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First off, a few things of note

Im a bbw. If thats not your thing, I wish you the best of luck in your search, but I will not be a good match for you.

I am not a kink dispenser. I do not take online slaves. I will not be your JOI, your cyber buddy, etc. Likewise, I do not scene with people who are not in a relationship with me. If you are on my profile looking for sexual gratification, move on.

If you want to talk to me, send me a message. I seldom message anyone, unless theyve reached out to me first.

About Me

Ive been in the lifestyle, on and off, for over 15 years now. Ive tried nearly every kink that Ive had any interest in. That being said, I am not looking for one-offs. What I am looking for is an intellectual and emotional connection someone that I can build a long-term TPE relationship with. Basically, I want someone who can be as much a part of my vanilla life as they are a part of my Ds one.

I am dominant, educated, creative and an INTP. I write, I game (World of Warcraft), I garden, I blog, I cook. I like scifi and fantasy. Im nerdy, carefree, introverted and eccentric. I tend to favor a laid-back, bohemian-type vibe. Straight-faced seriousness is fine for work, but when were together I want to smile and laugh.

Also, Im very touchy-feely. I love soft eroticism kissing, caressing, playing in the dark. The light in me wants to just lay in bed and giggle and play, curl my toes and scream Again! But I am also very sadistic. The darkness in me wants to see you cry and bleed.

I love smart, nerdy, open-minded, well-mannered men. I also have a strong preference for introverts. Being a little socially awkward is hot. And being submissive is sexy as fuck. I also value loyalty, honesty, and vulnerability.

Ive had plenty of relationships where I didnt have an emotional or intellectual connection to the person I was with. That is NOT what Im looking for now. I want the all-consuming infatuation of new love. I want a slave who adores and dotes on me. I want romance and flowers. Someone who loves hard and likes a lot of attention in return. I want amazing chemistry.

Im married. My husband is fantastic open-minded, naturally submissive and extremely tolerant of my eccentricities. Hes a bit of a computer geek, gamer, plays guitar, and likes anime. He has no problem with me adding another partner to our relationship. My ultimate goal is to add a third into our family basically a polyandry type dynamic.

I have no tolerance for brattiness, arrogance, poor manners, or men who want to top from the bottom. Also, if you think that Dommes live in corsets and thigh-highs, you are living in a fantasy world. I prefer my clothing comfortable and functional. Think sneakers and t-shirts.

Lastly, when I take a slave, I expect for them to contribute to my life in a positive way. Before contacting me, ask yourself if you could make my life more meaningful.

And, if you want to get my attention, treat me like a human. I am a stranger that youre trying to impress. Remember that the care you put into communication is a reflection of the care you would put into your service.

Things Im Looking For In A Slave

A Service Slave At your core you must be service-driven. This does not mean me servicing your cock. It means that you derive pleasure from preing tasks that make your owners life easier, no matter how menial, tedious, or mundane they are.

A Polyandry-Type Dynamic I know that I mentioned this above, but it bears repeating. Im not looking for someone who wants to sleep around. I want someone who wants a serious, committed relationship and wants to be valued both as a husband and as a slave.

Kindness This is perhaps the most important thing to me nowadays. I want someone who is kind, gentle and loving.

Intellect Your mind will turn me on more than your body every will. You dont need to be brilliant, but you do need to be able to stimulate me with your mind.

Shared Interests Most of my time is spent on these 4 activities cooking, writing, gaming, gardening. If youre passionate about one of those, then well have something in common.

Useful Skills There are many useful skills out there, but here are a few things that would be useful to me, specifically.
Physical House cleaning, landscapingyard workgardening.
Technical CSS, SEO, epub, wordpress.
Artistic Writing, photography (especially food photography).
Intellectual Editing, holistic medicine, conventional medicine.

Introvert My husband and I are both introverts. We dont do parties, bar hopping, get-togethers, etc. We pretty much keep to ourselves. Another introvert, whos looking for connection and family would be happiest with us.

Financial Stability You dont have to be rich, but I will expect you to work outside the home and contribute to the household. Im not a free ride.

Emotional Stability If you have any mental health issues that might effect your emotional stability be sure to let me know, so that we can discuss it and see if its something that we could manage in the context of a relationship.

Things I Wont Tolerate

Already Married Im looking for someone who will eventually be a live-in and be part of the family. If youre already married, this precludes you. The only scenario in which I might consider someone already married is if they are a subsub couple, that come together as a package deal.

Anger Issues I live a happy, peaceful life. My husband and I never fight and never raise our voices at each other. If you are argumentative, prone to raising your voice, have temper tantrums, throw things, etc, you are not for me.

Bigotry If you have a prejudice towards any group of people, whether it be racial, ethnic, gender, etc, Im not interested in cultivating any sort of relationship with you. I want someone who is filled with love and tolerance, not someone hateful and close-minded.

Smoking I cant stand the smell. Smoking is a danger to you and to those around you. Hard pass.

Drinking I seldom drink, and my husband never drinks. If you drink more than once a month, its probably too much for me to be comfortable with.

Drugs Im not interested in someone who does drugs recreationally. Im 420 friendly IF, and only if, it is for medicinal issues.

Communicable Diseases Im not only responsible for my own health, but also for the health of my husband. If you have something contagious, Im terribly sorry, but Im just not willing to risk it.

Results from bdsmtest.org
100 Dominant
100 Sadist
100 MasterMistress
98 Owner
87 Voyeur
64 Exhibitionist
62 Primal (Hunter)
49 Experimentalist
47 Ageplayer
46 Degrader
43 DaddyMommy
37 Non-monogamist
28 BoyGirl
23 Rigger
1 Primal (Prey)
1 Vanilla
0 Rope bunny
0 Slave
0 Degradee
0 Brat
0 Submissive
0 Masochist
0 Pet
0 Switch