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| If you require "discretion" because you are married or partnered and your spouse or partner does not know what you are up to...I am DEFINITELY not your girl. You are not available (despite what you tell yourself). I've heard all the arguments, and they don't fly with me. NOT negotiable.
My most satisfying connections begin in the head, expand to include the physical and, once in a great while grow deeper to include the spiritual. Appeals to my privates will generally illicit a yawn. While there is a greedy little slut residing inside me, I'm really not here for the sex.
The only label that doesn't make me squirm or seem to require a long explanation or qualification is sapiosexual. There is nothing more seductive and intoxicating than a brilliant mind. Absolutely nothing.
I am not a causal person, meaning I don't engage in casual sex or casual play. I'm not brilliant when it comes to casual conversation or casual friendships, either. I am an empath, so I am mindful about the kind of people I spend time with. If any of that requires clarification, feel free to ask!
It is about ENERGY and it is the profound intimacy of a power exchange dynamic that excites me and feeds my soul. I need that. There is no substitute for intimacy.
I am an intelligent, strong and very powerful woman who has an enormous, driving need to serve an even more intelligent, still stronger, more powerful man. I am a slave in need of an exceptional Master.
I seek to surrender, to not be in control, to be his instrument. I want to know I am of real use to Him. Service has many definitions, it is true, but HIS is the only definition that matters to me. I will serve in whatever way he wishes me to, but I will have met my match when I meet the man clever enough to put my talents (such as they are) to use for his purposes. I almost had this once. I tasted what it might have been. Delicious.
I aspire to joyful obedience in the moments when it is most difficult, because that is when it counts most.
I need a man who can be patient as I descend to the place where surrender resides. I learned to be independent and self reliant by necessity, so letting go can be a real struggle until the trust required for surrender is established. I will ultimately offer my complete self to your service, and I will be both loyal and devoted.
I am an ENFJ - an idealist, the teacher, the educating mentor. 3% of the population are ENFJ's. I seem to be most attracted to INFP's. Go figure. Fair warning: I am complex, intense, emotional, and vulnerable. Oh, and I have it on very good authority from a most reliable source that I am also quite needy.
While I am generally an exceptionally optimistic and positive person, there are times I literally ache to venture into darkness. I trust very few to make that trip with me, but when I go, I go all in. Your mental agility and physical intensity, combined with my need to be stripped of my self-protective armor are the ingredients essential for a white hot connection.
I am not looking for my "soul-mate," my "better half" or someone to "complete" me. I am whole as I am. I want a man who sees me, who is undeterred by my attempts to appear tougher than I am, and says to himself with certainty, "I want her on MY team."
I readily admit I am sometimes challenging, frequently ask too many questions and am fearful of trusting someone else to be the boss. Your intelligence is what will get my attention, your creativity will hold me still, your integrity will bind me tightly to your side.
There are parts of me I don't yet fully understand that I am now ready to explore. If you can stay ahead of me, we will likely be compatible. I will gladly show you the way in, but it will be up to you to stay in my head. I know that is a whole lot more work than many want to take on, but I am certain it will appeal to you if you are a man wishes to utterly posses what belongs to Him.
I am NOT a swinger, and I do not do hook-ups or casual sex. I am not much of a casual "player" either. Not because I believe there is anything wrong with those things. I simply do not know how, and I've grown weary of people telling me I just need to "try." It takes a special concoction to trip my trigger.
I continue to follow my path, curious to see where it will lead. If you think we might make compatible traveling companions and want to share some part of the journey, I hope you will let me know.
I'm not nice, I'm just good.
"Though she be but little, she is fierce!" - William Shakespeare (A Midsummer Night's Dream)
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