Sometimes ya just gotta laugh. I saw a profile from a new domme.  Short but well written,so I broke my own rule and actually sent her a well written longer intro.  It was definitely the best offer she will ever get.  I checked 15 minutes later.  Deleted unread.  I would love to be a fly on the wall for all the conversations with subs she does answer and God help her, actually meets.  

I'm going to reveal one of the great secrets of online personals sites.  When it comes to female profiles, the better written, and more appealing it is, the more likely it is to be a catfish profile.  "But wait", you say.  "That makes no sense".  If you think about it though, it does make sense.  BDSM on the whole, attracts intelligent people with imagination.  They tend to be limited in social skills, damaged, and the type that would have serious difficulty getting dates in the vanilla world.  In other words, people with low or no self esteem.  Many have social anxiety and believe that no one would want them for who they are.  And for them, the internet is the perfect way for them to become someone else, and get the attention they crave.  They become catfish.  

And remember, they are intelligent and creative. And they don't just do it once.  They do it over and over and over.  They get tired of one profile, so they create another.  And let's not forget all the gay men pretending to be women.  The whole purpose of these profiles is to encourage people of equal intelligence to respond and engage them, then keep them engaged for as long as possible.  "But wait again". you say.  "There are a ton of profiles out there that just want online relationships.  Why would anyone need to create a fake profile and pretend to be some they are not who who is looking for a real life relationship, if they can be honest and have honest online relationships with others seeking the same?" Well, I can't answer that.  With the literally thousands of catfish profiles I have come across in the past 25 years I have been on the internet, I have asked many of them that, and not one has ever answered me.  The only answer I can give is these people are so badly broken that trying to apply logic to their behavior is a waste of time. 

And in their profiles, these women all demand that men write them detailed, non form letter introductions.  The vast majority of which they won't even bother to read.  Of the ones they do read, they will respond to just a fraction.  And since I have refined my profile to make it obvious that I know how to identify them quickly and won't engage them, they definitely don't respond to me.

So, if by some slim chance you are one of the real dominant women and have actually bothered to read this far, and are expecting a long, well thought out introduction from me, now you understand why I'm not going to write one.  And if you think all this makes me sound like I'm a negative person, let's put it this way.  If we lived in a community enclosed by an electric fense, and I told you not to touch the fense because you will get shocked, does that make me a negative person?  Right.  Well we live in a community enclosed by an electric fense.  If you are a real person, so am I.  If I write you, it's going to be a short, "Hey I liked your profile, please read mine and write me back".  If you do that, then I will write you the long personal introduction.  I might even make you laugh.  I may not be perfect, but I know what I'm competeing with, and trust me, it's no contest.

Part 1...  If you are old enough to remember the "things that make you go hmmm" from the Arsinio Hall show...

So If you are male and live in the same world I do, you may have noticed that women, all women, are never hesitant to point out the faults of men.  And are usually not shy about generalizing said faults, to include all men.  However, if a man points out a fault in a woman, to that woman, and has the audacity to point out that it is a fault that is common in most if not all women, then he obviously needs psychiatric help and should never contact her again.

So a little back story.  About 14 months ago, I saw a very nice profile from a dominant woman who claimed to be into the psychological side of bdsm, and asking any man who wished to talk to her to write her a message, telling her about himself and his interests and to include a picture.

So I wrote her a 21 line introduction.  I told her what I liked about her profile, a bit about my background in bdsm, and the rest about my vanilla life, and included a photo.  I probably spent 30 minutes making sure it said what I wanted it to say and that there were no grammatical or spelling errors before I hit send.  She never even read it.

So today I was surfing profiles and I saw a very nice profile from a dominant woman who claimed to be into the psychological side of bdsm and asking any man who wished to talk to her to write her a message, telling her about himself and his interests and to include a picture.  And then I noticed a note to myself that I had already sent her a message in Aug of 22.  After 14 months, I didn't remember even sending it to her, so I looked through my sent messages, and there it was.  Sitting there, unread.  Among dozens of other messages that I put effort into, all unread.  If I was lucky, unread and ignored.  If I was really lucky, I got a response from a catfish, scammer or a flake.

And I got a little pissed.  Just a little.  It's not like it hasn't happened thousands of times since the internet began, because that is how women treat men.  And it's ok, because we are men, so we deserve it.  So I decided to write her again, and tell her what it's like from my point of view, knowing she was probably not going to read this one either, or going to read it and block me, or read it, tell me off and block me.  I gave the chance of a you are right, I apologize at between slim and none and that was slim's ass you just saw riding over the horizon.  Because she is, you know, a very nice, educated and thoughtful dominant woman into the psychological as pects of bdsm who wants a partner who is the same.

So this is what I wrote her, this time I spent well over an hour.  Why, when I knew it was like trying to teach a pig to fly?  Why do wolves howl at the moon?...

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Hello. You have a wonderful profile. You profess to be a thoughtful woman and desire to have a deep and meaningful long term relationship with a man who desires the same. You invite qualified applicants, which, after reading your profile, I believe that I am, to write you a thoughtful message telling a bit about themselves and include a photo.

Let me explain a little about the difference between men and women on the internet. Let me even further narrow that. Decent men and women on the internet. Decent men, know that more than 99 percent of men on the internet are assholes. The percentage is much higher in the bdsm world. Liars, losers, predators, wannabes, flakes. We understand that, and understand that we have to prove to every woman we talk to, that we are the rare one in a thousand who is a decent guy worth talking to. We accept that, even though it sucks and it isn't fair. We live in the real world, not the fair world. Even if we do convince you, it doesn't mean we are necessarily compatible, but at least worth talking to to find out. Decent women on the other hand, think every female profile is just like them. Honest, sincere, and to be taken at their word, and their profile as trustworthy.  When the reality is, the women are every bit as bad as the men. In different ways, but just as bad. Liars, game players, catfish, scammers, entitled assholes and flakes. But because women are constantly bombarded by men begging for their time, they also believe they are entitled and desirable, and therefore that they can treat all men like shit, because there are always more men. So they think that when they demand men spend time and effort on an initial message, they don't know or care that there are 99 other women doing the same, who are catfish and scammers. And even the one who is real doesn't believe she is obligated to read or respond to those messages she demands.

There are women on here who have been on this site for over 20 years, who haven't changed their profile, who still think that they are the ones in control, despite the fact that in 20 years, they haven found one decent submissive guy. If you go fishing in a pond with thousands of turds, so many turds that you can have any one you want, as many as you want, at the end of the day, no matter which one you choose, you still have a turd.

So when a woman asks, or as is usually the case, demands a well written, thoughtful introduction, here is what happens when I write such an introduction, or rather 100 of them. They take me roughly 15 to 30 minutes each to write. Since they probably skew higher, lets call it a total of 40 hours. Yes, if I take time to eat and sleep but do nothing else, almost 3 full days. 90 of those messages will never even be opened. Of the 10 that are, 9 will not be responded to. That means, I essentially spent 40 hours to write messages to get one reply. And that one reply, more often then not, is a catfish, scammer or flake. Are you starting to understand now, why so many guys write one line messages or cut and paste? I don't do one liners. But what I did do is write a detailed profile, and then I send a copy and past which basically says that because almost all of my messages are ignored no matter what I write, I have a detailed profile which explains what I seek and have to offer. Please read it and write me back if you think we might be compatible, and then I will write you a proper introduction. But on rare occasion, I do write a personal message, when I believe the profile is real and sincere.

Last August, 2022, not 23, I wrote you an introduction. You never even read it. I cant speak for other men. But let me tell you how that feels. I know, I shouldn't care or let it bother me. But it still does. Not a lot. After all these years and thousands of times. I tell myself you are probably a catfish or scam profile and the person described in your profile doesn't exist. Which is true 99 percent of the time. But even so, it tells me that in your eyes, my existence has so little value to you, that nothing I can say is even worth the time it takes to read and dismiss it. That I am worth less than nothing. And not in a bdsm humiliation kind of way. In a human being kind of way. Now I hear, the quote, you don't know what its like to be a woman on this site. I get thousands of messages and most of them are vile.... end part 1

part 2 ...  Do you expect me to respond to those? And sometimes I just get behind and messages fall through the cracks. unquote. And no, I dont expect you to answer the assholes, and the ones who clearly dont fit what your profile says you are seeking. But the ones who do, and who take the time to respond politely, then yes, even if its just a polite, thank you for writing, but we are not compatible, Good luck with your search. That is more than enough to make me happy.

I can tell you, the thought of a consensual non consent relationship... giving blanket, irrevocable advance consent with no safe words and no limits except hers, knowing she has no limits except dont get caught, knowing she wants me to sacrifice everything for her, and desperately wanting to, knowing she intends to consume every bit of value I have.... Thats what I crave so badly I cant put it into words. Why I hoped you actually were real and serious. But you didnt even open my message a year ago, and likely wont even open this one. I truly do understand why wolves howl at the moon.

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The rest was personal.  This time she did indeed open it.  And her response was something to the effect of You have anger issues and need help.  I deleted it unread.  One takes their small victories where they can.   But everything I said was 100 percent accurate and true.  I did not do so as a personal attack.  I didnt resort to ad hominem attacks, as of course she did in her reply.  But that is always the way it is.  Men are always wrong, and women never are.  And if you point out to them that they are indeed wrong, then you must have anger issues and need help.  Now of course, I am generalizing.  I know that there are women who do not behave this way.  Otherwise I would not be on here looking for one.

No I won't lie to you even though you tell me to.  If I agree to serve you, it's because you aren't a woman who would ever tell me to lie to you.

If after we've talked, and you think the reason we didn't connect is because you rejected me, it wasn't.  I know exactly who I want to serve, and most of my profile is talking to her.

The woman I will serve will understand what I'm saying in my profile.  The rest of you won't.

If you think my profile is arrogant or disrespectful and are offended by it, why?  Aren't you superior enough not to let a worthless worm/boy/dog offend you?

If you are in your 20s or 30s, or even your 40s and you think you will be teaching me something I don't know, it's not very likely.  I've been doing this since before most of you were born.  That isn't a criticism, just a fact.  You may have lots to teach me about YOU and what you like and dislike, but about life or bdsm? I've been there and done that.  Maybe you can learn from me, though.  Does that offend you?  If so, you are reading the wrong profile.  Insecurity can't be masked by fake dominance.  I will see right through you.  A truly secure and dominant person knows their strengths and weaknesses and will use whatever resources she can to improve.  That includes her slave.

So you say you are a dominatrix...Hmmmm Beatles flashback "You say you are a dominatrix, we el you know, We all want to rule the world..."  Sorry

I'm a baseball fan, so forgive the analogy.  Let's say you are a Major League baseball player.  You were a star in high school, star in college, earned your way up to the majors.  You are one of the elite, a major league baseball player.  Every boy's dream.  Now what?  You're there.  You can just coast, or you can go even higher.  All Star, Hall of Fame, legend...

So you say that you're a dominatrix.  Maybe you are even worthy of the title.  Most aren't, but I'm talking to you, not them.  So now what?  You can order around the little moron boys who are using you for fetish fulfillment.  You can get your cunt licked whenever you want.  All the massages you can handle.  If you are really fortunate, you might even get your house cleaned once in a while.  Maybe you may even get paid to dominate.  But you know what...anyone can do those things.  Most pro-dommes are just actresses.  Few are lifestyle, and most of those are lifestyle submissives.  But they are using the same title, and men pay them to fake being what you are.  Is that all you want to be?  What stretches you?  What pushes you?  What tests you?  What motivates you to rise above and do what most can't?

Me.  I do.  I'm not talking about bratty behavior to get attention.  That isn't challenging your dominance, just your patience.  I'm offering you a new challenge.  A strong, secure confident man offering to give you a chance to unfurl your wings and fly to new experiences in domination.  I can't get there without you.  You can't get there without me.

"But ewwwww.  Scat.  I don't do that.  It's a hard limit."  Yes it is.  That's the point.  Just as my limits limit me, your limits limit you.  Imagine the challenge.  To take a man who is unable to do scat, and reprogram him to crave it.  This isn't just giving orders to idiots.  This is the big time.  Up to it?