3/5/2018 8:40:47 AM: Its been a while since I added a journal, so I thought I would add some information about myself today. The most important thing you need to know about me, is that I am happily married.  In a few months, we will have our 9th anniversary.  We have been together for almost 20 years now, and I have no intention of leaving him for anyone else.  He is not interested in being a part of what I do with others.I practice ethical non-monogamy.  That means my husband knows the kind of things I get up to, and you will never find me hiding anything from him.  I have one other committed r/t partner.  He *IS* interested in participating in things between and someone else, but only if there is mutual interest for him and the other person.  No need to worry that I am looking for a unicorn or anything like that.I am open to adding another boy to my life, but I am not actively looking for one.  If you want to have that opportunity, you will need to be impressive.I *AM* actively looking a female bodied partner, preferably for a r/t connection.  I want to spend time getting to know this person before any play happens.  If we decide that online play is something that sounds like fun, I will require  you to prove that you are actually a female.  As much as I hate to say it, the world is full of boys that have discovered that online, women get more attention, and they are willing to pretend that they are women in order to get the attention that they crave.  If proving that you are who you say you are is something that you will never do, please be upfront about that and save some time and effort for both of us.

4/7/2013 11:55:23 AM: I get enough inquiries on this, that I thought it was time for me to make a blog or two about it.What do I look for in a boy/girl?? I think I am just going to explain what I want and what I don’t want loyalty wise today. Community whores do nothing for me. I want a boy that needs to find one woman to belong to.loy·al·ty1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc.3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: a man with fierce loyalties.One of the first messages I got on another site that I am on was a boy asking questions. I'll start by saying I LOVE an inquisitive sub, really I do. If a boy/girl is really devoted to me,s/ he will be unafraid to ask me questions about myself. The last question this boy asked me was “6. how will you protect me from other mIstress's that may try and take me from you?” All of his questions showed a complete lack of respect, but that one in particular showed me that he had no idea what loyalty means.A loyal boy/girl should have no fear of other women trying to 'take' them away. Because they have given themselves to me. Certainly I will feel possessive of them, but if they are loyal and devoted to me, then it is not possible for anyone to take them away from me. I get that saying no is hard for many many submissive sorts, but part of being loyal, being owned, is being dedicated to that woman. For me, that means I expect a boy/girl to say no, no matter how uncomfortable it may be for him/her. Not because I'll punish them if s/he doesn't, but because s/he can't fathom not trying to be everything I want him/her to be.For the benefit of not receiving another question like that, this is what I will do to protect a boy/girl if another woman tries to steal them away from me. Absolutely nothing. If a someone is mine, there are no issues there, s/he cannot be stolen. If a they can be stolen, then they are not mine and I wish them much luck with the woman that s/he decides to give themself to.

3/26/2013 8:24:31 AM: I'm looking for a boy or girl that will put me and my happiness before their need to be used and abused.  I want someone that understands that D/s isn't about all the sexy little things that we do.  That understands the power exchange we share is a tool that can be used in the bedroom, but that submission starts outside the bedroom.  I want someone whose ultimate desire is to put a smile on my face. Whether it's taking me out shopping,  giving a me a nice(non-naughty) massage, or even just sitting on the phone/skype and talking to me until I'm relaxed enough to pass out.    If I don't believe that my happiness is someone's goal, that they are just doing these things in the hope that I will play with them, then nothing will ever happen between us.

2/27/2013 10:03:18 AM: Just a  short warning for boys that do try to talk to me.  I have more than enough cock in my life at the moment.  If you are thinking you want a woman that will stroke/ tease your cock, make you do naughty little things with it, just consider me a lesbian.  I promise that I am not interested in your  cock, I don't want it, I don't need it, and it's not likely that I will in the future.

8/16/2012 8:06:40 PM: So, at this point, hubby has lost a little interest in  being involved in my D/s life.  Anyone that approaches me should know this and understand that he is still very much aware of everything I do in that regard, and there wont be any of this will you leave your husband for me crap, accepted.  Right now, I'm looking more for a femsub/slave that I can explore with on my own.  If at some point everyone is comfortable with it, exploration including hubby is possible, but not a must.  This means that I am open to lesbian partners and wont force them to have ex with my hubby if they don't want to.  This lifestyle should be about sharing joy, not just enduring undesirable acts because it's your 'place'.  I'm open to finding a boy, but definitely not looking for one at the moment.  If you are going to message me, try to have it include more than one sentence if you want me to reply.  also take  look at my likes and dislikes, if I find something on your list that is the opposite of where I've put it, you will probably get a message from me saying thanks, but no thanks.