Collarspace

searching for like minded out there... been away, but back again

Aug 2019, time for an update and filled in the additional details.
So i joined a little while ago, not really knowing much. Have learnt some, enough to understand there are those looking for a one night stand, those who are professionals looking for and the minority that are real.
Whilst a one night stand is fun, its not that satisfying.

Am more comfortable in myself. it maybe later than some, am now in a happy place. whilst have had to be more of the alpha in the office, its not my natural place.

So about me... worked hard to be where i am. lived and worked in 4 countries, seen a lot of the world.
I dont trust easily and for someone to have control over me, i have to trust them. had some bad experiences on a similar site, but i know not everyone is like that. so still positive.

I would like to find someone, that is happy to meet with someone still fairly new, exploring their limits, but also more than a one off adventure.
My attitude is you dont know whether you like something or not until you have tried it. I am cautious to start with, but loyal once we know each other.

I have lived in 4 countries, moved back again to the uk, so single and looking...have also signed up to a dating site, but not sure how to put alt lifestyle down along with other likes such as travel and so on -)

I have played with some couples and singles, vanilla stuff mostly. So looking for someones who is a reasonable fit. i.e. If she gets off on pussy worship, strapon, control etc we are a fit. someone who is into giving pain and wanting to abuse i am not going to able to satisfy them.

What i am not interested in being. Not being a personal servant (although obviously some tasks are required of a sub), if you want someone to do the jobs around the place, hire someone and help the employment in the country. Whilst my partner maybe the dom, it doesnt mean i am a doormat.

My ideal... someone who would be interested in a long term relationship. Someone happy to be a partner in life as well as playtime. however is that asking for a unicorn?

Well if you have read the top part, it says most of it. Feel free to ask me anything.