I am looking for a solid, loving relationship with a dominant woman who would enjoy the service and devotion of an adoring submissive man.

Within me, there is a strong desire to please and serve, to be an instrument of making a woman’s life easier, more enjoyable, and pleasant. For me, this encompasses much more than kinky activities. I seek a relationship that will grow and deepen over time on many levels.



It is important for me to find someone who enjoys me as an entire person, not just as a submissive. In general, people regard me as intelligent, creative, well-written and well-spoken with a good sense of humor. I also have the sense to know when silence or seriousness is more appropriate.

As I think about the relationship I am looking for, some of my thoughts include laughter and enjoying each other’s company doing everyday things, spending time together as any couple would. But other thoughts include very intense times, where she enjoys pushing my submissive boundaries.  Perhaps sweetly but mercilessly demolishing me - reducing me from the rational, well-spoken man I usually am, to someone completely enraptured and beyond words or logical thought.

My imagination pictures someone who takes great pleasure in discovering and using every button to be pressed within me. Someone who loves unwrapping layer after layer of a submissive's psyche and enjoys using what she has learned to lead him where she would like him to be and further mold him into what she would like him to be.


From past experiences, much of this intensity comes from the psychological combined with the physical - things such as orgasm control, teasing, objectification, humiliation.

That said, I am not looking for a play partner to run through a laundry list of kinks with me. I want a long term relationship, but realize that intensity is something that cannot be sustained 24/7. The intensity ebbs and flows over time, but the underlying relationship keeps growing.

I want to find someone to connect with, to learn what pleases and delights her. And then I want to be that person who pleases and delights her, deeply and fully.