CS is been tinkering around changing how some interests are displayed depending on one's level of interest. They recently revised how a woman's interest in Cuckolding reads to someone browsing profiles. 

"The freedom to pursue romance and intimacy with other men while you remain passionately faithful and devoted to me" 

As someone with a dread fascination in long term chastity all I can say here is basically  

Yes  or perhaps 

YES! 

Thats very much how I feel about this. 

Thats not about "Swinging" to me at all. It does not imply that the sub does not desire his partner. But rather that his desire is to see something that's bigger and better happen. That his partner was free to engage with others as a enhancement of sorts. A woman could want many things. Some of those things may be at odds with each other. This seems like a fantastic way to have it all. 

i just feel this new change is very nicely put and I very much approve. 

I'm not sure exactly how to express this but feel like writing about this. 

I recently lost my remaining parent after a 15 year period of recovery and then decline. Family obligations are what they are and you can either stand tall or run. I choose the former. Setting the idea of loss and grief aside I'm realizing that in a way this was in fact keeping me from engaging in the type of service based submission relationship I truly desire. 15 years is a very L O N G time. But my loyalty to family kept me from relocating. My vocation and history mean that I should be able to land a job anywhere in about 30 minutes. Like anyone I've got a rather full life as far as household and possessions go. Those or that is something I do have full control over. Unlike caring for a family member in decline. 

They like to say when one door closes another opens. And that's the case here. 

I feel a great deal freer in some respaspects. A burden has been lifted and I'm far freer to perhaps consider relocating for the right person. I almost can't wrap my head around this aspect since I've been playing a support role for so long. You get one life. You get one family. How much you value that is up to you. I'll just say I'm loyal. 

This was never my time table to set. It simply had to run its course. 

But to anyone reading this I suppose it may say something about my desire to put you first or my loyalty. Many times we are accused of putting kink first. But that's not the case with me. Do I want kink? Well. Of course! Honestly I want lifestyle which really isn't kink at all it's simply a new norm. 

Lets just say a burden has been lifted and I feel I can actually consider moving forward. 

Those that have cared for or lost a loved one will likely feel some empathy. 

Yet if anyone truly desired a locked male slave kneeling before them or standing at their side in life. To those that genuinely want that for whatever their reasons might be I'll just say that is now a great deal more likely. 

I see that someone is working on the web site again. Journals have been back. 

I'm loving the most recent change that seems to translates our interests into longer more deive phases as far as Likes and Loves and Interests Go. Along with the Lives for catagory. It's interesting to see old familier profiles in a new light.

I'd suggest everyone revisit their Interests section in their profile and start fine tuning what they want. It says quite a bit more and I'm seeing a lot of accuracy. It describes each of us and our wants and needs a little better. 

Everyones looking for that perfect partner or partners. Hopefully this helps. 

Love to all. 

Chastity. Why am I so in love with the idea of staying locked for someone that wants me locked? And why would anyone want to lock me? There's a lot of reasons. Some sexual. Others less so. 

Above all I wish to be kept. By someone thrilled to keep me. In time totally empowered to choose how long. I wish to please them in many ways and my goal which may run contrary to many thoughts is to actually earn the lock and not the key. In other words to do so well that in time my partner is only thinking about how they wish to enjoy tomorrow or next week or maybe the month after that. I'm not seeking release nearly as much as being kept. To me that's where the value lies. This idea of providing endless pleasure and hopefully the act of denial itself brings pleasure as only that can. 

I'm seeking intimacy and service. In both traditional and non traditional ways. By being denied small things become larger. A caress or touch becomes more meaningful. Time spent together is more focused and higher quality. In the long run there is more satisfaction to be found over a broader time frame. For me attending to someone's satisfaction and pleasure is simply a more soulful experiance and something I wish to explore far deeper. 

I've always enjoyed giving pleasure orally more than "Getting Off" myself. There's room for both but given a choice or preference I'd always much rather give than receive. There's many ways of giving pleasure and oral of course is only one of them. But the one thing Ive always wanted or hoped for was a oral centric relationship where I could just concentrate on giving pleasure. So in a way while this is definatly about sex it's also part of a larger picture that's hopefully about bliss for both. 

Service can be defined as filling the Tops desires. That can be anything domestic chores or pampering like running a perfect bath and attending to them to foot worship or BDSM activities like bondage or being a pain slut to cleaning the gutters or being a receptive anal target. Or whatever You desire. 

Chastity can be used as a tool to train or draw a sub closer. In time needs are anticipated ahead of time. Obedience is enhanced. The sub becomes a seamless extension of your desires. 

I'm not looking for conventional intercourse or my own orgasm. I wish in time to find greater gratification in this nebulous thing we will call service. 

In a way I'm looking for someone that's very special. Someone that sees the value in pleasure at their beck and call. Someone that's capable of seeing the value and worthy of receiving it. Someone that wishes to feel empowered to the point that if they desired they might just desire to keep me locked unconditionally so that they could receive my service and attention while enjoying it. 

Denial is not cruel. It's just another way of expressing desire and love. It's about wanting to unabashedly keep someone for themselves. Ideally that desire becomes truly endless. 

Thats what I'm seeking. Someone to welcome me and draw me close. 

If you read this far I thank you and perhaps you understand a bit more about me and what motivates me. Do You wish to draw someone so close that they become a part of you? Where throwing away the key makes the most sense? If so we might be right for each other. 

So. Journals are working again. Does anyone know if we can upload pictures without incurring a multi week time out for the approval period? At some point mine was deleted - not by me. And I'd like to update my profile. I don't think many actually read journal entries but if someone's recently updated and was approved on a timely basis I'd like to know. 

Are Journals really fixed? Can I update my woefully outdated profile or upload a pic without waiting 6 weeks for approval or being able to reply to messages? Maybe they will bring back the ability to add punctuation in iOS messaging. Or to send a picture with a message. Things that have been broken for years now. Rather than bitch about that I'll just say thanks for one small step on the path towards functionality.