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Jewelcrafter
| Hetero Male, 32, Chicago, Illinois
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Good day/evening ladies. I hope you find my profile interesting or at the very least informative. I came to this site some time ago and spent much of my time on the forums learning as much as I could and exploring myself. Since then I left CollarSpace when it was still CollarMe and now return with greater knowledge and understanding of who I am and what I want.
I always knew I wanted kink in some form as part of my life, and while I learned that is vastly true, just a dash of kink in a vanilla relationship isn’t enough. While I can be soft and gentle and enjoy being so, I am more aroused by being rough and dominating. Pinning my lover’s arms behind her back, holding a fistful of her hair in my hand as I kiss her, and wedging my knee between her legs to hold her up as her knees give way can turn my entire mood around. That is just one example. I also like to simply cuddle on the couch and watch television, a movie, or play video games. I enjoy reading science fiction and fantasy books, comics, and manga. I am a fan of anime (not so much of the newer stuff. I find that there is just too much ecchi and fan service and tends to take away from the show). I used to be an avid player of table top gaming and would like to find more time to do that. I used to play WoW, but between lack of time and the changes that were being and have been made, I don’t play it anymore and don’t have a strong desire to go back. I tend to be quiet and laid back. Some people have referred to me as the silent giant and I try to follow through my words with actions. My word is not something given lightly and I don’t make promises I know I can’t keep. I try my best in everything I do and when it gets down to it, that is what I am looking for in a partner; someone that tries her best.
Now for what everyone is here for. This is a fetish site, so let’s talk about my fetishes. BDSM means different things to different people and it has a different meaning for me. Firstly, to me BDSM is a catchall term of two different things; kink and D/s lifestyle.
KINK
Bondage (B) and sado/masochism (SM) is easiest to explain as the sexual side of the term. It is the kinky turn on like bondage, gags, spankings, breast play and the like. Sexual gratification for lack of a better term I suppose. My top 3 kinks are physical domination, spanking, and hair pulling. Physical domination is just that, physically overpowering and dominating my partner, as I mentioned before. It could be as simple as horseplay, as subtle as teasing, or straight up wrestling to the ground and pinning. I am a big fan of spankings and butts in general. That is something you should be into if you have an interest in me. Hair pulling is a newer discovery for me, as well as biting. Those I’m still exploring a bit, but hair pulling is something I find I really enjoy.
D/s LIFESTYLE
Dominance/submission (D/s) is the actual lifestyle arrangement, the everyday power structure and expectation of the relationship. An easy way to describe this is who has what power and authority, how much and when. What I like about BDSM is it encourages the discussion of this structure instead of just falling into it and seeing how it works, then reworking and reworking and reworking. It helps limit anger and resentment as a couple grows together. However each involved must know what they want and have an idea of how that will work or their relationship will weaken and fall apart. The Dom must be willing and able to take on the role of leader and protector and take control while the submissive must be willing and able to give up control and follow. If either is unwilling or unable to do so, it will not work.
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4/12/2023 7:10:26 AM: So sent messages that get returned with a site error staring it didnt send still go through. Wish I knew that before I tried resending my message.
7/17/2015 9:41:53 AM: I wanted to personalize the interest and experience list to better describe my own personal position and hopefully avoid any confusion. Below I'll list what the experience labels mean when applied to me.
Hard Limit! - This is something I will not do. Ever. I have probably never tried it, but also have no intention to ever try it. It either scares me, disgusts me, offends me, or I simply detest it. It's not up for debate.
Hate It - I might have tried this, I might not have. It doesn't turn me on and I just don't like it. It probably doesn't scare me, I just don't like it and have no plans to explore it any further than I may already have, if I have.
Dislike It - This is a bit two sided. On one side this is something that I have likely had an interest in and discovered I really didn't care for it. On the other, it is something that I haven't had an interest in but MIGHT be willing to try. This is something that I might be willing to do every now and again.
Curious - I have an interest in this but either have little experience in it or have yet to try.
Tolerate It - Similar to Dislike, but it is something I have done or had interest in that I found I don't care for but am willing to do on occasion.
Like It - This is something I have an interest in, but have yet to experience or have only a little experience in.
Love It - I have done it and I know I like it and enjoy it. I want to do it again.
Live For It! - I have done it, I enjoy it, and I want to do it lots more. This I want as part of normal activity.
Expert - I know what I am doing, I do this a lot and want to continue doing this a lot and learn more about it to improve myself on it.
Average - I have done this and researched this. I have some practice and am comfortable doing this.
Beginner - I have tried this on a few occasions or done research on the activity. And research doesn't mean reading or watching porn. It means reading up on how to do it and do it right. What is involved in it. My knowledge, however, may be limited.
7/14/2015 8:29:03 PM: I updated my profile and spent some time cleaning up my interests list. I looked at it and saw how cluttered it was and decided to clean it up. For everything but the BDSM sections I changed it to either Like It or No Opinion with no experience level. Because seriously, either I like it or I don't and I really trimmed it down to things I do on a more normal basis. The BDSM lists got a major trim because I am going to go over that more thoroughly. I just left a few things and changed everything to either Like It or No Opinion for now. I'll add a new journal with more details about the the interest and experience levels me to me so you have a better idea of what I mean and don't get too much of a surprise when you see something.
10/30/2013 8:01:03 PM: Well, this was interesting. At home minding my own business when my phone dings letting me know I have a text. Lo and behold it is from another dating app (I won't use the name, but it was one of those popular legit apps). Apparently I had caught some lovely lady's attention and seeing as how I hadn't used the app in awhile I was surprised. I sent a message and we exchanged a few quick messages before she gave me her number to text her. I say okay, let's see. She's just looking for friends anyway and nothing serious or a quick fuck.
Well, after about 15 minutes or so of talking she mentions that she doesn't like the dating app she found me on much. (It is free, but advertises premium memberships for better search results and whatnot) She sends me the link and I haven't heard of it before. I follow it to find its to one of those quick hook up scam sites. I'm just like, ah, I see where this is going. Before I can even finish typing my message she responds with her phone battery is dying and to add her if I join that site. I'm like, sure no problem.
Yeah right. Phones come with chargers. Plug it up. I go back to the app where she found me and no surprise, her profile is gone. Create an anonymous email and make a false profile for this scam site just to see if she does have a profile there (curiosity, what can I say?) and she is nowhere to be found. Wow, can't even follow up with the scam. After checking the registration page more closely after logging out, I discover it does not have an option for girls seeking guys. Just girls seeking girls or girls seeking girls and guys. So apparently there are no straight girls on that site, only lesbians and bi girls.
Since they start you off with a free account that doesn't let you reply to any messages without buying a membership, I thought about just filling out the profile to send real girls looking for me at more legit sites, but decided against it. Probably few legit girls on there if any. It would just direct spam to my inboxes anyway. Ah well.
Anyway, have a happy Halloween.
2/23/2013 10:43:24 AM: I've been reducing my pop intake to next to nothing. When I stop at a Burger King or McDonald's, which I am also trying to cut back on, I order a water instead of a pop. I usually order a medium meal and ask for water in the cup instead of pop. That is what I say. Water in the cup instead of pop. They still try giving me bottles of water. I'm paying for a 32 oz drink. Why do they insist on stiffing me with an 18 oz bottle? And when I try to explain it, they just look at me like I'm crazy and a few have actually told me they are not sure if they can do that. Seriously? There is a water button on the machine. Use it.
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