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Please pay attention - the bolded text is very important. It doesn't matter how much you like my profile, how pretty you might tell me you think my pictures are nor how well our kinks align. Before we meet, during the vetting process, I'm very much going to judge you based on how well you meet my needs, and if you don't meet them very well, I don't see the point in corresponding, not even to be polite.
*Not looking for a long distance relationship.*
This may be rather closed-minded of me - but to me, if you live far away, it's not a relationship, it's a wish that'll never come true. I must have local. I need appropriate amounts of attention and face time and hope you do too.
*Not looking for married/attached men*
If you write to me and don't specify your relationship status, I'll ask you. If you're married or engaged or have a girlfriend and you're hiding, I won't respond or engage you any more after this comes to light. If you cannot openly date me, you aren't right for me. Please don't waste your time or mine. I understand that not every marriage is a good one, and I don't judge why you may be looking. But I'm not the other woman type. No matter how well you think you can manage to put someone other than your wife/gf/fiancee first, you can't do it well enough to make such an arrangement worth my while.
As for me - I have dated a bit since I've been single. Most are still friends. For a few, we retain the option for physical intimacy on an as-needed basis. And I do have a serious bf, we live together.
My issue is not with other relationships - but I will not be your secret, nor you, mine. And for the right person and dynamic, monogamy is a viable option.
*Not looking for a Dom*
I'm going the other way, and exploring how the role of dominant female fits in with my true personality. If I change my mind, want to play in the submissive role, etc., I will contact YOU. You can make your interest in me as a sub known, but please understand it's not my main pursuit. You engage me at your own peril of hurt feelings.
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Did you make it through all that? Good. If you're still here, please read on:
I live in the Houston area. Trying to find a romantic sub man or sub couple or girl to play with. Not chasing seriousness aggressively, though. Right now I'm seeking a woman, I want a part-time girlfriend/FWB. I have a boyfriend, he's curious about kink, very open and wants to explore. It doesn't mean he'll be part of my other partners, but he does know I'm on here, and I'm not hiding anything from him. I will keep our interactions as private as you wish, however.
I have mentors and guides - if you are viewed as sketchy in the Houston kink-community, they will tell me.
4/2/2016 - had a submissive/slave male ask what I'd like my dynamic to be like - I answered, and liked it a lot, so I've wordsmithed it to this:
I want a very good, friendly, healthy, have-each-other's backs vanilla relationship in public and as our underlying dynamic.
More earth mother than leather torture queeen.
In private, I want a bath waiting for me when I get home, and help to get into that bath, even though I don't need the help. And bathing me. And drying me when I get out.
I want him to make sure the home runs well - not do all the work himself while I sit around, but keep us both in tune with what needs doing and fixing.
In the bed, I want him to fuck me right - to eat me vigorously and for long enough for it to do some good (men - "I could eat for hours" - hours usually means five minutes). To touch my skin and bite me in the right places. To sit still with a great erection that I can use to get off. To watch me with my toys and help me with them even when his arms are tired from using my great dildos and vibrators.
He needs to make sure I have 7-8 cums for every one of his, or be willing to accommodate me while I take my orgasms from him.
Every so often, I'd like to be topped. If he's not capable, he needs to trust me to find a Dom for myself who either fits in with us, or is just temporary.
He needs to trust me (and I know I need to earn it) to let him have, or make him have, orgasms when he needs them, and teasing when that's better.
I'd love to explore pegging. If he needs fisting or other tortures that I'm not comfortable with, or can't do because of lack of skill, I'd loan him out and find a good person to play with while I watch and keep him safe.
I love ruined orgasms - just discovered this and want to learn.
I want to force him to eat me with hair pulling.
I don't know rope or bondage, but could learn. Tie him up and masturbate next to him, or tie him up with his cock accessible.
For starters...
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During the workday I can only use my cell phone to get onto CS, which is a pain for typing to respond to emails, plus, I'm...working. So please be patient. I'm one of the nice ones, who realizes there's a person at the other end of that email.
Married 20 years, widowed. VERY vanilla marriage. Discovered kink after he died.
Since I've been single, I've had one lover who became my Daddy - long distance, 99% online relationship that ended abruptly. That is the sum of all my kink relationship experience. I'm spending time in the Houston kink-munity at munches and non-play events to see how and where I fit, so I will have some understanding of your proclivities if you communicate with me.
Zaftig/chubby redhead, busty. Round shape with soft, fluffy belly.
Playful, pretty, kindhearted. Educated, articulate, smart, funny, loving. Love touch and kissing. Enjoy girlie lingerie, corsets, ruffles and I just bought my first petticoat.
In vanilla life, I'm a very decisive, responsible, linchpin type at work and at home. I can handle my personal life very well. But of course, as a strong, strong woman who has handled too much for too long - in private I want to be able to trust a partner to give me a safe place to lay it down for a while. I am not an extreme pain lover - we can negotiate and I'll answer any questions you have. Please - no degredation, ever, for either of us. My marriage wasn't a good one and this point, for sure, is non-negotiable. I have been submissive or at least thought I was in the past, but my decisive nature may be more geared toward controlling, rather than being controlled. You are hereby warned that I'm switchy (obviously).
But would like a sensual lover/bf who serves - would like to make him happy, make him smile, take from him the control he needs to give to me, and have him to tell my life story to. I ultimately would find my best friend and lover.
When we have time alone together, would like to lay my head in his lap and have him stroke my hair. And vice versa
Note - not looking to be a sugar mama.
While I'm very, very new to kink, I *am* a 50-something woman, and will need my right partner to go through safety protocols before meeting, and be willing to meet a few times before being sexual together (this includes unclothed photographs). We have to have trust and compatibility. If you make too many demands before meeting, we won't meet. When the right person happens to fall into my lap (or I over his lap, as the case may be), I'll be all in. But we don't get there by behaving in virtual space as if we are attached already. Do the work. Put in the time. Don't try asking for things by email that are basically an audition to be your ho. Please communicate with me in tones and using words that you'd want a stranger to use if approaching your daughter or beloved sister. I find respect and conversation to be turn-ons - this doesn't make me a "brat" - it means I'm real, smart and self-protective. That I have to specify this is dismaying, but the times are what they are and I want my need for respect to be crystal clear. I'm someone you could take to a work social function without embarrassment, not some hooker your ordered off the internet like a Dominos pizza.
I'm soft, and good, and yearning. No mean men. I'm also not happy with someone who is constantly insecure. Needing to know you're my #1 subbie/slave/fuck boy is one thing - being suicidal if you haven't heard from me within seconds after a text is quite another - please know yourself, and your self-worth. I know mine.
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