9/27/2015 7:01:44 AM: After reading several posts recently and having a feeling hell even a longing for the good old days when Men were Men and women were women. Whatever happened in that its no longer about romancing or wooing a man/woman but negotiating the minute details of how the relationship was going to work, when it was going to work and where is was going to work? Whatever happened in that its now rush rush, fuck suck sex and its no longer about making love and taking the time to explore every nook and cranny of your mate, partner, lover and finding out what makes them tick when you touch here, flick there or nibble everywhere? Whatever happened in that mates, lovers, partners is content enough to value a text message or email that has to be deciphered to mean whatever the receiver wants it to mean and not almost demanding the love note on the mirror, the rose or chocolate on the pillow? Whatever happened in that men desire their women to walk 2 paces behind and 1 pace to the right of them when walking down the street and both finding contentment in such an arrangement instead of the Man being Man enough to grab his woman's hand and have her walk proudly besides him or the woman being woman enough to simply take his arm because it feels like home to her? Someone asked the other day about feeling too old to be on the site and I got to pondering that and I came to this simply conclusion. No I don't feel old but I sure as hell miss the old days and the old ways.

8/9/2015 9:50:09 AM:  Thoughts a flowing again......... Recently while sitting and watching as well as browsing the different sites and reading various posts I had a new epiphany on life and its simplicity which came as a shock but also goes to show how we can learn something from everyone and everything we encounter.  A simple example of such was while in a chatroom recently I made a joke about choking on the smoke from a cigarette and someone replied 'ewwww'. As I tend to simply allow thoughts to flow they got to flowing how far is too far when it comes to what a person is willing to deal with or tolerate to be in a relationship. In this case it became a fact that I do smoke cigarettes and also a fact that the person disliked cigarette smoke which is all good IMO as it open and honest communication though very subtle. As the thoughts continued to flow freely it lead to perhaps being with the person but because of their standards or dislike of cigarette smoke how such would work and what would be the full ramifications of such as one or the other would have to compromise or perhaps lower their standards for living life which in reality becomes unfair to both involved. As if you look at it, once a person decides to lower a standard for how they choose to live life in a sense it becomes the beginning of the end for the relationship because they are compromising themselves to be with another. This fact lead My thoughts to flow on why relationships really end and using such as an example it would appear to Me that regardless of what the person who ended it claims it goes back to that first compromising and lowering of standards that was the downfall. Something to ponder.............  On another note yet still on the same topic of standards, I have quite a few and I don't plan to lose them nor compromise them to be with someone who desires Me to do such. For such standards have I that many take offense to them and that is their right, however and in reality it goes back to 'cigarette smoke'. If a person decides they dislike another persons standards and their way of life then why bother trying to interact with that person on any level as that becomes a thing of asking them to change to suit your needs and desires and sadly enough it aint happening with Me. So if by chance you run across Me where ever it may be and dislikes something I have to say, My philosophies on life or hell even the fact that I smoke, then do both of us a favor and ignore Me. It makes life oh so very simple, with the less drama and bullshit and all the pettiness out of the way. While I understand everybody isn't everybody else cup of tea and can live with that, do yourselves a favor and understand and accept the same as everybody isn't going to be compatible with everybody and if one person has to lower their standards or change their philosophies for how they desire to live life to be in a relationship then the relationship regardless of what type it is becomes doomed before it starts.Raven

11/8/2009 10:30:01 AM:  Smiles and blows a kiss across the desks to and for you so that you may feel all the love I have within for you. Happy anniversary cess/honeylove/miss kimmylane, I cant recall if this is the 3rd 4th or what have you but I do know for a fact that its still the beginning of forever with you. When I see that smile on your precious face I know that not only did I choose right but we chose right in choosing each other. And imagine cess 'or should it be 'less' for your beng so priceless?' that it was all so simple and easy, however I do want to thank you for not just being here for and with Me but accepting the boys as your own. So this in truth is a dedication from the 3 Ravens to the 'priceless' one and all that you are and shall become with us. I love you forever and 2 days cess and the surprise is on the way. winks !!!!!

10/10/2008 5:08:29 PM: Hmmm here we are again miss kimmylane, Sipping on drinks just like  old times, just like old friends. I wonder if they see the sparkle in yor eye, I wonder if they know I am your guy? I wont rant and rave miss kimmylane because its not about them but us. So many times I say prayers for how lucky I am to have found you, but when I reflect on such and how we found each other,its truly amazing honeylove. I thank you for trusting and accepting Me for who/what I am to you, Nothing goes deeper  My princess, nothing, period. For all the trials and tribulations we have gone through and you sticking by Me being the woman you are I thank you for loving and believeing in Me. I love you honeylove, My princess and much much more.

7/14/2008 5:55:54 AM:  Its that time again, Rantings of  A Raven. After going through and reading profile after profile and trying to learn people, I have come up with such very interesting musings. So many talk about finding another to help them learn their submissive side. Hmmmm what does such really mean for being submissive is a trait, nothing more nor less. However after also observing in the rooms it appears that when people speak of such a 'submissive' side, they are commonly referring to kinky sex, scening, playing and the likes. It causes pause to wonder what really is the lifestyle and what is it really about. I know and understand that it a huge umbrella and many things/facets fits beneath it, however should we not know what the true meaning of what D/s, M/s and BDSM is before we place such a label on the type of relationship we seek? It appears that so many are  under the misconception that D/s and M/s has to consist and be based on sex, which IMO is the furthest thiing from the truth. When we base relationships on sex/scening/kinky play, should we not also ask ourselves what happens when our mate/partner is no longer able to perform in such a manner? Are we then no longer a sub/slave/dom/master? Are we no longer lifestylers? A thing I have noticed with so many is that relationships are based on such and yet they never seem to last because there was never a solid foundation on which the relationship was built. Dont get Me wrong as I am not a prude or such and am all for what most label 'kinky' sex, however is it really kinky if it whats normal between the 2 or more involved? Perhaps thats were most are losing themselves, allowing another to dictate who/what/how they are and place sub/slave labels on them. We are more than a fraction of ourselves, as are whole when we allow ourselves to be and can stand firm in our beliefs and standards for living life. Lately I have noticed the site being populated with young-uns as I like to call them. Most seeking sex or something they have no clue about. This isnt something you make up as you go along, it is simply something that is and when it comes about naturally there isnt a more beaitufl thing seen nor felt.  I was emailed asking about what My standards for living life were, so this is for the curious young lady who was so polite as to ask. My standards for living life is based on simplicity, being true to yourself and to those around you. I feel that in life I shall become many things and evolve in many ways. That doesnt change Me, but only enhances all that I am and shall become. So the secret again is acceptance of self and being lucky enough to find a mate/partner who can not only evolve with you, but also support that growth as it happens. (Thank you again honeylove, muahz). Outside of such  a simplistic view, we live within the basic principles of Reiki, Shambhalism and good old fashioned common sense. To see/learn more about such you may want to read  the profile for 'kimmylane'. Smiles, done for now.