after a few conversations I have understood I am not ready to return.

I thank you all for your time and thoughtful words,

I take my leave again, maybe try in another 5 (?) years

Theartofpleasure

Stiletto secret as hypnotic dance
you come closer touching my heart
A shiver of desire reveals your presence.
Standing over heels your slender beauty revealed.
The sensual touch a kiss seals desire silk touches
a sensual exploring your desire
the silk massage igniting your passion.
Whispers and moans while you grab my head
keeping me close to the soaking fire.
Melting your heart is opening
kissing your love is revealed

1. you seem to not understand
2. you contacted me.  have a FUCKING POINT TO MAKE. or go away
3. I am under no obligation to reply or even read your msgs.  who says I ever had to care?
4. and with it, who says I must be polite or care what I write back?
5. you are not anyone I have to know. or care about

            he is a strong guy so pain he can take in good amount. I am pleased with his tongue he is very good at it. Actually I am not so good at giving humiliation.

 Me

            so you want advice on humiliation?

 the things is, to create situations that humiliate him

 like tying his balls to his ankles, so he can only crawl

 using a collar

 dressing up as a sissy

 spoil his orgasm

 take him in the garden, as a dog

 tell me, what have you tried

 @

            I had him dressed as sissy and also I had given him enemas. I can't take this outside of house. I had him masterbate our dog once which he hated most.

 Me

 seems good to me

 explain why you say

 Actually I am not so good at giving humiliation.

 it is these kind of things that will take him down

 mix pain and humiliation more maybe?

 what did you think of my suggestions?

 @

            I said I am not so good at giving humiliation because I have emotions attached with him. Sometimes I lack giving him degrading commands even I know that he will enjoy it. I like the tasks you wrote. I will have him do them. Maybe I will read him your message so that I can say that it was your command which is he obeying. this way I can disconnect my emotions from him.

 Me

            yes, then you are moving in the direction of roleplay

 if you like we can make a full roleplay

 so you can use that as a guideline

 I think a good roleplay is great

 and the one that works best is that you are a hardcore prodomme

 not caring about him, just want money and pain and humiliation

 to laugh at him suffering

 I am sure he will adore that

 can you do that?

 @

            I have high heels whips floggers and corsets. butt plugs many... strap on too. I have him here now in chastity and a ball gag. what I seek is his humiliation and degradation. can we chat on yahoo? I am there as same username. I will tell hubby to chat with you or your husband so that you can give him actual humiliation and verbal degradation.
We continued online!

It started with these answers:

1) I have been a Domme for 11 years.

 2)Both of My parents are Dominants, I grew up with a household of white slaves, and My parents trained me very well.

 3)Yes, I have had one that lasted 7 years, 4) I get to know My slaves extremely well before taking her on as a slave.

 5)I love having My ass worshiped, and since she is already humiliated by tonguieng My asshole, punishment is otern initiated by having her lick My ass clean after I have shat, then comes the caning of her body, from shoulders to knees, front and back.

 6) I can see Myself becoming more Sadistic than I already am.

 7) That question I will prefer not to answer.

Yes you may expound on My exquisite beauty

And the last sentence tempted me to become involved. Like I was also involved with others, although keeping my distance

i do its my dream to live in germany where my ethnic origins originate from. I have a very abusive life where i live at right now and am tired of it but can't work due to ……. so i don't have the income to move out and very much need out of my current situation 

and of course:

that what i'm saying. I'm not worth the trouble because i can't be here every day. it's hard for me to stick to a schedule. and i also talk to other dommes. because of that i have not been able to focus on you and Miss A exclusively. i too much like to talk and play with other dommes too.

Cleary indicating I fail in my intentions. Also the respond level is falling back, from Dommes as well as subs. And no questions come, is my project breaking up?

Last week I decided to try a new profile, and look into counseling of (mostly) dommes. I must admit I am not satisfied with our performance on CS, and many agree with me. How come, what is going on? Well part of the story is dead simple, idiots, fakers, wankers are everywhere. But I don’t think we can blame them for that, not just. I see also a lot of friction between Dommes and subs, and the most interesting comment’s that I got on the question of what would you like to share as experience were:

 Find someone experienced. It doesn't matter if they know more than you, or provide advice. When you're learning, an educated sub is better than an inexperienced one.

To grow as a Domme, you have to be able to take constructive criticism and surround yourself with positive people that want to see you succeed. Albeit male doms, female dommes, subs and/or slaves.

Be trustworthy and honest.

Now these are what I call eyeopeners, yes, it is that simple!!  What many Dommes forget is that this is a skill, a matter of experience. And yes, you grow by sharing, being open and honest.

What is the main challenge for subs, to be faithfull. Like another stated:

Ignore people. If they want something different neither of you will change don't think because there sub you can change them.

And then it is not strange that relations sometimes don’t last very long:

No, most was a few weeks and all end badly due to subs getting needy.

To me it seems we are not passionate, not playful. I might not be the expert, but isn’t this all about roleplay. The word “play” isn’t there by coincidence!

Please share your thoughts!

I thank all that shared their experience with me, I have over 10 detailed replies. And if you cannot find your ideas here, it is because I haven’t finished yet. All others that ignored my request, I kindly ask to reconsider and step in.

One of my ideas is to get an “think box”. A group of Dommes that comment on others challenges, like:

Also I'm too soft and giving to potential slaves :/ it sucks. It makes me look weak

My reply was:

just a suggestion: you work according a fixed ? or do you improvise? I would say you need to be stricter fr yourself, stay on course and do what you planned to

Ignore the demands of your subs

they will be more happy