I'm Top/Owner identified, emotionally mostly straight, kinky bi, non-monogamous, sometimes nasty, sane (more or less) and a serious sadist. I want possession, whether it's for a few hours or a lifetime.   I play hard, emotionally and physically - and I'm most interested in connection - whether an intense few hours together or the depth that comes from years of being open to each other.  I want inside your mind and spirit as much as your body.  Maybe more.

You're a woman who craves ownership and possession, or a couple in love with each other - I love to have that kind of intimate access to each of you, and to the intimacy you have between you.  

You're functional in the world, successful on your own terms whatever those might be. You might have a formal education or you might be self educated in something you're passionate about. You clean up and enjoy dressing well, and also enjoy jeans and getting sweaty to get something done. You're in your 20s to 60s.  You crave the intimacy, comfort and control of BDSM, of surrendering to the will of a man you can learn to trust and respect. You enjoy service and control. 

There's a discipline to it, the responsibility both for honestly knowing what I want (because I can have it) and for taking the consequences of my decisions (because if I'm making the decisions, the responsibility for consequences becomes mine). It's the most intimate kind of relationship I know - it requires exposing our desires and our emotions to each other. It's also, for me, the earthiest and rawest of relationships, no barriers to diving into the edge and dirt that lives on the boundaries of our desires.

I've been in D/s relationships for most of the last 12 years, lost my partner just over 3 years ago - fuck cancer. I've been blessed with good teachers and mentors in many facets of BDSM, have lovers and play partners who satisfy a lot of my need for kink and community. I'm ready for my next D/s relationship.

I'm in my mid 50s, blue eyes, smooth skinned, carrying extra weight but active.  I'm trained as a scientist and now retired from a career spent doing consulting work for biologists and chemists. I live a simple comfortable life, own a small comfortable home, spend my time with friends, family, lovers and leather community, or gardening and working with my hands, or working out training hard for a goal a year from now, or reading and working on a book about the biology, sociology and uses of pain. I pursue my spirituality through leather and BDSM.  It's a good life.

If you are smart, interesting, interested, passionate about something - anything - in your life, love a good engaged conversation over drinks or tea, ok with exploring where things might go without forcing anything, friendship, play, connection,  and especially if you're slave or property identified - I'm interested in hearing from you.