3/25/2018 8:28:32 PM: Thought I'd add some thoughts that broach  the breadth of what this life can cover. it's a complicated process getting someone's attention and then digging deeper to see the connection and if it fits. Honesty is the best policy - especially in this lifestyle. That said what seems to be useful is getting to know the Dom/Master who expresses interest in you. Any good relationship takes time. And lifestyle D/s M/s is definitely a relationship when it is a 24/7 real life permanent thing. Personally, once we are past getting your attention there's a lot of 'normal' stuff that gets discussed (or should be). The first email or conversation may touch on the idea of owning, collaring or relocating or even a 'poly' home and lifestyle. But one hopes there is an exchange of names and a mature, real conversation early on. If you're going to be with someone.. talk about food, background, cooking, gardening, art, music, books, etc. - after all it is life and living together. I am looking for a kind and caring girl who is also obedient, caring, sweet, lovable, funny, perverted, sexually giving and fun to be with. That said, there's a long list of bdsm things you should know about and be aware of. You're linking up to another person and there's fetishes and other kink that is a viable part of the life too. So don't panic when you see a list. It's not a bad way to get your attention. Just remember there's more to it and I realize there is. give it some slack and openess and who knows...you may find something kinda kewl. if you're looking for an honest Master to can share your life with and ready for long term relationship - here I am - I am artistic and creative - want to have adventures, with you including dancing, dressing you up - sexy, classy and /or vintage attire, curling up with a good book or a good movie with you, cooking with friends, listening to and creating good music - jazz to blues - to rock - to old school .. I have broad tastes - traveling, wine and tequila tastings, playing in the park, the opera, theater, going on nature walks. I am a down to earth person that has human feelings and believes the world should be a good place.. That said, I do have my BDSM side. I get asked my experience on this. here goes: I use hypnosis to train - High on the list is TPE, leather toys for whippings, ring and other gags, pain (to our tolerance), caging, dildos and buttplugs, dilation, predicament bondage, leashes, posture collars, suspension, breast torture, humiliation, degradation and open expansion of your limits, cock worship, body modification, pussy and anal stretching, squirt as your throat is fucked, lactation a plus, hypnosis in and out of training, MAYBEgang bangs, needles Piercings,Hoods, latex, body suit LESS LIKELY - pony girl NEVER:  NO hospitals, broken bones, death, permanent damage, scat (has bacteria - not healthy) Now before you freak out, remember I've been at this over 20 years and I've done a lot. Also to expand on the ever popular 'what I do and don't do' list. - here goes: Am into: pet play- bondage - rough sex - rape play.  Brainwashing - flogging - shock collars for training - forced milking  role play- pregnancy risk - flogged into submission - Air suspension and whipped , Ass plugs and deep dildo penetration , Cages, cells , Being kept nude for days, being told what to wear , Being on display naked or not,wrists and elbows tied behind my back, arms pulled together so shoulders are straining, leaving mouth, breasts and throat exposed- gags.  Collars - tattoos branding - D/s 24/7 - Power exchange, total power exchange - Risk-aware (accepted) consensual kink - Consensual non-consent - Rape role-playing - Impregnation role-playing - Lactation - Abduction role-playing - Protocols and high protocols - Elegance and refinement - Uniforms - Costumes, dressing-up and cosplay - Bondage - Discipline - Obedience training - Chastity - Orgasm control - Orgasm denial - Edge-play/edging  - Breath play - Teasing - Biting - Hair play - Hair pulling - Scratching - Marking - Role-playing in general - Obsession - Possession - Seduction  - Dancing - Sensual dancing - Sensual play - Sensual domination - Mental domination - Intellectual domination - Emotional domination - Intelligence - Humour - Sarcasm Maybe: gang bangs, swinging, Don't do: death, permanent damage, diseases, scat, vomit, guns, bows and arrows,etc.  

7/10/2017 11:53:59 PM: I've received a couple  of thought provoking comments related to I'm not a slave I'm a sub.  It made me start to think about the sub/slave/switch differences.   I find that subs express their differentiators in the matter of limits. They are not slave because they have limits. Sometimes I've expressed it as being a Dom with the limit being the triggering threshold for the sub to turn Dom and then dominate what happens. If Dom in any aspect does that not mean that the lowest common denominator is Dom not submissive. If sub vs. slave is the matter of limits  - then it really becomes the matter of serving a Master/Dom who has the preferences that match your limits.  For example, i prefer not to have scat in my repertoire.  A sub would have that as a limit.  If there's the same preferences as the limits for the 'sub' is she then not slave to that Master who matches her?A Switch is a different thing.  Sometimes Dom sometimes sub/slave. No threshold and no strict definition of role.   In the end it becomes the relationship you choose to enter and be bound to. If the definition is even slightly vague, being open to the relationship possibilities no matter what the identification, is critical.  Stay open and you may find that the universe has more in store for you than your labels and expectations.

7/5/2017 5:54:49 PM: I just read this on  a profile here ...' if you know you can't own me don't text me,      am not here to play games'Well..- starting off the supposed sub is directing the dom - and not like there's even been a hint of interaction.  You know  -  It's not a matter of 'Can't'  = 'it's really a matter of Do I Want to?' Second, Play games? hell get a grip.  Likely this is coming from one the biggest game players around.  It surely makes me think this is a money grubbing faker. But that's just my opinion. Yours may be a helluvalot worse than that. 

7/4/2017 5:07:26 AM: The phrase of one door closing  another opening - maybe true but they never talk about the vacuum before the door opens again. Maybe the vacuum explains why it sucks. Wasting time - I guess there's always the potential for that.  Sometimes it's the first conversation with long pauses and lack of attention.  Sometimes it might be years of constant interaction and then a sudden change of heart.  And you wonder why I  spend so long finding a right fit? 

6/30/2017 9:39:42 AM: rant?  this is a world where everyone - well almost everyone - has a phone with a camera. It is not acceptable to be telling someone that getting a picture is impossible.  If you have KIK or G+ - you are carrying a smart phone. If you have a smartphone - you have a camera. If your camera is broken- you have friends and neighbors with a camera. Not having access to one isn't an acceptable answer. If you aren't going to get on a live feed or do a proof of life early in conversations. why are you wasting your time?   It's just going to be a no go at some point.  Just say you can't provide proof of who you are - I'll think scammer - and on we go on separate paths. So in a chat, it was pointed out that this person didn't have  a new phone. So - read this better - someone you know does.