At a point in my life where I am open to finding a dominant Lady I can worship for the rest of my days, ideally in marriage, but not necessarily. I have made the mistake of not being picky enough in the past, as it takes most every man some time to learn to make decisions without being too unduly influenced by his horniness or loneliness or any other emotional contaminant of his otherwise rational brain. Were I to not find the right match, I have decided I would instead be perfectly willing to settle for the sort of vanilla partnerships that tend to more readily present themselves... such is my resolve to be as true to myself as to my future Partner.

I seek a true Lady who is refined, educated, loving, kind, and cares to practice this lifestyle on an ongoing basis behind closed doors, with a fully vanilla appearance to the outside world. For the right Lady it would feel unnatural for me to NOT be in chastity, as the control of my orgasms should be her rightful place to determine. However I am not looking for poly or cuckolding, as I am not a wimp or a sissy; I am a successful educated professional in my own right, accustomed to occupying a position of authority with ease. I would not be seeking a domme to complete me or to serve the purpose of being some "superior being" "too good for me" to whom I might attach myself as though I were some sort of lowly barnacle on her hull... To operate from such a position of pathological feebleness is pathetic in a way that can only merit pity and disgust.

I seek a life partnership where decisions are made together in a loving mutually supportive way, but where she ultimately tends to have the final say in most things. I say "most" only because I seek not a divine goddess perfect in her every word and deed but instead a human female, incapable of perfection and at times demonstrably wrong. My role is to help keep her on track as much as her role ought to be to keep me on track in all the ways we have mutually agreed upon.

Now don't get the wrong idea; though I realize what I describe may sound largely vanilla in character, I also would not be opposed to being kneed, punched, or kicked in the balls (hard) ten times every morning before being allowed to go to work, having words such as, "Ooh, did that hurt?" or "Stand up and make me proud" or simply "Good boy" whispered in my ear as I struggle to withstand the onslaught. I am also not opposed to other bdsm forms of accepting pain or demonstrating submission, always done with the goal of making Her happy because I choose to make this a priority and not because I would be lost without Her and terrified of being discarded (I'd be heartbroken for a time, but ultimately just fine).

I am open to play with a dominant female only if there is a chance she might be as willing to consider the possibility of a long-term relationship as I am. There is always more I can learn. But I am not interested in being anyone's whipping post or toilet. I am a capable man first and foremost, and willfully submissive to select dominant females who have conducted themselves in such a manner as to naturally engender respect. If you are still reading this and are interested in anything I have written here, I do my best to reply to all messages, so feel free to reach out, if even to say hi. If interested in play or a relationship, please do give me some sense of what exactly you seek as well as your experience in this area. 21-year-olds can be cute but from my distant recollection tend to be woefully inexperienced to engage in what I would consider meaningful play. With that said, I reply to all, though I advise those with limited experience to temper their expectations accordingly. If you are STILL reading this, I do sincerely wish you well in your search.