6/24/2017 11:49:15 AM: When you ask for attention, I’m going to evaluate you.  If you’re looking for an experience, I’m not the one for you.  I’m entirely too selfish to care about what you want.  I don’t want a play toy.  I’ve discarded more of those than I can remember…. Literally.  If your personality drives you to be selfless, to do whatever it takes to make me smile.  I might want you.  If you are someone who can be my knight, arm yourself with a scrub brush and pine sol to protect me from dust bunnies and dirt… I may call you my hero.  If you live for turning me on without needing reciprocation… you may just get me.  Some men on here think they understand what a Domme is or what means being in a FLR.  They imagine a leather clad Dominatrix with a crop leading them through humiliating or painful experiences.  I own a crop and plenty of paddles.  I use them because sometimes causing pain turns me on.  It has nothing to do with you.  Now if experiencing pain turns you on and makes you feel very devoted… then you might do well with someone like me.   I lead a busy life.  I get caught up with my career, my family and friends.  Which is why my free time is precious.  I’ll only make time if I think you’re worth the effort.  And by that, if I think that somehow you’ll make me happy.   If I’ve described the person you think you are… then feel free to message me.  I don’t promise to respond… but I just might.

5/31/2016 7:40:08 PM: I haven't written in a while.  Mostly because I've been busy, but also because my vanilla life has been pretty fulfilling.  But now I'm feeling that old feeling again.   The thought of finding someone who can fit comfortably into my life.  A journey though life is always better shared with someone who 'gets' you. 

4/26/2015 1:18:27 PM: I watched the Bruce Jenner interview with great interest.  It explained a lot to me regarding many in our community who cling to the role of “sissy”, of those who want to be forced to wear panties and hose and of those who want to be “taken” by a strap on.  I have always attracted those who are strong on the outside but who want to be the woman behind closed doors.   If the greatest athlete in the world hid his femininity for decades… how many others are there?  How many find refuge in the shadows of our lifestyle?  I hope that they find acceptance here and some measure of peace.

12/30/2014 9:11:47 PM: Being a Domme comes with perks.  The best being that we can be ourselves completely.  This is especially true within the D/s community.  A Domme has choices.  I can’t think of anyone else who can pick and choose more than she does.  For some strange reason, there are not many Dominant women in the lifestyle.  If you cut out the professional Pseudo Dommes, we are indeed a rare group of creatures who have the ability to create the relationship we want. A true Domme is at home in her own skin.  She knows herself, acknowledges her strengths and weaknesses.  Where others may always try to show themselves in a favorable light to lure someone, a Domme lets her expectations be known, knowing there is a plethora of subs wanting to meet those expectations. A Domme is not ashamed of being a sexual being.  Sex and pleasure are important to her.  She isn’t bashful about what turns her on.  A man never has to guess about what pleases her.  Once she chooses her sub, she tells him right off what makes her pussy wet.  Sexual fantasies are easy to make reality and she has indulged all the legal ones…. Maybe some of the shady ones… over and over again. When searching for a relationship, a wise Domme looks for a sub who doesn’t have to be forced.  There are thousands of submissive men available.  Find one who gets pleasure from pleasing.  A sub who requires a constant diet of being forced or humiliated becomes boring quickly. A Domme teaches.  The most important aspect a sub should cultivate is a willingness to be taught.  This goes from how he brings her pleasure to the more mundane vanilla aspects of their relationship.  It’s not important for a sub to have mad skills as long as he works hard in learning what she teaches. A Domme rewards… A sub needs to feel appreciated for his effort.  Let him know when he has done well.  If he does especially well, an imaginative way to make him orgasm makes a great reward. A Domme is rewarded for her selfishness and her willingness to go after her desires.  What she gets out of the lifestyle is only limited by her imagination and ambition.   'Its GOOD to be a Domme!!!.... No, I take that back...  It is fricken AMAZING to be a Domme!!!!!

12/8/2014 8:59:37 PM: I'm always amused when a sub/slave says unequivocally in their profile... NO FINANACIAL DOMMES.... then proceeds to give a laundry list of what they want a Domme to do to them.  I read one this week that said that he wanted to experience a strap-on. But he doesn't want a relationship.  He wants a one-off experience.... All I can say to that is stop being stupid and cheap... Go pay someone to put up with you. Come on guys.... what Domme worth the title is interested in what a sub or slave wants?  Its up to you to become what we want.