Collarspace

Hello There Everyone!

This is an update of my profile to mark my move (in January 2019) to the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex. Excellent! Hopefully the CS text-monsters leave my words unscathed. If they dont however, please try to be tolerant of any AWOL characters. Also, they are probably responsible of any questionable grammar, unfortunate phrases, bad jokes, and anything else that misbecomes the sender. Probably. Believe it!

Now to get on point.

Who am I? Im just this guy, you know? At this point in my life Ive had (just) enough experiences to get a bead on what makes me tick Ds-relationship-wise (probably) and what I think I want to do with myself in that respect. What are these things you might ask? Do not worry, I will tell you.

First, beyond the straightforward pervy pleasures which come with many of our kinky activities, what I enjoy most in Ds relationships, and what I consequentially seek out opportunities for, are leadership and responsibility. I know that may sound strange, or even off-topic, but bear with me. I find that I enjoy taking on responsibility for, guiding, and then enjoying the results of the development of submissives. I find it interesting to dig into what makes a particular submissive tick. To help discover and determine how they can best progress. I then find it extremely rewarding to create (insomuch as I am able) and environment and set of circumstances which promotes that development.

Additionally, I find that being responsible for others, for leading them, improves me as a person. Ive found that Im pretty good at taking care of myself. It comes very easily to me. Consequentially, just looking after myself is boring, and I tend to dick around more than is optimal for my own growth, strictly speaking. When Im responsible for others though, when I need to lead them and therefore set a good example, I need to be in peak (or heading in that direction) - to progress myself as stridently as I want to encourage them to progress (cant let any little subbies beating the big bad Dom in self-improvement and actualization, after all). So, everyone benefits - seems like a virtuous feedback loop to me.

All that being said, who and what I am looking for? Well, as I mentioned above, my flavor of Ds is very individualistic in nature. I dont go into a relationship with a per-established idea of what I want, in detail, out of a particular submissive. It would probably not be a great fit for them anyway, which would ultimately reduce their value to me, and, besides, wheres the fun in that!

What I look for instead is interesting potential. That could be a lot of things. It may be something very specific if you have specialist interests or peculiar circumstances. It may be a process of learning and discovery if youre new and want to figure out what is right for you (with help and guidance). It could be something expansive and deep if youre looking to take a plunge and dont quite know where youll end up on the way down (but need to do it with someone trustworthy, thoughtful, and interesting too).

If youre reading closely, you may have already figured out that what I propose is both intimate and potentially life-course-altering (maybe not, but its well within bounds), so I find I tend to be a better natural fit for those who lean (or could lean) on the slaveish side of the range (crude though it may be).

Ideally, and now that Im getting a little older, Im most interested in creating and building durable relationships. Thats where I have the most fun, and get the most satisfaction.

Building a poly-party household is quite interesting to me on an intellectual level at the moment. Not only would there be an increased leadership and responsibility benefit as I mentioned previously, but the additional complexity and possibility for mutually supporting progression in interesting. Plus Id be able to indulge my underlying male urge to fuck and conquer all a I survey, which is a nice side benefit. I do not have any previous practical experience with this however, so due care would have to be employed. Though being fairly new to the area, and fairly well situated for all that, it would be an auspicious time to try to kick something off.

If youre interested in that kind of situation too, reach out! We should talk.

Anyway, as you may have noticed, brevity is not one of my virtues. If anything Ive written strikes a chord or is otherwise interesting, youre invited to get in touch. Im happy to at least exchange ideas.

Best of luck (etc. etc.),
ArdSch