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I think at the point the label is not as important as the attitude and desire and skills. Kinkster would probably cover whatI am. But probably with the sensual caveat added, since i am not a sadist nor i seek one. Yet there is something to be said to certain level of intensity and strong sensations.
We all seek something, but I am open minded to the possibilities or receiving unexpected surprises,so expectations are shattered that way. Besides, my tastes and preferences can be discussed in person if one if fortunate to get there and talk about it.
Yet the connection is what is sought. The bond as it were. Pun totally intended and implied.It is Not that hard to understand we all want someone, but the idealperson is in some people are mind set in stone. Alas. I strive not to be as rigid and enjoy people on an individual basis. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. And i chose to be positive.
My experience and conviction in my preferred rolemakes me quite capable,yet I feel I close myself to possibilities by choosing only one flavor in life. I dont think it is all black or white but assorted grays, some very pale and others very dark. Make of that what you will. I like to drive the car, a lot and often, but it is sometimes nice to let someone else do the driving. Why? To take a break, or because i want it. Power of choice.
I get to see new sights and experience thing i could not otherwise, by exposing myself to them and the point of view of my partner in crime. In either role, the point for me is her pleasure, and from there mine comes forth from that, directly and indirectly.
I am honest and direct, yetI am complex, but not complicated.
I know whatI like but remain open and flexible to my opposing force.At the core I am I am a sensualist and kinkster way more than sadist and very less a masochist. A devious twisted one at that. One that believes BDSM is a of expression and at times even art. I yam what I yam. Obviously, the blue cheese of the dating world. Not for everyone. But goes well paired and even complement the right counterbalance.
Always aneducated pervert, flirt seducer and elegant menace. Quiet waters that runs deep.
Best luck to us all.
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Love the rain, yet feeling antsy.
Like having an itch that I cannot scratch.
Changes are in the air. I hope. Always.
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ARGH.
So hard to maintain the balance.
Between being a gentleman and being a beast.
Between being polite and being a good bastard.
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Pluto’s Gate (Plutonium in Latin). The first nuclear
test, "Trinity
" (July 1945), and the second atomic bomb used to destroy a city (Nagasaki, Japan, in August 1945
), "Fat Man
", both had cores of plutonium-239.
Pluto == Roman Name for Hades==God of Underworld/Hell.
GATE OF HELL INDEED...Coincidence? |
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BTW i hope the Cuckolding fad passes soon. I just do not want to be he horned one ever.
If a couple invited me to be the bull is another matter tho. Yet i prefer to keep a partner, not borrow one. |
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After more than a year of tribulations, I am back to scan the social circles of hell, so to speak. Heh. Now finally I can afford to be flip, even if just a little.
Still not back to the position to be a Sugar Daddy to anyone, but enough to be sweet in disposition and caring toward anyone coming closer to me.
Peace out.
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The lack of self control of a lot of guys have heavily affected the gender as a whole.
Seems some idea prevails that we can only be nice to people if we want something from them. Cynical all around view, but even more damaging if applied to being able to share common tastes and hobbies with women and making able to trust or relax between us a tall order.
It is hard to come across as a friend or friendly to the opposte sex, since one is already pre-judged as potential jerk until proven otherwise. |
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BLEAGH...
Why is the implication that if you are submissive you are masochistic also ???
BIG NEGATORY, Big Chief. One can be mutally exclusive of the other.
So you CAN be submissive and dislike pain.
But may love discomfort.... Hah!!! :) |
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Bah; Humbug.... The search(?) is boring and fruitless.
I get tired and weary of the pursuit of the fair(?) sex.
These are strange times, but then ages, what age in history isn't?
As much as I can amuse myself on my own without need ofr anyone else; there are limits and the genetic imperatives and drives still push me to seek her.
And then i recall 'Is it all worth it?" And then i recall not dreams or romatic ideal or even fantasies, but my own past where I have tasted forbidden fruits, and intimate delicacies and the answer makes the question disolve into temporary madness...
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Being Valentine's today, I am not sad that I do not have someone to share intimate moments, but instead I am happy that I do not have the wrong partner stuck in a bad relation. Think about that... |
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Reading someone's journal, I realized one thing. Some of us do have a 'monster' inside. I have my own philosophy on how i handle it, care and feed it and reward from 'it'. But when it comes to other people, it is a matter of how do they interact with.
DO they cuddle it? After all beauty can tame SOME beasts (but not all)
Do they tame it? And otherwise effectively neutralize it and live like a former shadow of yourself
Or otherwise effectively accept it and handle it? Thusly feeding on each other...
Food for thought once again. |
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Monsters on the inside? Certainly so.... But I prefer to address it as my shadow.
It is part of me and i am part of it. We acknowledge each other and are even in good terms.
The hard part is other people making friends with it. Alas... |
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AT least a lovely female friend tells me i am Adorkable...
I will take any compliment at this point, and still i guess i can be more than one thing, can't I?
Paradoxical? Maybe...but it works. |
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Too nice to be Dominant? Perhaps... but i am what I am.
Too nice to be Dom in the BDSM realm, and yet too agressive and freaky to be Vanilla?
Where does that leave us?... |
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Hard to find a new paradigm shift in dating. Specially since people do not like change, and resist it. |
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Beauty, so Much; yet so... elusive |
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So many Flakes, not enough raisins, too big a spoon and milk getting warmer...ack.
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Deaths in Family have left me changed and a bit numbed. Yet my search will continue...given time and hope and patience. |
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Why so many flavor of the month kinks, more ways to prove you are 'extreme', more perversions to show you are kinkier-than-thou; I wonder whatever happen to good old fashioned bondage and lingerie.
The way things are going it may become mainstream and 100% acceptable, stopping it in effect to not be a kinky anymore. Heh.
We are working toward becoming obsolete in the long term...The irony. |
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Eeeshh, seem Cuckolding is the 'Fetish of the Month' these days. Before this used to be needles and cell popping and before that, Fireplay, suspension and shibari. Just another thing in Vogue. Blagh...
Not this guy. |
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Would it kill people to say: "Thank you, but no Thank you" ?
Either manners have gone hell in a hand basket, or truly I am a crabby old man before my time. Engh... Probably both. |
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This is what i know so far about me, for what is worth:
I am conservative with my time. Introspective. Content with the way things are in my life for the most part. Laid back, level headed, easy going, self composed. Steadfast and usually calm, cool & collected.
Intellectually i am a free thinker, inquisitive, inventive and creative. I like puzzles and can be puzzling. Gracious, but not funny per se. I am Complex, spontaneous and more practical.
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She is No Fun; She fell Right Over!
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Realization: Noticing that a lot of people (Male and Female) have had their Ad here for years now, myself included. Begs several questions:
Have we not found what we want yet?
Do people here dislike each other such that people are not pairing with each other?
Are we all waiting for new blood to come in?
I can understand people do not want to settle for just anyone. But SO MANY people still unconnected and still looking is symptomatic of perhaps a greater social malady.
Sign of the times? or something else? Curiouser and curioser... |
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Well, being busy with life itself and its daily demands for maintenance and survival I have found myself not checking here much and not writing much mail anymore to anyone. Besides, I was told, I was doing it wrong by paying compliment to women. Go Figure.
Regardless, I have been in other sites, since the diminished returns here leave much to be desired. I wish i could be proven wrong otherwise, since hope dies last. But I will not wait holding my breath much at all.
The internet is great to share and express ideas, yet it does not communicate very well a few important elements crucial in human interaction. Hence its tendency toward flaming words, flakiness and extreme hyperbole, by virtue of its anonimity, informality, and lack of accountability.
Internet is not quite the place to be authentic as a person, even if could help you as an artist or a pro. Yet average John Doe (c'est moi) can easily get lost in the wilderness of the web and his voice drowned by the drones and cacophony of so many other other people.
I will let people play whatever games they want online. I will limit myself to the solace of reality, nature and face to face human contact. As far and few in between they can be; they are tangible, real and valuable.
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