Just a respectful kinkster who tries to be genuine, honest, and forward about intentions. I am looking for a kinky life partner, but I'm also down for kinky casual relationships.

While I'm not comfortable putting face photos here, I do have a body shot in my photos if you look for it. I'll say that I'm about 5'10" / 175lbs, so kind of on the skinny end of an average body type I guess. I know physical attractiveness is subjective, and how much it matters varies among folks anyway, but I think it's important to mention since I lack more detailed pictures.

I'm also disease and drug free, and not looking to risk changing that. This means I get an STD test before I see any new partner, and I ask them to do the same. This also means I have my covid vaccinations (and booster), and I require that of anyone I'm even around indoors.

I don't treat anyone like they're my sub until we explicitly negotiate a dynamic. Expect me to talk to you like anyone else at first.

Now on to the fun stuff!

My fetish is total power exchange. I don't expect any sort of TPE dynamic to start at 100% right out of the gate; that sort of thing builds over time with trust. However, total power exchange (or at least the goal of achieving it eventually) is something I strongly feel I need in any serious relationship. I would very much like to be Master to someone who would proudly consider herself a slave to the right person. Someone who is both service and obedience-oriented in her submission.

Hearing my slave call me 'Master'; seeing her on her knees in front of me wearing nothing but her collar; watching as she carries out my orders like a good girl - these things give me a sort of primal, instinctive rush I can't quite describe. But it just feels right to me. It feels like the "real" me; the version of myself that I have to lock away behind a door for the sake of vanilla society. I want to be able to be the real me with my partners.

A few points about me as a kinky partner:

* For me, total power exchange doesn't mean some sort of live-in slave who gives up her career for me or something. Quite the opposite. My slave's well-being is very important to me, and that includes her life outside our dynamic, as well as her capability to be independent outside it.

* I'm as much of a hedonist as I am a Master. The behavior I'm looking for on the part of my slaves is obedience, servitude, and deference. I am quite turned off by bratty behavior, and usually consider it a limit with partners. I'm looking for someone who enthusiastically wants to obey and serve; the kind of person who would be devastated to find out she did something wrong for her Master. I've been told I have "benevolent dictator energy", which is fucking hilarious and probably accurate.

* I may be a hedonist looking for a slave, but I'm still a good person. I try to make sure any dynamic I'm a part of is mutually* fulfilling. I don't consider the submission of my slave to be a gift from her, because it's not. She's not enthusiastically participating in this sort of dynamic without getting something out of it herself! Outside of just being a caring person and partner, I can offer structure, decision-making, control, praise, and the like. I think it's important that any partner I have, slave or not, has her needs fulfilled.

* I'm looking for someone who enjoys providing service. I'm a grown man with my shit together, so I don't really have a need for that; but it's something I'd like anyway. This expectation doesn't really apply to casual relationships though; it's more something I'd like with potential life partners.

* I strongly prefer the titles "Master" and "slave". I haven't quite been able to put my finger on why, but other titles like "Sir" or "kitten" really just don't do it for me.

* As previously mentioned, I don't expect to go from 0 to 100 on the first day. I'm a gamer at heart, so I view the dynamic as something that "levels up". As time goes by, trust is built, lives become intertwined, and the partners get closer, their M/s dynamic levels up. With negotiation, of course.

Some other things about me that matter:

* I'm a nerd, and some of those stereotypes apply to me. Some don't.

* I'm financially stable and a homeowner. I can confidently say I have my shit together.

* I know what I'm looking for, and I'm both comfortable and happy being on my own in the meantime.

* I don't do dick pics or nudes, even when they're wanted. Just not my thing.

* I'm firmly childfree. What this means for me is that I will never have children, or play the role of a parent in any way.

* I understand the importance of ined and and enthusiastic consent.

* I place very little value on tradition for its own sake. That's not to say I'll reject something just because it is "traditional", but I don't assign it any extra value because it's "traditional" either.

* My love language is 100% touch. With partners from casual to serious, physical affection is always plentiful with me.

* I don't smoke at all, and I find it more than a little bit of a turn off. I also have absolutely no interest in any drugs, but I don't consider it a dealbreaker or judge people for it as long as they go about it responsibly.

* I pay attention to politics, and I'm pretty damn liberal. Maybe this goes without saying for someone who lives in the Madison area, lol.

== Results from bdsmtest.org (Updated 8/14/2021) ==
100% Master
98% Dominant
85% Non-monogamist
74% Rigger
62% Sadist
54% Brat tamer
50% Owner
48% Degrader
42% Vanilla
37% Experimentalist
33% Primal (Hunter)
19% Switch
17% Exhibitionist
16% Voyeur
7% Daddy/Mommy
0% Ageplayer