Collarspace

I am an experienced 49 year old Dom male living in the north burbs of Chicago ( near Gurnee). And while a short profile can not tell you everything about me I would like to try to give you a brief synopsis of my experience, my philosophy and what I am looking for.

I was lucky enough to have been introduced to the lifestyle in my very early 20s by a older woman I had been dating. When we first started seeing each other I had no idea she had been submissive in the past and no idea I was Dom. I am thankful that I had someone experienced, patient and willing to let me learn at a pace that was comfortable for me. And I now try to pay it forward with each new partner regardless if they are experienced or a beginner.

Over the years Ive had both vanilla and Ds relationships but no matter which kind always seem to be the one in charge especially in the bedroom.

For me I believe communication is key in a Ds relationship. Being open and honest about each of your needs, wants and desires is important and so is being honest about what your limits are as well.

Also for me the key is seducing her mind long before seducing her body. Where the mind is the body will follow.

I think of myself as more a daddy dom type but not necessarily looking for someone who is a little. I think of my style as being a mentor not just in the lifestyle for my sub but in life in general.

Most of the world sees me as the nice professional guy next door and friends and family would be shocked to know what kink goes on behind closed doors with the right people. I have been told that this duality between my two sides has surprised, delighted and excited partners more than a few times. I am a well educated, well read, well rounded individual. I am confident in myself and my abilities.

I am looking to find someone to take things one step at a time and find a mutually fun, exciting and adventurous relationship for both of us.

I prefer non smokers, social drinkers, no drugs. I again prefer someone single but am open to her being married if it is not a issue with her partner. Age and race is not an issue.

I am looking for someone interested in a long term relationship but am open to short term but want you to be honest as to what you are looking for was well. You do not have to be experienced in the lifestyle but want to seriously learn and grow in it.

While I do enjoy the Dom sub lifestyle I am not into it 24. 7 and would like to also share common interests with a partner outside the lifestyle too. Although mixing the two at times can be fun as well.

Of course this isnt everything about me but if you are interested in knowing more please say hello.