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10 cold hard facts about submission
If the Dominant wants to collar you before meeting you, building with you, getting to really know you they are a control freak NOT dominant.
submission is inspired not demanded, only the insecure demand it.
Sending naked pictures of yourself to a so called Dom because he demands them is not submission its feeding his collection of pictures to get off to.
You choose to submit to One and one alone.
The submissive holds the power in a Ds relationship but gives it freely to their Dominant.
There is no place in this life for abuse, everything is consensual.
A Dominant never ignores their submissive.
A Dominant is always in control of their feelings at all times.
Dominance and submission are states of mind not something that is turned on and off.
A submissive is an equal and will always be treated with respect
Facts of a Dominant
1.Courtesy - They have politeness and good manners in the traditional sense of the word and will show this to all they communicate with whether via e mail or within chat rooms.
2.Respect They will always be respectful in their approaches, showing an appreciation of the other and being mindful of how their communication is perceived.
3.Honesty They will be totally honest in how they communicate, ask a question they will answer it in a detailed way, there will be nothing vague. They will tell you their thoughts when required.
4.Integrity They will be consistent in their interactions with you, you will always know where you stand. There is no hidden agenda.
5.Confident Do not confuse confidence with arrogance, they know and understand themselves in all aspects of their life. They will not be boastful but will give their opinions specially when asked.
6.Selfless They will want to know about you rather than telling you about themselves. They will have provided the majority of ination for early communication on their profiles so have no need to talk about themselves unless you ask when they will be happy to provide the additional details.
7.Unassuming They do not make a big issue over things, their focus is on the girl not themselves. They have no need of causing or being part of any drama, they will state their opinion and qualify it where and when needed.
8.Knowledgeable I nearly wrote intelligent or educated but settled on knowledgeable as it is more fitting and easier for me to qualify. They understand what a submissive needs, understand the deeper cerebral aspects of Ds, understand it is not just about sex and certainly understand that it is the submissive that holds the power within a Ds relationship and that she chooses to give it freely.
9.Assertive There is a power in how they communicate, it holds the readers attention, makes them want to know more, piques the interest. It is this that gets them noticed, makes them stand out. Not the posturing, aggressive, crass and down right obscene ranting that some mistake for overt misguided displays of dominance.
10.Chivalrous (adj) (of a man or his behavior) courteous and gallant, especially towards women. They do challenge inappropriate behavior, make no apology for doing so and will always do so.
As a Dom, Im exacting, detailed, organized, careful, methodical, patient, wicked bright, gentle, caring and incredibly respectful of your limits, Im not a sadist but feed on excitement, anticipation, delightful anxiety of pain scenes and the complete surrendering of my subject. Im not a misogynistic dickhead looking for a venue, im not here to make you loose your humanity, unless thaT is what my subject needs, Im here to enhance our sexuality. Aftercare is important to me, specially at the beginning. Even more so if inexperienced.
THANK U FOXYFEM FOR WORDING MY THOUGHTS SO ELOQUENTLY
im energetic, intellectual, kind, affectionate I like the outdoors, Im a adventurous eater and will try everything at least once, I view this lifestyle as sexuality evolved, a shared healthy, comfortable and safe time to explore mutual desires.whatever we do is negotiated and agreed upon, is cemented in respect, understanding and incredibly good communication, I need a decent conversation where the time and space allows it. love to travel, i enjoy those times when lots are said but no word is spoken.
Im nobodys dad, Im also not anyones ATM,
Im all about balance, Im Strict but patient, demanding but caring, harsh yet compassionate. Mental and physical dominant . I believe in Structure. Rules. Discipline. Punishment. Pushing. Pulling.
Balance.
Im looking for an intellectually stimulating, sexually fulfilling, emotionally engaging exchange.
I dont derive pleasure from inflicting pain, its merely means to and end.
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