10/11/2023 3:10:04 PM: 16 years I've been on this site, almost to the day.  Probably longer than that because I'm not sure this was my first profile.  And before that, I was on other similar sites all the way back to the beginning of the internet, and the old bulletin boards.  And before the internet, yes, I am that old, the bdsm magazines and underground classifieds.  I search, sometimes for years because I have very high standards and there are a lot of haystacks and very few needles in the bdsm world, until I find someone, then I go away.  Unfortunately none of those relationships have been forever, though they were each wonderful in their own way, and I guess I am blessed that each ended on good terms.  My last relationship ended 3 years ago.  I am here, on FL, a few other web sites, and on a bunch of the dating apps.  I have a lot to offer, both bdsm and vanilla.  No, I'm not a sugar daddy.  I'm happy to share.  Supporting a lazy deadbeat isn't in the cards.  If you don't have enough pride to contribute to your own lifestyle, you don't have enough pride to be with me.  I'm seeking a woman who is highly intelligent, who possesses and values integrity, is trustworthy and able to trust when her trust has been earned.  And of course, who desires a long term, real life, 24 7 relationship built around a core of bdsm.  Also should be at least a bit of a geek to insure we have vanilla interests in common. Everything else is negotiable.  You have my permission to contact me first if you think we might be compatible. Please be willing to video chat immediately for both of our safety.

8/2/2010 11:29:32 AM: When you came in the air went out.And every shadow filled up with doubt.I don't know who you think you are,But before the night is through,I wanna do bad things with you.I'm the kind to sit up in his room.Heart sick an' eyes filled up with blue.I don't know what you've done to me,But I know this much is true:I wanna do bad things with you.

7/7/2010 2:03:28 PM: An allegory for submissive women....You live in a world where all the sandwiches are peanut butter and jelly.  You really like bread, but not pb&j.  You like tunafish, and you really hunger for a tuna fish sandwhich.  But you search everywhere, and there just isnt one anywhere to be found.  You find lots of PB&J sandwhiches that tell you they are a tunafish sandwich.  Yes, sandwiches can talk in this world.  Stop interupting.  But when you bite them, they are always pb&j.  You find lots of tunafish which tells you its part of a sandwhich, but that you have to eat it first so it can teach you how to taste the bread.  But when you try eating it, it's always just tuna, with no sandwhich.  Everyone tells you that there is no such thing as a tunafish sandwich, but you refuse to believe them.  So you search and you search.  Then you die.  Hungry.

5/28/2010 10:10:00 AM: I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about choice.  Most women who call themselves submissives or slaves (very few if any of whom would be by my definition of those terms) believe that all the decision making power is theirs when trying to find a 'dom'.  After all, even if they are not attractive and write poorly or not at all, they still get swamped with messages from doms begging for their time and attention.  What a heady feeling that must be.  They can throw up all sorts of hoops to make the prospective doms jump through, and any dom who doesn't jump.... buh bye.  And when they do find the dom they like the best, he's so grateful for receiving her 'gift of submission', that he will dominate her however she requires him to.But somehow, she quickly discovers that he 'isn't a real dom' at all.  He lied, or he's really more sub than dom, or he's just an all around loser.  And she's back on collarme ranting about how all men suck. And repeat, and repeat and repeat ad infinitum.Well....  Here is the reality.  Real doms don't play puppy.  We don't jump through hoops.  We don't need you to do us a favor by submitting to us(in other words, keep your gift). And we aren't so desperate to find a woman that will actually let us touch her, that we would be willing to settle for you.So while perhaps you do get to choose from all the puppies and wannabes and service tops, none of them are good choices.  You don't get to choose me, because frankly, either I wouldn't have you so I never wrote you to begin with, or if you actually are someone I might like, you eliminated me because I wouldn't play puppy and jump through your hoops.You see, in my world, the search for a mate is a mutual decision.  We choose each other.  And if you are seeking a man to give up control to, don't you think it's kind of back asswards to eliminate the men who don't let you push them around to start with?Perhaps for some of you who read this, a light will go on.  Perhaps after a little thought, you might realize I'm making some sense here, and change the way you do things.  You might also want to think about at least acting like you have a bit of self esteem.  Weak women are not appealing to strong doms.  Good luck in your search....  If you have something to offer, perhaps I will write you. :)

4/14/2010 10:55:23 AM: 4 months since the last time I added to my hall of shame.  Rest assured, this is only because I have grown more accustommed to the idiocy, not because the idiocy is any less frequent.I saw this on a 'submissive' female's profile today...'To have someone give you control of their bodies and minds, To be entrusted with the responsibility to take care of them,To have someone willing to suffer for you, To forsake pride and dignity to please you... What other gift in this world can possibility equate to that? And more importantly, what makes you worthy to receive it?' -- Anonymous ----If this resonates with you...  For that matter, if it doesn't cause you to feel like you want to vomit, it is unlikely that our views of what dominance and submission are, are anywhere close enough to make any conversation worthwhile.  I sugest you try searching on 'service top'.