I have had a number of discussions lately with BDSM friends, and my take away from all of that has been this: I need to focus on what my ideal relationship is.  It both does and does not need to be defined in detailed specifics.  Yes, it needs to have a kink factor, and I know if there is love and a good connection and good communication where I can talk at times about my feelings, I think I would be happy.  Both of us being happy is my ideal relationship.  As soon as we start to talk about specifics in that dynamic, that power exchange, I think we lose sight of that core.  Love and Affection and being genuine Soul Mates.  That is what matters.

Having strong submissive desires, and an attraction to powerful women since I was an adolescent, over the years it has been easy to look at the larger world of possibilities and get lost in them.  Most of them are not in any way realistic.  And I want a realistic relationship, and don’t want those fantasies to distract from that core bond between us in any way.

Having explored my deeper submissive side for the last fourteen years or so, I have learned a lot about myself.  Scenarios that made me very uncomfortable at the start, even a few hard limits, I am now very open too.  I have learned a lot about myself. 

Putting that in perspective with that core desire to find a soul mate simply means I am open to a wide variety of power dynamics and to a wide variety of recreational fun.  There is no one power exchange that is ideal, as long as my mate/Master/owner/parent is the Alpha and I am the beta, I am happy. 

Talking to my many friends, each has different ideals for a solid dynamic and they look to me to match those ideals.  Well, with few exceptions, I do match, even though each of them is very different.  That is because I am open to a lot of things.  As long as we are true friends, and we have a bond, we have potential.  And I love to talk and share.  I am a very eclectic person, with a huge list of mundane interests and hobbies, with an emphasis on the creative arts, of which I have had a lifelong and successful career in.

Also, when we start to talk, it is easy for me to send pictures from the internet showing what I call favored scenarios.  Don’t let those cause us to lose sight of what is most important.  Our personalities and shared interests need to connect.  I do like to talk about favored scenarios, from both my perspective and from yours.  So curious about yours.  We need to bond, and that will start not with a shared BDSM interests, but with the bigger picture of who we are and the things we have in common.  Kink fantasies, realistic and crazy unrealistic ones are just one of many conversation points that we should share.  I am looking for the whole shebang, as I hope you are too.  Even saying that though is too much, because there are some ideal dynamics that are not primary.  Again, open to many things. 

I want to know more about you.