Cute animated amoji creatures saying "Welcome Back" at the login screen, as I'm sure others have noticed.

Since I've joined with others in trying to politely point out bugs and issues with the system in the past, it's only fair to mention this, small as it is, put a little smile on my face, so thumbs up for this one, admins :-)

Sadly there are those (let's call this hypothetical collection of CS profiles, 'demographic X'), who will judge you, and make all sorts of bigoted assumptions about you, and twist your words beyond any recognition and to such extremes that it would make a pretzel blush, all based, largely, on your demographics.

Fun keywords to try typing into Craiyon website for AI generated.. I was going to upload to profile just for fun but sadly there is less and less that one is allowed to include there, it seems, even though AI is not a copyright-owning person.

I've been G rated in my efforts in the past but just tried:

kinky spanking party

Got some amusing, low resolution but cute, rooms of  what looks like bodies in lingerie..Not bad. I suspect something v explicit like words for sex acts like f*cking would be disallowed but this three word prompt worked. Let's see if 

kinky party spanking

gets something very different.Hmm not bad. Try posting your own if there's a way to post here on CS

You can add terms like "illustration", "photorealistic", "high definition" in Craiyon. Well Erotic Spanking High Resolution is more comical like the other fails of this rather small AI model.. Try Illustration instead of High Definition

Higher Res text to image AI models, which I haven't tried are Midjourney, and Stable Diffusion (just found article online called Top Image Generators to Try Apart from DALL-E and Midjourney that lists others I haven't even heart of)

These are much higher resolution than the sort of toy model that is at the Craiyon website, which is DALL-E Mini as opposed to the full DALL-E, or these other fancy ones that need registration I think most of them do at least

By 2030, watch out, maybe indistinguishable from Adult Film pics or vids. Strange but interesting times ahead

While I've got an idea or two, anyone care to suggest the meaning of " G-spot Service" in preferences? First I read a Journal by a (sub,iirc)woman expressing her frustration that CollarSpace literally removed two of her old prefs (one preferrence, one anti-pref) and replaced them with two new phrases, one of which was G-spot...(can't recall the other).

Now randomly found a profile listing it in dislikes.

My own theory ;) is that: "G-spot service" refers to Machine Learning, or an AI, which finds a spare Spot at the parking *Garage*, finds that Garage-spot for you automatically, and automatically parks your car.

Thus those who think it has to do with the female anatomy, and that P-Spot service for the male prostate is the analog, are WRONG..."P-Spot service" means the same thing, only phrased differently: The AI finds you a "P" or "Parking" spot.

If you haven't figured out this is very dry humor, yes, I *am* kidding! 

Usually a bad idea to "get into a pissing contest with that skunk" of any type

Let alone one which has already demonstrated in public..

Hateful prejudice, bigotry, stereotyping

and hypocrisy.

Not a suggestion to anyone in particular. Well, mostly not.. 

We each have a journey during our short stay on this little planet, not an easy one, but can be worthwhile. The serenity to ignore ills one can't do much about, courage to address the ones we can, wisdom to try to decide which is which.

Ok folks, most of us have noticed it, some have complained or tried to get Collarspace to change it, but some words or part

of words are deleted from messages and from journal posts so here's a start for a list.. please post a journal entry to add

other examples I've not included, of W O R D S that aren't allowed:

Example 1:

A S P

is not allowed as 3 consecutive characters in any word and wouldn't show up above if spaces were not put in.

so people write about

r A S P b e r r i e s

 or write about

t e A S P o o n s

and it shows up as rberries or teoons

Example 2:

f o r m

is not allowed as 3 consecutive characters in any word and wouldn't show up above without the extra spaces

so people write to talk about being a

n o n c o n F O R M i s t

or something being

i n F O R M a t i v e

or about

i n F O R M a t i o n

and you get  nonconist or inative or you get ination.

Example 3:

s c r i p t

Is not allowed. Most commonly you see people trying in their

profile or journal to use the word

d e S C R I P T i o n

and you get this word d e i o n.. and you might have wondered that this  d e i o n thing is.. that's why..(edit: looks like that one it puts in the longer word you want for you, if you type the shorter one D E I O N, strange)

Example 4:

Perhaps most ironically, on a BDSM site you can't use the word

S P A N k

or

S P A N k i n g

because

s p a n

is deleted. You would think that the site administrators would find some other way to avoid people sending malicious code besides just removing parts of words since other sites manage, but this doesn't seem to be going away, and I haven't seen a

page that lists them all so I've been meaning to post this for a while

So, over to you all: what words or parts of words have I neglected to include, which are also forbidden and automatically

deleted? Maybe someone can make a list of all the punctuation marks that are not allowed and which ones are maybe allowed in

journals but not messages or vice versa, since I haven't tried to make a list of those. But any other words I've missed that

are deleted outright?

Can anyone explain to me why people's profiles under "actively seeking" can say:

"Submissive female"

but then can say

"Sub / Slave Male"

I clicked purely to investigate this, to "edit my profile", thinking "well, maybe one can now, unlike in the past, select any one of 4 varieties:

'submissive female', and/or

'submissive male',

and/or "Sub/Slave female"

and/or "Sub/Slave male"

but saw only two options, same as old ones.Yet on people's profiles the above asymmetrical

Why force some to express interest in, and prevent others from expressing interest in, "slaves"? ?Or is that not the case, throughso it seems from just a quick glance. Anyone know? Post in your Journal.

Who else has come across dozens of profiles over the years that go like this:

"Not much to say now but I'll be adding lots more detail SOON"

Date of profile: Years and years ago (yes I realize that in theory they might have just put that current profile in yesterday (so before that it said what exactly?) Also unlikely..and usually confirmable that they've had the profile say that for years..profiles the login page features again and again so you've seen it say that same "much more, soon!" promise on their profile for a long long time)

And this went on long before making changes in profile put your profile on hold for weeks or months on end, so while today I can understand people hesitating to change, this "will add lots more detail soon" and yes they say "soon"..this has always gone on. Makes you wonder..

 Unrelated, and non sarcastic praise for part of a recent journal entry where she said:

 "My life has included fantastic sex, better than yours in most cases.  I prefer to wait to have a superior time..."

The praise is for the "in most cases" part she put in. Accuracy and recognition of variosu shades, rather than mere bravado. Yes it's a low bar, but still nice to see people exist here that are gounded enough to add those words.

Public Service Announcement:

There is no separate Bookmark feature so some of us use Favorites to Bookmark (Can you think of why one might not use the browser bookmart feature? Multiple reasons there too)

Having seen the latest of a long string of examples of people expressing frustration about "someone added me to Favorites but never wrote me" and how could they do such a thing to me (in their case, I have not added them, or anyone else, to my Favorites in a while..but obviously someone else did) it's a good time to remember this basic fact:

People sometimes use it to essentially bookmark.

And there's many reasons one might do so. One might have positive or negative or neutral or mixed feelings about the profile as a whole or parts of it, or wish to look up a book or quote or something else in it and so on. 

True, for a subset of cases, such an Add to Favorites might actually represent someone trying to be cute or trying to get your attention and not having the courage to... and so on, etc. But this applies to far, far from all instances..

Ascribing it to all cases would be not merely a case of stereotyping, but here, also, it would be a case of simply being flatly mistaken, in so many cases.

It's easier to avoid needless conflict or tentson or worry by realizing such things and then making one's own choices about how or when or whether to respond.

Looking for a connection with someone who hasn't logged in since 2014?

Just looking for Friends Only but would love pages and pages of profiles whose last login is 3 years ago, 10 years ago, or more?

Don't worry! We at CollarsSpace have you covered too!

Just click on "Local Users" and you'll find page after page of profiles that haven't been logged into since 2019, since 2014, since 2010 or even since the first decade of the century! Yes there's profiles not used since 2005 and we'll make sure to disproportionately feature them extra prominently! Oh shucks, you're quite welcome..

But kidding aside folks:

It didn't used to be this way until a couple of years ago, when this  started..Before that time, not that many years ago, the Local Users page was not this way, and worked fine.

If it's on purpose to "protect people" from getting a huge amount of email the first week then they could just remove the section. Pretty sure that some do not need or want that 'protection' but if that was the goal, then they could remove the section, so seems to be a software issue. No, it's not random dates, either, it changed radically at some point, from a mix of Last Online dates as you'd expect, and mostly not that long ago, to very heavily tilted to like 95 percent of profiles shown (probably more, the exceptions are quite rare) being those that haven't been used for many, many years.

Anyone have insight into the minds or intentions of the administrators, or the situation they are in?

Some fellow in late Dec 2021 posted a Journal entry:

"I see a still-surprising number of profiles which, in summary, go something like this: 

'Fuck you in advance for wasting my time, because you are all fakes and losers, and also, I'm lonely and looking for someone, so please respond, but respond pretty fucking carefully.' "

Rings true, but my own personal reaction to too many profiles (and more than a few journal entries on this site) can perhaps be summed up very briefly as:

"What you say about others might well be true; but how you say it, speaks volumes -- about you."

Gosh, that even rhymes, and with equal number of syllables. 

On the positive side, it's a sort of Public Service Announcement, that "how it's said", alerting others (including even those of us looking just for friendship at this time) what style  to expect (sooner or later) if we make contact.

System bug, it seems

Different Journal listing at collarspace.com/USERNAME 

versus different at:

https://www.collarspace.com/personals/v/THEIRuserNUMBERhere/details.htm 

In the former their most recent journal entry is 11/29/2021 4:39:27 PM but in the latter it does show their excellent 1/9/2022 1:16:55 PM Journal entry. 

Reloading browser page doesn't fix. With system issues like this, you have to wonder whether there is no Message button because they wish to hide, like maybe too many emails following their Journal post, or whether that's a software problem too.

Anyway here's what they wrote: "Most of us don't know what we really want. We have vague unrealistic general hopes (such as wanting a lottery win), but when asked to name our specific realistic goals we often struggle. It's probably because so much of our life is bound up in everyday survival - the endless toll of 24-hour emails and social media, plus all the issues and stresses we're dealing with take their toll on our ability to dream and make those dreams come true. "

Great point. While it won't solve all these personal and societal issues, I highly recommend meditation or other mindfulness practice (there are others) as one part of one's toolkit and regular weekly, if possible daily, routine. That's for all of us, regardless of BDSM identity, gender etc.

Wishing everyone a great week ahead. Or at least a bearable one, haha.

Thoughs over the years upon reading Journals and Priofile comments: On the one hand, yes, there absolutely are people here who are outright scammers as well cases of people flat out being dishonest about what they want and what they're ready to do. No question.

At the same time, words and phrases like "fakes" and "not serious" get so vague sometimes (exception: when sufficient context is provided by the person venting) that it can mean almost anything.

Fortunately not in conservations with me, but just watching others, this is clear.

So broad is the term, that 2 people can say it about each other and they can BOTH be correct...for one person not being serious oe nor being reality based means one thing, for the other, it means something else..Both can be correct accusing the other of it..while both might be honest.

And of course easy to overapply to others, less than fairly..

It would serve all best if Profiles and Journals didn't just vent about fakes-and-flakes and "people who are not serious" but were a lot more, or at least a little more, specific.

Not only because then we'd see that the journal or profile comment is not itself fakey-or-flaky or misrepresenting what was just a poor match...but simply because by stating parameters that were violated, clears up what you're looking for and what you're not looking for.

What you think is reasonable and what you think is not.

Then matches, for those of you looking for them, can have a better shot at success.

Happy New Year and wishing people a safe, prosperous, and fulfilling year ahead :-)

Reading people posting in their journal about various system errors here

 Then reading others complain about people's profiles not being honest, where the profile says they are ready to relocate but they aren't or where the profile says they are into something but they are not willing to do that.

Now wondering if some of that is also system bugs.

Like the people who list as one sexual orientation but when you look at their Looking For it's in conflict with their stated gender and orientation, including when it's cis.

 Now just found someone's journal and then their profile says, QUOTE: I sometimes accidentally add someone to my favorites. Because I read your profile it means nothing. I accidentally tap a profile. END OF QUOTE

I believe her. So there's errors and slips of the finger and typos and some system bugs. But that said, there's definitely lots of less than honest profiles too

Or forgetfulness. Here's a challenge, post your favorite or else your top 3 examples of things from profiles but they should be funny, to lighten the mood, not infuriating things, would be my suggestion. My own example is I have seen literally DOZENS of profiles that have a few words and saying they just joined and then they say they will quote SOON... soon they promise, they'll add more details..

Then you look at their profile and it's been here for years and years... haha. If it was just a handful okay but so many say that, they say they just joined and will add more very soon, but no updates. Or course I also hear about approval taking months for profile revisions so mabye that gets folks to be reluctant to update their profile. I'm reluctant myself for same said reason..

I've absolutely no interest in her sexually but just added someone to Favorites just as a way to bookmark them so I can read her Journal entries. Because we have a few things in common and I may find her writings interesting.

Was considering sending her a 1 or 2 sentence message just to let her know the Favorites means that and only that..but apparently no messages from males are accepted. Which is just as well, since too many on here are unable to see the truth even if it's right in front of them, though I mostly sympathize as many have been burned by the dishonest in the past.

Others on the other hand, protest loudly how they hate all the unwanted advances but recoil even more from the encounter with someone who truly has no sexual interest in them but may have interests in common. Which is a bit rich given all the comments one hears about how it's bad form from the other side to only be interested sexually and to lose interest when it's for friendship..pot and kettle.. gander and goose..

On a positive note, life despite its pains and worse, can be very beautiful, so those of you, which is very many, who struggle with depression or holiday stress..please take a few moments or longer to take good care of yourself and remind yourself This Too Will Pass about bad things in your life, and find some moments to enjoy stillness, warm solitude, quiet and inner peace.

Went to browse journals and menu on the left is missing. Software issues?And, some of the journals shown aren't even signed, and have no link to, the person who wrote them. Let's see how this one displays. And whether things revert back to normal in the coming minutes or days... or weeks?

Edit: Aha, if you scroll down 22 screenfuls on a desktop or laptop, yes I counted, then the menu appears on the left side..so software is still not working right but the issue is not lack of any display, but displaying it only after you scroll all the way down to end of first batch of journal entries. Also using a different browser and same issue, so not just a problem with one browser. Oh well, it's still much better than back when we had no Journals at all. And hopefully will be straightened out soon.

Yes I'm here almost entirely for reading journals, the rare thoughtful empathetic intellectual exchange, and the rare opportunity to give support and make helpful suggestions to those relatively new, or looking deeper, who seek it and are appreciative of my time invested. Beyond *very* rare exceptions (none in a long time that appealed to me) I'm not here "looking" for relationship or sex or cybersex at all, and not in a long time any appealing online erotic correspondence.

I'd update profile to say this more directly, but as others have said, the wait can be really very long before the profile is again approved. 

So for above reasons I find myself returning to the website, and to look at this usually hidden part of the human mind and spirit, and and part present human society. For most of what I see, so much unnecessary hate and aggression but I don't need to write much about it here to condemn it..but then the gems, which don't have to be polished gems, just a person opening up, it could be non-BDSM, just writing on profile or journal about dealing with health, or dealing with the loss of life of a spouse..and you get glimpse of a human mind that's not through the usual filters.

And on BDSM, or sexually in general,  similarly, being able to read glimpses of candor and the inner psychological world, an uncommon chance to read someone opening up..

Journals are here again..Over the years I've seen quite a few profiles saying "I have a crazy work schedule" (or "hectic", or "super busy" etc) which brings up the question:

Out of 100 people making such statements, how many get out of that situation? Short term it may be justified or even needed; long term, it's not the best situation for one's physical or mental or psychological health let alone allowing the space for new relationships to be deep and meaningful. 

If out of 100 only 1 or 2 succeeded in changing that life circumstance but 90 or 50 at least tried, that would be more encouraging than few even trying..really trying..and seems that people are so busy trying to survive, or with distractions to numb pain, that we rarely even try, let alone succeed. The key is to make the effort and mental committment. And chip away at it. So even if it takes 6 months or 2 years or 5 years,..you chip away at it, work towards the goal, step by step. 

It could be saving money, it could be improving one's skills, getting a certificate. It could be spending just 15 minutes online searching, times 2 days a week or on weekends...The key is to be consistent. Imagine one person jogs 100 feet forward, then stops. The other person moves forward just 3 inches...but does that each day, or even each week, every week, for enough weeks and months..they will reach the finish line. 

Same with other goals (like losing weight, though that one requires both the consistency and also a lot of challenging but worthwhile work on one's mental and emotional inner worlds and finding what neeeds we use food to substitute for and healing ourselves in other ways...on top of the stick-to-it consistent commitment ect of doing a little bit to move forward every week and ideally every day or few days) Same with finances, though that's a more obvious analogy to changes in one's job/career. 

What have you done to move forward "a few inches" today, this weekend, or next week? It's not about being 'tough' with ourselves, more like the opposite, and being caring towards ourselves..that and a word I see is actually in an online dictionary: "Stick-to-itiveness" You can do it! :-)

"Can punish, but also gives tender comfort when needed; can eat pussy with passion, can put your mind/body into erotic humiliation (within limits) and can cook a damn fine, delicious but healthy meal for you/us..how many other Doms can say that?" Just added this to my Alt profile. Maybe should add "If profile meshes well with you, don't be shy: message me" Anyway, still doesn't read quite as I want, but conveys intended essence, one hopes..

Seems that fantasy trumps reality for many. Not talking about "my own fantasies are v. powerful/creative" (though that's true) but many subs out there w/little experience think they want to jump into heavy stuff, day one.

Mature subs will understand that my gentle/patient side doesn't mean I can't or won't go heavier later (I mean mostly psychologically/emotionally but also physically). I can and will. But it's the difference between a Dom (or "Dom") who's just selfish versus one who cares. Do "Nice Doms" finish last? Only with subs who are not mature enough to understand that a Dom of substance will make her (and himself) wait for some things (while, yes, sometimes also pushing her to go faster in other area, at other times)

But does the Dom who is in control of himself and has a gentle side have something special to offer the more experienced sub? Yes, if they understand the analysis  of my only half-jokingly titled essay "The D/s Theory of Relativity" Cliff Notes preview: She may think she wants to soak in 104 degree "water" of BDSM, and she might (or might not) be right, but what she really needs is intensity, not a fixed 'temperature' of BDSM activities. Skillfully working through the mental-psychological-emotional aspects of D/s and putting her arm or body into cold water (still with the metaphor?) and even 99 degree water might feel to her as if it's 105 or hotter. One can always go to 104 later if needed. Without the D/s theory of relativity, one not only risks safety but also risks a superficial jumping or thrill-seeking with whip #83 and bondage type #47 seeking the new, the novel, and (like a shopaholic in our consumption obsessed culture) never truly satisfied.

A gentle but intense Dom that understands this and other aspects of the "D/s Theory of Relativity" (full version by end of 2012 on my IntenseLoving.com) can bring the experienced sub to new peaks and plateaus she though were only possible through (or not even possible with) edgeplay, not just safer but more satisfying, ultimately, in the long term.

Something to think about in our modern fast-paced world where running faster and faster to just stay in place, without ever (or rarely, anyway) finding real satisfaction, applies to a lot more than just shopping or watching TV/movies, but wider parts of our culture - certainly sexuality in general, but also to D/s (or BDSM) specifically...