Somebody said I was a "fake" because I didn't want to meet up in his hotel to bind him and beat him. No, that doesn't mean I'm "fake". It means I'm not desperate and that I have common sense.
Guys, I'm totally okay with meeting in person. Just understand that I insist we communicate. Before we meet, you let me know what you're looking for. I let you know if it's something I can provide. We meet in a public place and talk. If you still like me, I'll have you sign something that lists our agreed on activities, so that I have proof of consent. When we play, we'll have safe words in place. I will expect you to be honest and open about your emotional and physical condition.
If this is too complicated for you, or if it kills the fantasy, we can keep it online. Exchanging instant messages and email will allow you to maintain your fantasy. We can talk on the phone without doing too much to change our dynamic. Real life interaction is different.
Real life's not porn. Sometimes, reality doesn't live up to fantasy, and we should always be able to walk away so we can look back without regret. |