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subnikita
| Pan Female, 60, Binghamton, New York
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I am a married woman whose husband is well aware I am looking for a Dominant play partner. NO I cant be your primary partner. NO I cant relocate. Apparently the last time I updated my profile this part did not get saved. It has taken me months to get the powers to be on Collarsapace to figure out why I couldnt bring up my profile. Apparently its fixed.
My husband has tried several times to become the Dominant I need. He just cant. Im looking for someone who knows the mind body connection. If you cant capture my mind my body wont follow. Flogging, caning, king, etc are all very fun activities. However, without engaging and capturing my mind its simply impact play. Im a masochist. I love a good pain scene, but if my head is not into the scene its not good pain. Some will understand this and some will not. If youd dont, please dont contact me. Life is too short to waste.
Questions that all submissives should ask Dominants who wish to engage with them
1. Do you currently have a submissive?
2. If not, how long has it been since you have had a submissive? Why did the relationship break up?
3. Did it break up on good terms. Would you use her as a reference for a new submissive?
4. What would SHE say were YOUR strengths and weaknesses?
5. Why do you feel she felt that way?
6. What are you doing to continually learn about this lifestyle?
AS a dominant you should gladly and honestly answer these questions and not get your boxers in a bunch about being asked these questions.
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11/21/2021 6:33:22 AM: I'm taking a break from here. Way too much going on in real life. If we've connected elsewhere, feel free to connect there. Just too many places to go to connect with friends.
10/18/2021 1:58:50 PM: So, since it's such a pain in the ass to change your profile on here still, I'll just a journal entry instead.
I'm looking to explore the Daddy Dom/baby girl dynamic. No, not age play per se, and if you are a Daddy Dom you will know what I mean. I'm finding it harder to recover quickly after impact scenes so I think I'll put those on the back burner unless they are fairly mild.
DDlg is more about the mind connection. I am always so taken back by how many think BDSM is beat 'em and fuck 'em. That is far from the truth. Those who scratch your head about this statement need to just keep on going, pass me by. I won't be insulted, honestly I won't.
11/2/2017 8:40:51 PM: I've been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching lately and randomly had thoughts about things that really get me into that sub head space. One that popped up is being called Baby Girl. I'm not sure why I like that expression but I do. Baby Girl, BG - either make my insides go soft and girly. I guess I feel that if someone feels enough for me to call me Baby Girl then I know they 'get me' and realize that it puts this goofy grin on my face, and my eyes turn all baby girlish LOL.
The other thing I realize that really makes me get into the sub head space quickly is pulling my hair and restraining me that way. Now not the 'ouch, you bastard, that really hurts' type of hair pulling, but the playful tug that gets my attention and tells me to pay attention to you or what is going on around you. I saw a bumper sticker the other day 'If you're going to ride my ass at least pull my hair'. I laughed so hard and thought, yea, I like that LOL.
I recently had a scene with a Dom friend of mine who knows me pretty well. He always has a part in the scene where he will pull my hair, pull my head back and growl something in my ear. Wow that really will send me into sub space quickly. I really like that combination and often revisit the scenes in my mind and smile at the way it affects me.
Isn't it odd what things make us go all soft and dewy eyed?
8/31/2017 2:35:25 PM: PLEASE READ MY PROFILE BEFORE YOU MESSAGE ME
3/14/2017 5:43:48 PM: OK,OK - NO I'M IGNORING ANYONE!!! My vanilla job (I work for myself) suddenly got way too busy. So patience please.
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