBER I WAS A PRO DOMINA for a few years - I just thought that it was funny and I liked the idea....CAN ANYONE DRAW ME A CARTOON!??
*******Thanks to asyouwish72 who DID draw Me a cartoon! Pretty darn good too! If you want to see it - I'll send you a copy, please feel free to email Me and ask for one!******** |
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GOOD BOYS!!!!.....
Ok, wanted to add a positive one as well...since I've added these journal entries, a few very VERY nice GENTLEMEN subs have written nice letters with a really welcoming feel...so thanks for making Me feel more at home on this site...a special "hello" to Pollux and djgr75....some of the rest could LEARN from you two lovelies! |
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WELCOME to COLLARME...
Ok, I've only been on this site for a couple of days and so far...hmmmm...I've gotten a persistent male dom who does not grasp the concept "Not On Your Life Buddy," a very nice Male Dom/Female Sub couple who are excellent to chat with, and a host of funny subs (one asked Me to re-write his profile FOR him when I told him very nicely that his profile was bland)...and only a couple of nice ones.
An amazing number of responses are one line/word and very clearly demonstrate that they did not read My profile thoroughly (or, at all). So far, I have to say, the quantity of response is fine - but its the quality that I question.
I am enjoying the dialogues with other Doms/Dommes...who knew? |
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| Age: 32 |
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Georgia |
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