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Before you bother reading who I am, or what I want, consider two concerns I have. First, a very vanilla aspect, but there is a bdsm lifestyle element to it. I live 300yds from a beach halfway down Florida's Atlantic Coast. And I live here because this is where I enjoy living, and cannot fathom finding a better place to live. So if you are NOT going to be a very willing and active, almost ambitiously so, beach lover don't bother reading anything else here.(I have even added a photo of the beach to my profile, more to interest you than to scare you away...hopefully Second, My only interest on this web site is to search for a Long Term companion, not to cyber, nor feed scammers. or trolls Now ...? I can only answer what I think I am. I don't know how the people on here can blindly state who and what they are because of all the dimensions from our lives that shape our viewpoint. My opinion of myself is as distorted as your opinion of me is. And I also feel as hard as I try to be honest, I never quite am, either it is my inability to find the right words, or a subconscious unwillingness to expose myself...I do believe I'm very dominant, but not really sadistic, I don't get any intrinsic pleasure from making someone suffer( oh wait that's not true, I do. I just don't usually start off in sadist mode, usually)...but then again I do enjoy providing intense stimulation that non-masochists would perceive as pain, and the lady receiving it must want and appreciate the stimulation. ... I am forceful at times, I quite enjoy if not going over someone's limits, at least going to the edge and peering out to see where we are, and deciding if we can take that last step... I am... perhaps "mild/highly sexual." That is how I would describe myself nowadays. When younger, sex was central to the reason I did most things, but now it has to be an exceedingly interesting female for me to spend an inordinate amount of time preoccupied with sexual thoughts.( I always enjoy controlling someone. I assume I developed that mindset as a coach; or became a coach because of it.) I do like the non-sexual aspect of slave/sub ownership, if that isn't as sincere as the sex slave side then the relationship is a ruse, and just a casual sex play, and pretend in my book. BUT the power exchange needs to be invisible in public, nonetheless important. I like "coaching" a woman into the person I think most people should be... yes using every dimension of coaching. I was a successful coach; I would be successful with you...or is it you that would be successful? and BDSM allows for so many coaching techniques that are not acceptable in the mainstream world... On my Intelligence; the more you know the more you know you don't know. The people that say they are the smartest never are ...even more so in this branch of kink. The Kinkiest, are usually very limited in one area of kink, and don't travel well to other domains of BDSM...Braggarts abound...on both sides of the blindfold, so let's get to know each other, I've got better than average formal degrees from Auburn and FSU, and great grades in grad school (undergrad however was just the best 11 years of my life!)... But What makes me feel smart is the people that I admire and value often seek my opinion...and in some of the areas I feel knowledge is difficult to acquire. I also can run a category in Jeopardy...as long as the subject is not gathered from the topics common in People Magazine. MY Profile pic?...I'm flossing my teeth in the odd one...good hygiene is important, yes? But there is a joke that goes with that photo. I found a pubic hair on the floor of a motel where two ladies I knew were staying. So I casually stated what I found, and mentioned it was "nature's dental floss." Then proceeded to actually use it... and then I remembered both these ladies were clean shaven... the joke was on me...who can't laugh at themselves needs to. Disclaimer: I was not actively involved with either woman, but friends learn about friends... The other photo with my two mutts(actually rescued standard poodles) was taken in Feb of 2015..it was damn cold by the river that day. I went to get a pic of the sunset. There was a french Grandmother with her granddaughter there hoping for the same thing...but the sky was clear and the sunset average. However the two of them were quite happy with each other so I volunteered to capture the moment with their camera, and after I did, the Grandmother offered me the same, and I needed one for here. so there it is...nothing contrived. Update: I now have just one dog. The younger one was developing more and more seizures. I paid for an operation that was potentially going to resolve them but she is having stronger and longer ones. She is at U of F's vet school now, and scheduled for an MRI. But it is doubtful she will come home. Actually, I am aware I am not attractive and in general I do not need to be reminded of it by seeing photos of myself. These photos were taken on very rare occasions. If you want a good-looking Dom/Master( I dislike those labels as well), I am not it..I may however be attractive in an odd masculine way. Now..what am I looking for? Goodness knows what I will find. Physically healthy, and mentally-depraved..both in a cute way... hey!? that is EXACTLY what I am looking for...and it took so few words...I thought I'd have to write paragraphs... That really does encompass what I am seeking... Well I am going to flesh that out..I live very near the beach ( i can hear the ocean now, and the waves are less than 2') in Florida for a reason...so "she" must be willing to learn to be a water baby/beach babe... I desire a Long term relationship..as in open-ended and perhaps forever... and it be a Power Exchange, as in I do care very much about you and your ideas and concerns, and I will listen and try to determine what is best, but I do have the final say, and it may not be what you wanted. Yet you best pretend to like it...unless you really feel the need to be persuaded. I can be wrong though, and will be very active in listening to your viewpoint, should we disagree over some issue of importance... Finances?...you should make enough to cover your make-up and clothing. Or be a fantastic slave and I can manage all the bills...and you can make your clothes...just slightly kidding..to live "comfortably" you may want to get a part-time job. And if you really like having a profession, then I won't stop you...everything is open to negotiation in the Vanilla side of the world. Having said that about what I am searching for, I must also say that other types of relationships are interesting and attractive....but the baby/sub crap. I don't like real infants... But. most deviant thoughts that a woman has are good by me...let's hear em, I can work with em, and actually might enjoy you even more. Having talked to a real masochist on here I firmly believe I am more sadistic than i thought... I can go as far as you can and further..but it isn't a central issue to who i am... One last thought, Did you enjoy picking the background color for your profile as much as I did? I must not be too much of a badass. The final color was chosen because it is the color closest to the beach sand around here... I'd have chosen Orange but it was too hard to read . Damn I have to sound more Dominant. "On your knees slave! SPREAD EM." ....there is that better?....Shit I did it again..Ok Ok..."DO NOT CRY. OR I WILL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!" (sounded too much like a Mommy huh.well i am a dom, just ask...and I have a sense of humor and understanding...)