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If you have contacted me in the past few days
my profile is again malfunctioning
and Im unable to respond.
Ciao
Love me without restriction,
Trust me without fear,
Want me without demands,
Accept me for who I Am.
I am a Goddess interested in a Loving FLR with a Gentleman. I am wise, dependable and genuine. It would be a pleasure to share my time with a nurturing man who appreciates my independence and assertiveness. Introduce yourself and tell me what you enjoy doing for fun.
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An extraordinary Domme on this site passed this on to me.
And I concur .... wholeheartedly.
Men who involve themselves in FLR are much more astute than their counterparts. It takes an extraordinary personality type to attract and maintain a relationship with a Goddess who is capable of leading in a Female Led Relationship. A weak minded partner would not last because a Goddess would not have the time, energy or inclination to play games with him.
A man involved in a FLR is an asset to the Goddess he is connected to and very likely an asset to the lives of everyone he encounters because he is wise, skilled and unconventional. He is smart enough to attach himself to greatness when he sees it. |
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I found this well written piece on Tumblr and just had to share.
Thank you to Lifelockedinacage:
Being a good servant means developing and investing in your skills. Let’s be real - most women don’t want naked men sitting around in rope and collars begging to serve. Most Dominant women I’ve met are practical, have specific needs and desires, and always have things that have to be done that prevent them from doing the things they want to do. If you really want to serve a Dominant woman, it’s important to give some thought to her inevitable question: “How would you serve to make my life easier/better/enjoyable/successful?” And no, being her sex slave, or ‘doing anything she wants’ is not a suitable answer. Neither is offering to clean her house but being shit at it, or being her chauffeur but then expecting other things from her. After all, you don’t employ a plumber who then pesters you to whip him… A suitable response is: • Cooking meals for you during the week when you are busy with work • Running your errands so you don’t have to sit in traffic or take time off • Preparing, organizing and cleaning up your parties or social events • Building and fixing things around the house and car • Meticulously cleaning your car and home each week • Preparing your home after returning from travel - groceries, airing, fresh sheets • Preparing and managing your travel - luggage, lists, mail, visas, bookings • Detailed research and documentation for things you want or need to buy • Sewing repairs, washing, folding, ironing, and putting your clothes away • Buying gifts for your family, colleagues and friends for each occasion • Performing pedicures and manicures to a professional standard • Being your personal shopper doing pickups, returns, and exchanges • Finding and curating things you enjoy - music, art, experiences, foods, people • Providing physical help or assistance to any of your friends and family Oh, and when doing these tasks, don’t expect to be sitting around naked in a collar with a butt plug in - unless that’s what SHE wants! These things aren’t sexual. They’re useful. They’re valuable. They free her up so she can enjoy her life, and explore and grow her empowerment. All that you do ADDS to her life. It improves it. It enables her to grow. You must be good at these things. Go and learn if you need to. Take a class, or contribute your professional skills. If you don’t have skills, or anything you can think of, you’re simply not ready to serve another person in a meaningful way. Go and work on yourself first. Go make yourself valuable for her. It’s an important thing as a man to truly know your own value, and what you can bring to a woman’s life. Being a submissive servant doesn’t mean being a doormat; it means being empowered that her needs and desires are your own, and you can meet them to a standard that exceeds her expectations. Your unhinged horniness and a willingness to spend money to relieve aforementioned horniness, is simply not enough - nor appropriate. If you do have skills, experience, or ability, then really put yourself in her shoes before engaging your mouth / fingertips. Learn about her and what matters to her. Her goals, her ambitions, her ideas, and her dreams. Offer things you can do and give that matter to HER. If you have something to offer that doesn’t matter to her, either develop a skill that does, or find another woman who wants what you have to give. If she’s smart, she will value you and give you just the right amount to keep you enthralled, engaged, and fed, but still hungry and eager to serve. Her empowerment will expand in time; you’ll definitely notice. Your submission will deepen in time; you’ll definitely notice. If she’s not smart, she’ll take advantage of you without valuing you and mistake her sense of self-appointed entitlement as empowerment and domination. Dominant leadership is about inspiring a submissive to view serving them as an opportunity to fulfill their highest purpose; Dominant management is about demanding compliance and obedience because she said so. They might sound similar in the short run, but in the long term, one leads to fulfilling your purpose as a submissive, while the other leads to a life of unmet expectations and resentment. Be smart - you can have the lifestyle you’ve dreamed of, but the secret isn’t that you just need to find a Dominant woman. It’s that you need to develop yourself in both skills and attitude to such an extent that you are undeniably valuable to her. Women are smart - they protect and take ownership of what works for them. |
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A friend sent this to me, and I absolutely LOVE it.
Imperfect Dominant’s Charter
I will fuck up, more than once. On at least one of those occasions, you will suffer because of it.
I will not always be good enough, or strong enough, or wise enough.
I won’t treat you as you deserve to be treated all the time. I will have bad days and that will affect how I am with you.
I will give in to my emotions sometimes, and you will see me in a light that you may not want to as a result.
Sometimes, the dynamic that we have worked so hard to create will be the last thing on Earth I want to think about.
I will misread you, and misunderstand you.
I won’t always know what you are feeling, even if you tell me. My responses to that will be incorrect, and will make things worse.
My life will get in the way of our relationship, and what we want from each other. I will not always handle this as well as I could.
I will depend on you, and I will need you to guide me sometimes.
I will ask you to make decisions when you want me to make them, because I am not able to do so at that time.
I will not always give you as much attention as you need. And I won’t realize that I have done this.
I will lose my patience with you sometimes.
I will not always be able to give you what you want, now or in the future.
I will suffer from jealousy and insecurity. And you will suffer from my jealousy and insecurity in turn.
I will not always deserve you, nor understand what you see in me.
Just as you crave my attention, sometimes I will crave for you to leave me alone.
I will not always communicate with you as well as I should. I will want to keep things to myself that I shouldn’t, and some of the things I do share with you, I will do so in an unhelpful way.
There will be times when I am happy when you aren’t, and resent that you don’t match my mood. There will be times when I am unhappy when you aren’t, and resent that you don’t match my mood.
I will feel guilty about what you give me, and inadequate about what I give to you.
I won’t always like you, nor you always like me.
We will argue and disagree, and we won’t always handle this like adults.
I will forget things, important things that matter to you, and will need to be reminded of them.
I will struggle with my own rules.
I will sometimes be unable to take control of myself, let alone another.
I will sometimes resent the responsibility our relationship places on me.
But most importantly:
I will accept that while neither of us want any of the above to happen, sooner or later it will. And while I will always be at my best when trying to be the perfect Dominant, I will get closest to that by accepting that I am not. |
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The image of a knight on bended knees to his Goddess, his Queen, is enough to cause one's heart to dance with delight.
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Received a question today that surfaced up this thought:
How powerfully arousing a man's submission is.
The exchange of power is really quite heady.
How it takes a really strong, resourceful and resilient man to be happy as a submissive.
How the trust and respect of a submissive man will make your spirits soar.
That such men are rare and when found they are to be treasured, cared for, loved and valued. |
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Yes. There are men in this community who gets it.
The dominant and the submissive are both providing each other the gift of Servitude.
And when it's done right the synergy between them is like a dance of the universe. These two energetic beings flows smoothly and in tandem with each other collaborating and calibrating as they navigate together.
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Here's another piece that I resonate with yet I am unsure who penned it.
The Submissive Male's Creed
“I am creative, courageous and honorable.
I have many strengths.
I have power, intelligence and wit.
I use these qualities to empower, protect and bring happiness to others.
I joyfully surrender them to she who knows and cherishes their value.
There is no greater deed than to give oneself utterly to another.
I offer myself in heart and body to my Mistress so that I may be fulfilled by meeting her needs, and that she may expose me to the very core of my being, learn my strengths and weaknesses and teach me to better know myself.
My self and my strength and my love are hers to call her own, in honor of her beauty, her wisdom and her strength, which mirrors and enhances my own.
I serve Her with honesty, valor and trust.
I avoid putting myself first, but not at the expense of my identity.
I seek always to clearly communicate my needs and my fears to Her.
I am her champion, her warrior, the guardian of her honor - as she requires.
I will defend her to the uttermost limits of my strength but, standing before her, I lay aside all defenses.
I offer Her my trust and respect, and I have few gifts more precious than those.
When we journey alone together, she recognises my needs and, when she takes me to places I have never been, protects me from harm.
I ask her to lead me in turning my weaknesses to strengths, so that I may better serve her.
I ask that she protects me from harm, and surrounds me with her warmth and guidance when I am faced with my darkest self.
I look to Her, to have the wisdom to know when to push me to grow, when to teach me discipline and when to show me her gentleness and mercy.
I trust Her to heed my voice and views, to nurture my love and desire for her; to approach my failings with humor, compassion, and firmness as necessary for the good of us both; to bring shape and meaning to our lives. In return, I offer Her all that I am; in joyful and complete devotion.” Author |
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I'm awake and I'm thinking .... probably a dangerous process at 5 am.
But I have a visual of a truly submissive and delightful man laying next to me and asleep. Of my waking him up, both literally and figuratively. Of heating him up .... pushing him way, way outside his perceived limits. Until he is panting and sweat drenched as if he's running a marathon. Until his brain shuts down everything except the part that's doing my bidding.
And I may, as well as I may not, allow him to explode.
I own you ... |
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A friend new to this lifestyle asked how would I describe myself.
Like a steele fist in a velvet gloves. Yes, I am soft, smooth and warm against you skin ... but there's a hard, firm, vice like grip beneath. |
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Don’t take a submissive man for granted.
Don’t take advantage of his meekness and goodness.
Don’t mistake his loyalty for desperation.
Don’t misuse or abuse his trust.
Make sure he's aware of how much he means to you.
His deep desire to make you happy is a GIFT. |
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Being in a relationship with a submissive man is one of life's greatest pleasures.
He showers you with his time, attention, love and concern. |
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While this is not my handiwork, I couldn't have said it better.
Benefits Of A Female Led Relationship.
Female Led Relationships are a benefit to society as a whole because any woman who experiences being unconditionally supported by a man who adores her develops a confidence that can not be developed by any other relationship experience.
Fewer arguments and misunderstandings.
Because there are no longer any issues with a power struggle, the couple in a Female Led Relationship enjoy each other’s company with fewer arguments than the traditional relationship. The roles are clearly defined and expectations are set upfront which makes for easier communication. There are fewer misunderstandings because he no longer views the relationship as something he has to control. He no longer sees her as a woman he must subdue.
She gains the FREEDOM to develop into the woman she wants to be without interference.
When a woman is supported unconditionally by the man she loves, she feels as though she can walk on water. Every person she encounters can feel the power and love behind her smile. She dreams bigger and achieves more in life because she knows without a doubt that someone values her opinions and desires.
Feelings of Safety.
She feels safe in this world with him by her side and that feeling of safety translates to treating others with more kindness and love. He feels grateful that he has found a woman who can appreciate his tenderness and loving nature. He is proud to be alive and to partner with a woman who respects who he really is.
He knows exactly what she wants from their relationship.
He never has to guess whether or not she is happy with him because she will tell him. He always knows where he stands with her and does not have to play off of her unspoken emotions.
Greater focus on family goals.
The couple engaged in a Loving Female Led Relationship can focus more freely on the progress of their family and their individual goals in life because the pressure is off as to who should make the final decisions for what is best. He understands the role they have decided for him to play and he can be free to exceed expectations by focusing on his role in the partnership while she understands her role as the leader and can make more confident decisions concerning their household knowing he will fully support her.
Greater attentiveness to needs.
Both parties enjoy greater attentiveness to the core happiness of their relationship because he is constantly seeking to please her and she is constantly thinking of ways to lead their family unit toward success. She grooms him with loving encouragement and he feels honored to have her offer him honest feedback and support for his goals. She understands that she must be a steadfast steward over their family’s health, finances and social activities to create a well rounded life experience for them all.
Better sex.
Because the couple discusses all expectations and desires, her sexual needs are attended to as a priority and she also attends to the sexual needs of her partner in the most loving way she can.
He can relax and be the nurturer he has always wanted to be.
Men in Female Led Relationships adore women and dream of releasing the part of themselves that wants to cater to a woman and make her happy. While engaged in a Loving Female Led Relationship the man can cast off all pretenses thrust upon him by society’s expectations and he can finally be free to be the loving, generous and kind soul he really is on the inside.
~Unsure who wrote this. But a hardy thank you to them~
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