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I am a Dominant man with 38 years experience and during those years I learned, grew and evolved into a Man who believes in and needs a balance of Romance and Kink, a mix of vanilla and BDSM, a Dom who wants and needs a woman that understands the dynamics of an Alpha Male, that enjoys candlelight evenings as much as bondage, one who knows when to be a woman, a lover, a friend, a confidant and a kink mate, one who understands that I do have RULES that must be adhered to at all times but knows she can always speak freely to me about all things. Does such a woman exist anymore???
36 years ago I started on this journey into the BDSM lifestyle and here I am today still in it. There have been joyous moments and sad ones, love has been found and has been lost, tears shed and I have even lost blood defending my subs and this life. I have seen many get dreams crushed, hopes dashed and hearts broken, including me, BUT I DAMN WELL AM HAPPY to be in this life and would not trade the journey for anything on earth!
With God's help, I will continue on for years to come!
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I will no longer consider any sub/slave from Florida for anything beyond a chat friend as I have had nothing but bad experiences with the more concerned with looks, education, bank account and social status ones in this state! |
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FED UP!!!
I am totally FED UP with the constant Bullshit being fed to me like I am a freakin' mushroom! I am not a damn fool and I will not suffer those who wish to treat me and others who are serious about this life as fools and playtoys, like a game to be played on tuesday night family time. You want a toy? Go to Toys R Us! Walmart and KMart have many good Board games you can purchase! You want to see a fool? Go look in the mirror, because looking back at you will be the biggest fool on the sight because sooner or later everyone will realize you have no place in the life and will shun you like you have Leprosy! With that said, If you are serious and wish to chat as a friend or maybe more, I welcome your messages. |
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A Question asked...
A submissive friend asked me the other day why it is that there was a lack of true Doms online, I responded by asking why there was a lack of true submissives and then I said it was not a lack of realness but more a lack of belief, We have become a nation of instant gratification fanatics and disposable products, we have become addicts to using something for a while and then discarding it, a nation of users, abusers, takers and discarders. We no longer BELIEVE anything can last any length of time and that we MUST get as much from something as fast as we can before it becomes useless. That attitude has spilled over into the life we love, Doms and subs alike have lost the belief in long term relationships, the belief in love, the belief in Honor, integrity and respect, The BELIEF in THEMSELVES! Granted, not all have become this way, but far too many have and they, Dom and sub alike, need to stop, look, and realize life is more than instant gratification and that when a relationship lasts for years it has far more pleasure, satisfaction and gratification than a disposable one! I myself was guilty of this attitude and it took a special woman to get me to evaluate MYSELF and get back to being what I am again
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Courtesy
I am sitting here contemplating why common courtesy has become a thing of the past. Could it be we now live in a time of instant gratification? Could it be we now live in a time when it is socially and politically correct to view anyone and anything with skepticism and suspicion? Or could it be we have no manners anymore because we were not Taught better by our Parents, or our Mentors in this lifestyle??? Common Courtesy and respect for this life require one to at least respond to a message sent to us, even if it is to politely say I am not interested. |
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BEING HUMAN and a Dom or sub...
I, like most everyone else have made some bad decisions in life, personal, relationship wise and business but before we are Dom or sub, we are HUMAN, and therefore prone to making mistakes, BUT it seems many in our lifestyle are of the mistaken belief we are infallible and are not allowed to make human mistakes. Forgiveness is somehow not allowed as it shows weakness, making a mistake is believed a serious, unforgivable flaw that is NOT ALLOWED in our lifestyle. This is pure, unadulterated BS! We all have screwed up at some point in life, it is human nature! To borrow a verse from Jesus, "...Ye without sin cast the first stone..." Do not belittle someone for being HUMAN! |
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I am left pondering what it is that people get from playing childish games with the emotions and hearts of others? Does dashing one's dreams, hopes, desires and spirit make one a better person? Does it make you a Man or a Woman? Does it make you a Dom or a Domme? Does it make you a sub or slave? NO it does none of those, it does you no good except to feed your own fanatical ego and inflates only your own sense of self importance. In the end you have not only hurt someone else you are actually hurting yourself.
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It was mentioned to me that Respect was relevant only when it was mutual, I beg to disagree. Whether it is mutual or not Respect is always RELEVANT and a show of Character and Class! I have many times shown respect to people I have chatted with or sent them a message and many times they have not even replied to me but I refuse to be disrespectful and say negative things about or to them. I refuse to be known as one of low character and no class! |
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I wonder why some call themselves a sub/slave or a Dom/Master when they have a grocery list of limits, expectations and the like WAY before they even get to know someone. I agree we all have preferences but DAMN, is no one flexible any longer?
I find this attitude to be amusing!
If one is not strong enough to bend, one is bound to break in a strong wind! |
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The Truest Measure of a good Master is not in how hard he swings the paddle, but in how gently he kisses away the tears afterwards. The reaffirmation of his love to you is vitally important to the health and well being of the sub AND the RELATIONSHIP! |
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Good Dom
Do you know the difference between a Good Dom and a bad one? A Good Dom will inspire his sub to do his bidding, a bad one demends it, A good Dom will not have to hurt his sub badly to correct behavior, a Bad one will beat her raw.
A good Dom inflicts more pain with 3 words, a bad one with a whip, belt, paddle, flogger, cane etc.
A bad Dom only talks or screams, A good one listens with his heart, mind, and eyes as well as his ears!
Oh, those 3 words cut a sub deeper than any knife or whip can ever cut, they are these 3 words... * I AM Disappointed! *
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Is it not strange that so many who are on online BDSM sites take the time to place a good profile but yet cannot find the time and or do not have the respect and/or courtesy to at least reply when written to? I find this to be indicative of those who are not really in the lifestyle but are either curious or downright posers! |
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The Journey
35 years ago I started on this journey into the BDSM lifestyle and here I am today still on it. There have been joyous moments and sad ones, love has been found and has been lost, tears shed and I have even lost blood defending my subs and this life. I have seen many get dreams crushed, hopes dashed and hearts broken, including me, BUT I DAMN WELL AM HAPPY to be in this life and would not trade the journey for anything on earth!
With God's help, I will continue on for years to come! |
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No one, NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON, man or woman can be a Dominant WITHOUT the submission of another! You may have alpha instincts but you are not a Dom until ONE freely submits to you! |
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WISDOM
Many say education is wisdom and while education is a good thing, TRUE wisdom comes from life experiences. I got my degree from the "School of Life and Hard Knocks"
I find that to this very day I continue to learn and add to the wisdom I have amassed.
It is my belief that when one says they know everything about a subject, they are actually saying they are foolish.
One should only stop learning when one has taken their last breath! |
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Am I too old to be relevant any longer? Am I too old to be of use in this listyle I have defended, shed blood over, protected, honored and cherished? Am I so old as to have my experience looked down upon? It seems the real life experience has not the appeal it once had. Could it be because many really do not comprehend the true beauty of our lifestyle? A relationship where love, trust, honesty, openness and RESPECT are the foundation! |
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Nothing destroys a submissive faster and more thoroughly than a Dominant who cannot even control his/her ownself! |
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do you know how to tell a real Dom from a player? A real one recognizes the true stronger one is the submissive and that her bowing down to him is a gift and he is the one who will defend her with his life and protect her honor when she is mistreated and or misspoken to. |
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I am far too old to play time wasting games with someones heart, spirit and mind, we are not promised tomorrow and thus today is all we really have but we must live it with an eye on tomorrow as if it is promised to us.
( I wrote this for someone special ) |
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Why, when I find someone interesting, do that not even wish to chat? Strange way to spend time on a social site, don't you think? |
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Wondering why I have returned to this site |
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| Age: 20 |
| Rio de Janeiro,
Brazil |
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