Most women here ask for a financially secure man who will support them and with that be their slave too.
The problem is that that one who owns the money he is the one who actually in control. All the rest is just a game.
In order to put a man in a real slavery the woman should be in control all the finance.
The article below gives you something to think about:
Managing Your Man And Your Money
From Whap! Magazine Issue 10
By Andrea Pollard
DO YOU REMEMBER all those shopworn gags about spend-crazy housewives and their husbands' overdrawn charge cards? Time was, you couldn't open a magazine without seeing some jokey reference to the American housewife merrily squandering all her husband's hard earned salary on diamonds, furs and chocolate. If only it were ever so!
In reality, it was the penny-wise housewife who kept the American family solvent -- quietly and resourcefully -- through America's depression years, all the way up to our more recent recessionary times. The American housewife may be an icon of the past, but her conservative values remain and have been carried into the workplace by her daughter, the modern American working woman.
There are more women in the professions and the business world than ever before, and a growing number of women now provide the primary source of their family income. Househusbands are becoming visible in every neighborhood -- washing windows and pushing strollers. Accordingly, more and more working women are taking the family's financial reins away from their husbands. Investment by women is on the rise and the rate of consumer debt has leveled off for the first time in years. Most tellingly, sales of personal finance software (like Quicken) and home disciplinary hardware (like the Whap! "Marriage Counselor" Hairbrush) have exploded, and it's women who are doing the buying.
If you haven't done so already, the time for you to take charge of your family's finances is now. As a Whap! reader, chances are that you're already your family's CEO. It's time for you to extend your authority and add the Chief Financial Officer title to your rank. And you don't need an MBA to do it. Just a tight purse and a firm hand.
TAKING HIM TO THE BANK
In a whappy household, you need only one bank account: a checking account, in the name of the family matriarch -- you. If you have a joint checking account with your husband, close it. If your husband has any accounts of his own, strip him of them. Consolidate all your money into your personal checking account.
Your bank's branch manager can advise you on the availability of interest-bearing checking accounts and money markets. When you meet with her, explain that under no circumstances should your husband be allowed co-signing privileges on your account, or any access to your money whatsoever, without your express, written permission. Should he try to gain access to your money on his own, ask her to inform you.
The branch manager of your bank has the power to extend credit, grant loans and give references. Get to know her. Be honest and upfront with her about the control you have decided to take over your family finances. Don't be shy, if she should ask questions about the apparent power dynamic of your marital relationship. Tell her the truth: that your husband, like most men, is too immature and impulsive to be handling money. She will only respect you for your financial smarts and admire you for the authority you have chosen to assume. When you need financing to open that nail salon or to purchase that Mercedes coup you've always wanted, you'll be glad she's your friend.
At a later date, you will want to set up a passbook savings account or Christmas club in your husband's name. Do so only after your husband has proved that he is responsible enough to be trusted with his piggy bank. For now...
IT'S PAYCHECK TIME
Allowing your husband free reign over the money he earns is a potentially disasterous idea, one that often leads families to financial ruin. The gambling, liquor and pornography industries are underwritten by compulsive, impish men who aren't fit to manage the spare change in their pockets. Why take a chance with a substantial portion of your family income?
Call your husband's employer and arrange to have her deposit his paychecks directly into your personal account. You'll probably need to pay a visit to the payroll manager of your husband's company, with your husband in tow, to sign some paperwork. You may well have to give a reason for the transfer. Here again, the truth works best. Your husband can simply explain to his employer that in his house, you are the boss and that you run the household. If she has a husband of her own, she'll certainly understand.
If direct deposit is not an option, consider having your husband sign his check directly over to you on payday. Doing so is more time consuming and riskier than direct deposit (there's always the chance that he will run off, cash his check and get into mischief), but, to some women, this weekly ritual is well worth it for the satisfaction it provides. Few things reinforce your husband's subservient role more succinctly than the act of his paycheck being placed into your open, well-manicured hand.
If your husband has other means of income you should take what legal steps are necessary to assume full financial control of all his resources (bond dividends, inheritance moneys, etc.). Your lawyer can draw up the necessary paperwork for you, and you can bet she'll be happy to do it.
CREDIT CARDS: HIS INVITATION TO IMMORALITY
No phenomenon has contributed more to the delinquency of modern men than the plastic credit card. Allowing a credit card into your man's wallet avails him to a vast underworld of vice and temptation: phone sex, internet computer porn, and call girl liaisons are just a phone call away from the man who has his own credit card. His credit card will admit him to strip clubs and buy him chips at a casino. If it's illicit and immoral, he can get it with a credit card.
Grab a pair of scissors. Cut up your husband's credit cards. He's not going to like it (you've heard of taking candy from a baby?), but one afternoon's temper tantrum is a small price to pay for such a large measure of marital security. And if he insists on making an issue of it, remind him who makes the rules. Then make the sore-bottomed brat chop up his credit cards himself and drop them in the waste can. Be sure to call each issuing bank, to close his charge accounts.
Some men need a credit card for legitimate business purposes. If yours is one of them, allow him just one card. Then arrange for the bills to be sent to you, in your name. Each time a bill arrives, sit down with him to go over each and every charge. Any suspicious or unsubstantiated charges should be met with swift, severe punishment. A swat across his behind for every unauthorized dollar is appropriate, followed by a suspension or revocation of his card.
If you feel you must allow your husband to carry a credit card for emergency purposes, give him one in your name, clipped to a note, instructing merchants to phone you personally to ascertain whether your husband has specific permission to use the card. Be prepared for the phone calls you'll be receiving from saleswomen barely able to contain their laughter at your husband, a man who needs his wife's permission to use the family credit card. Perhaps, after talking to you, they'll decide to do the same to their own husbands.
Best of all, you can be sure your husband will no longer even think of engaging in things like phone sex, if he knows "Gloria's Fetish Hotline" is going to be calling you -- his wife -- to verify the phone sex charge. If he is so bold (or dopey) to try using your card for forbidden purposes, he'll be in for the punishment of his life.
AN ALLOWANCE FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR
If you are a genuine whapster, you've already got your husband trained to do the household chores. It is entirely appropriate to reward his efforts around the house with a small weekly allowance.
We're not talking about enough money to spoil him now, just a token sum, the preponderance of which should be stuffed into his piggy bank and saved up for Valentine's and Mother's Day. Exactly how much allowance money he should get is for you to decide, but it's hard to imagine why any well-behaved, well-disciplined husband would need more than $25 per week in allowance money.
Issue his allowance after you review his chorework for the week. Special projects and very good behavior merit a few more dollars. Sloppy chorework and bad behavior deserve less, or no allowance at all. Revoking his allowance, when appropriate, is an excellent way to punish him. Don't give into him -- no matter how hard he begs and cries for his money. Rather, encourage him to save his money and spend it wisely. Remind him that if he shows he can be responsible with his earnings, you will raise his allowance and reward him with more responsibilities and privileges.
With a little practice and guidance (and some seat-pants encouragement, when necessary), your husband will gain the good judgment to be able to manage a grocery budget and make minor household purchases on his own, freeing you up to work on your golf game and plan that long-deserved trip to the islands with the girls.
