*Its been nigh on two weeks since I made a change in a single word from theyre to they (thanks to Accede for noting this). I understand the CS staff is rather behind and delays such as this are extended.*

I was on this site back in the CollarMe days. Ive learned more about myself since then but the core remains the same.



Men and women do not have the same chemicals and hormones in their bodies. Each reacts to stresses of various types in different ways. This affects how each sex thinks, how they react, what roles they naturally gain. With these differences, why do we lie to ourselves as a society that were all the same? Its dishonest and gives people false expectations. It causes much more grief than the contentment it gives the self-satisfied, smug SJWs.



As an aside, I dont care to be merely content. I prefer to be alive and pursuing goals. that being said, I havent chosen to claim expert in many of the activities listed. There is always more I can learn and I look forward to learning.



People forget that a BDSM relationship, no matter what it takes, is a relationship. Bills still have to be paid, groceries bought, dinner made and all the rest that makes up life. Even with these aspects, a BDSM relationship is more honest than any vanilla relationship. In a vanilla relationship, there is this best foot forward mentality where we only try to show our public good side. In a BDSM relationship we see everything from tears to laughter abject humiliation to exaltation We see every aspect of the other.



I know, a lot of words to say in BDSM were honest with one another. The roles are clear and the confusion is minimized.



That being said, I am seeking a female slave or perhaps one hell of a sub. When I say slave, I mean slave. Not someone pretending to themselves that they are more than what they are but has a laundry list of limits. Someone eager and willing to learn someone with intelligence and imagination. Someone who, when I ask their opinion will give me their opinion and not just repeat my own words back to me. No, their opinion wont sway me but at times another perspective can be useful. Someone who knows that service is more than simple kink.



I believe choices have consequences for good or ill. If someone has accepted me as their authority figure then if they knowingly make a bad choice then they also knowing accept the consequences I mete out.I pride myself on being consistent, on being fair. Punishment isnt random, it is for a purpose. How I choose to use what is mine may be random at times and will take varied s - some s the girl may enjoy, some not so much. A book doesnt ask if it wants to be read or have a page dog-eared or used to prop open a window. The book is just there to be useful.



I prefer to have some set rules in place so that a girl knows what is expected of her. I rarely have some nebulous goal in mind so a girl doesnt have to guess. I am also open to her questioning exactly what expectations are and how to achieve them. If she doesnt ask then she has no reason to complain later if she falls short or somehow misses the target.







I hate having to say this, but when I say female I mean someone born with all the female genitalia. I have no interest in cross-dressers, transgenders or anyone who makes up a gender just so they feel more special than the next person. More power to you but its not something to which I am attracted.