I am a dom top who is looking for a sub partner.

I am interested in both physically focused play and in emotional connection. I can support purely physical play at first, but I suspect if that is as far as it goes, it will not last.

I require that anyone who submits to me agree to represent and defend their wants and needs. I will honor your boundaries, but I need to know what they are, either in advance or in the moment as you discover them.

I am told that I am good at creating safe spaces for partners to learn and grow. I hope that is true. I certainly work hard to do that.

I favor surprise over brute force, and in a scene, the mental is to the physical as three is to one. I can work with pretend scenarios, and I can bring a sense of intensity to play without pretense.

I have been doing this for longer than I have not, but that does not mean I know everything. Also, every scene and every sub is different it takes time, perception, and communication to establish knowledge and connection.

I value the people I work with. A scene is not something I do to a sub. It is something we create together. I admire submissives and doms both for their courage and openness. This process requires that both of us surrender to the moment. It is not for the faint of heart.

I do require that I not be kept a secret from the partners and spouses of people with whom I play. It is hard to establish much of a connection as someones dirty little secret.