bove all else I cherish My submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives Me is the greatest of all. She is My servant who is secure in her life. She is a lady comfortable in her own skin. She is thinking a woman in her own right. Not a mindless slave. With a sense of humor. A best friend, lover, personal servant, sexual slave, and more. Being able to establish a permanent, long term relationship with such a woman has been an incredible Blessing.
Being active in the Lifestyle for many years, I thought I knew it all. Well, I was wrong. In many ways, we remain an underground society which I believed meant the need to remain totally private. I realize that there are good and bad people in all lifestyles. I had the honor and pleasure to meet and break bread with another Master of high intelligence and great integrity. I really appreciated his profound insight and wisdom. While it left Me with many questions, I know it will allow me to be a better leader. I encourage everyone who walks around with the know it all mindset to challenge themselves and reach out to other Men of the Lifestyle.
I am interested in knowing about worthwhile events and building friendships at this time. If you happen to know of any events, dont hesitate to message me. I also always appreciate the wisdom of other Masters so, meeting other Masters is always welcome.
Whether a Dominants experience is two days or twenty years in the lifestyle is irrelevant. At the end of the day, a Ds relationship is still just that a relationship, albeit a deeper, more connected and infinitely more intimate one than found in the vanilla world. Acknowledging responsibility while creating and adhering to structure is an effective way to competently manage. Its a worthy goal for any Dominant.
I am demanding and take full advantage of the power given to Me, but I also know how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.
I am in control of myself first and foremost, so that I may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, I can cause My sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, I will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.
In times of trouble, I am a supportive leader, friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. I am quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. I would never ask My submissive to put me before her career, or family, just to satisfy My own pleasure.
To win my submissives mind, body and soul, I first had to win her trust. I have my submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. I have also shown her that my guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that I am a Master she can learn from, and trust my direction.
I am romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, I will fight for my ladies honor. I continue to prove to her that I am someone she can lean on, and depend on.
I am old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect my woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, I also know there is no inferiority in those differences.
When it comes time to teach my submissive her lessons of obedience, I am a strong and unyielding professor. I will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from my student. Never do I use discipline without good reason. When I do, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. RESPECT Is paramount.
I am careful guide, with safety always my main concern. I know how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. I am a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.
I am always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. I am patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of Me grows, so will they.
I will never have to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to me out the want of pleasing me respect. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. I understand the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to Me.
I am secure enough to laugh at myself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. My tools are my mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. I understand that we gain most from pleasuring the other. And both of us know that love is the only binding that truly holds.
