Collarspace

Im a well-educated, well-adjusted, sane, professional white male. Ive also been captivated by BDSM my entire adult life. After pretending to myself that I could be a switch, Ive finally and happily accepted that I am and always have been naturally submissive and a masochist.

I long to be in a loving, caring relationship with an intelligent woman who similarly longs to be worshiped by, and to rule over, her man. My vision of an ideal relationship is one in which I long to please such a glorious woman in both small ways and large. My service to her would not be servile or lead her to despise me, but would spring from my true devotion to her and a desire to make her happy and her life easier - and she would in fact be very happy and satisfied with me as a partner and her submissive. I would serve her out of love - and a healthy but real dose offear. I envision it as something akin to a relationship between a Knight who is strong in most relationships, but who serves loyally and well a Queen who loves, respects, and cares for him, but who also loves to rule over him and to discipline him, sometimes simply for her enjoyment, and sometimesfor his benefit. Although they enjoy a very active, loving, and sane vanilla life together as well, neither of them ever forget that she is the boss.

Ive learned from experience that Im not easily controlled for long unless she simply has the strength and will to make clear to me that I simply must obey. I never act out as a way to manipulate her to punish me - that would be disrespectful and not at all submissive - but I know that if I dont fear her ironclad will to punish me if necessary, I will struggle and ultimately give in to temptation to do things that dont please her and arent good for me. I do crave some pain and to have my limits pushed and to do and accept whatever pleases her, but I also know that a woman who proves shes not afraid to discipline and punish me, if necessary, outside of play - in ways that arent fun - will earn my full respect and deep devotion.

If this sounds like the type of relationship that interests you, please send me a message. I havent bee checking messages often, but plan to do so frequently for at least the next few weeks. (09262017)