4/8/2024 3:53:58 PM: Let's talk about evolving. I first joined this site thinking I wanted a small stable of 3 or 4 submissive guys and a submissive gal or two.  I was inundated with messages from guys and I enjoyed the attention for a while.  But, the spark was never there with any of them.   Then someone found me.  A guy who is not submissive but is exactly what I didn't know I wanted.  And, suddenly, I lost interest in all other guys, except as friends. And that has made me question just how polyamorous I am.  I still very much want a submissive girl in my life, that hasn't changed.  But I find myself very happy with just one guy.   So, yes, I'm polyamorous, but In a 'I would be very happy with just two partners' kind of way.

3/25/2024 7:31:02 AM: I am shifting the focus of my search.   I am no longer looking for masculine submissives.  I have found someone and am very happy with him. I am, however, still looking for a feminine submissive.  Specifically, I want a girl, aged between 25-45, I can be Mommy to.  In public we'll hang out, have fun, go shopping, and do girl stuff.  In private, I want a 'little' who enjoys being around 5 or so.  I'll give her baths, play with her, cuddle her, read bedtime stories to her, but also have a sexual relationship with her.  She must be potty trained.  I don't do ABDL or anything to do with diapers. To be absolutely clear, if you are a crossdresser, transvestite, or 'sissy' you are NOT what I'm looking for.  I want a cisgender woman, transgender woman, or femme leaning non-binary person.  If you just play at being a woman, I'm not interested.  

3/23/2024 3:54:55 PM: Let's talk about ghosting. It happens a lot on this site.  I have lost count of the number of times it has happened to me and I have only been here a couple of months.  My low self esteem makes me think it must be something about me that is driving people away. Logically, I know that's not the case, at least not for all of them.  I imagine some had something come up, some don't check the site very often, some got scared of their own desires and deleted their account.  There's quite a few reasons why they might have disappeared. But, I will say this.  Regardless of the reason, its rude.  If you are going to be away from the site, do the people you are messaging the courtesy of letting them know beforehand.  Its especially egregious when so-called submissives vanish without a trace.  Show some respect and explain why you are going to be absent.   It becomes very disheartening and discouraging to put emotional investment into someone, only to have them disappear one day.  

3/22/2024 9:13:12 AM: Let's talk about age. As I have talked to a multitude of people on this site, I have slowly gained a better understanding of what it is I'm looking for.  And, unfortunately, I have realized that age is a factor for me. I don't feel comfortable trying to take on a dominant role with people who are older than me.  Friends and non D/S partners of all legal ages are welcome, but I am restricting my search for submissives to my age or younger (though no younger than around 30 or so).  I'm currently 48.  

3/19/2024 5:22:23 PM: Let's talk about masks for a minute. We all wear masks for various reasons.  The 'you' at work is different from the 'you' at the family BBQ, and both are very different from the 'you' at the kink party. Dom(me)s have to wear a mask of confidence and power.  To our submissives, we are the strong one who will hold them when they cry.  We are the stern one who makes them do as they are told.  We are the wicked one who gives them that thrill of delightful fear and anticipation. But, there are times when we need to take that mask off and be vulnerable.  We need shoulders to cry on, too.  We need to be held and told everything will be alright.  We need to feel safe in someone else's arms.  And its not always easy to take that mask off.