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Pan Female, 74, AdelaideSA, Australia 
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LE

This profile concerns who I am in relation to the lifestyle community at large and is for any others in the community with whom I might interact, or who might simply be interested, as well as a few other things not specifically related to the lifestyle but that indicate who I am as a person.

I am a Domme. That is fundamental to who and what I am as a person, not a role I take up and play, and not just a kink I enjoy. It means that I am the one with the authority and responsibility for making all the big, life shaping, decisions in my relationships, and that a-symmetrical structure of authority permeates and shapes all aspects of my relationships. Less fundamentally, I also like to express my sexuality, love and care through various forms of sadistic play.  And I am and have always been poly and bisexual, even before I knew the word. For me, that means I've been able to enjoy casual sex with a variety of people of different genders and body types, as well as a range of more ongoing relationships with different levels of commitment. These days, I am ethically non-monogamous, although for much of my life I was not. 

I also believe that far from being some form of evil, sick, or perverted deviance, such relationships enrich the lives of those who choose them, and that they are legitimate, and should be able to be enjoyed with the same freedom as 'normal' monogamous, heterosexual, non-kinky relationships and sex lives. 

I enjoy connecting and sharing with others who share a similar way of living and the values underpinning it: honesty, openness, and intimacy.  I have, at times, played an active role in building and sustaining communities of such people, although these days I'm not very active in that regard.

While I would not overclaim my knowledge, understanding, or technical skills, I consider myself to be nurturant and supportive, and a good teacher. I happen to be trans: I spent much of my life living and identifying as a man but I now live and identify, and am mostly identified by others, as a woman. 

At present I have only one relationship: with my slave. He is a perfect match for me, both as a slave and more broadly as a person. We have been involved together for nearly 6 years, most of it at a distance, with regular visits, as we lived in different countries.  In January 2022, he was able to migrate to be with me, and we are now (finally) married and living together.  While I still describe myself as poly, I am deeply content living monogamously with him, and am not currently interested in any further relationships; I do not see that changing.  

I love gardening, cooking and eating (a meal built around food fresh picked from our garden with my darling slave is one of my deep pleasures). I play sport competitively and like to cycle. I'm involved in my local community association as a volunteer, and am actively involved in building connections in my local neighbourhood. Finally, I am committed to the ongoing support of my ageing parents.

I value personal integrity and generosity of spirit, I value a disposition to personal growth and an openness to learning and new experiences, a commitment to self-care, physically and emotionally, and a general sense of sociability. I value commitment to, but not obsession about, career. I am a retired academic, with an active intellectual and cultural life. I value connection with people - relationships of various sorts.

Two notes about writing.1. I prefer to communicate in complete sentences and complete words (I dislike intensely text abbreviations). 2. *sigh* How depressing that I even feel the need to write this but... if you are going to write to me, for heaven’s sake make it more than a bland hello, especially if your profile tells me nothing about you. Who are you? Why are you writing to me? What of interest do you think we might share? Do you have questions you would like to ask me about the lifestyle? Communicate, folks... communicate!

Finally, the photo is of me; it was taken mid-July 2017.

 

6/8/2023 4:13:54 AM: once again... 1. Read my profile before you write.  I'm not just a fetish , nor a fetish dispenser... I'm a person.  It pisses me off to be written to as just a 'type'.  2. Read my profile before yo write.  It says, don't just send an empty one liner that says nothing more than 'Hi'. 

12/12/2022 2:12:02 PM: From my profile:    if you are going to write to me, for heavens sake make it more than a bland hello, especially if your profile tells me nothing about you. Who are you? Why are you writing to me? What of interest do you think we might share? Do you have questions you would like to ask me about the lifestyle? Communicate, folks... communicate!

11/25/2022 3:14:46 PM: I don't use CollarSpace much any more, so it's taken me a while to realise that the Journals function has reappeared after a long absence.  Excellent!

4/4/2018 5:07:11 PM: I accidentally came across, and then deliberately read, a profile and associated journal entries that I found most eshing.The profile was plain, simple, honest and unpretentious.  The basic message was: This is who I am; if you want to get to know me, be yourself.But it was one of the journal entries that really made me stop and think.  Basically, it said: it's easy to complain about all the fakes here; I want to comment about the good people I've met here.  Of course, there are plenty of fakes, and in my opinion, it's important to warn newcomers about the risks of being taken in, and then taken advantage of, and at best disappointed and at worst badly damaged, by them.  But, it's also important to recognise that there are many good people here. Since arriving in Adelaide, four months ago, I've met face to face, five 'good, real, people' whom I've first encountered here.  Moreover, since I first joined CS's predecessor site in 2009, I've met, here, the woman who became my mentor as a Domme, the girl who was my submissive for five years, a woman who became a friend and part-time, casual, domestic slave and a good number of others who passed through my life, enriching it in various ways as they did.  I've also met, 'just' online, a substantial number of others whom I have every reason to believe are who they presented themselves to be, and with who I have shared thoughtful, and thought-provoking, conversations about the lifestyle, and indeed, about life.  And, while not strictly relevant to contacts on CS, on another BDSM 'hookup' site (Alt.com) I've encountered many others who have proved themselves to be genuine, real, unpretentious good people.... people who've taken time out of their busy lives to host me in their homes, and spend time simply talking, sharing their knowledge and experience.So, with all the talk of fakes and frauds and predators, let's not forget the good people we can meet here.  Thank you Silvergirl1 for your reminder of this.

2/13/2018 1:35:06 PM: I'm not the only one with an eye for incongruities in profiles.I had this message this morning from another CS member: I have another outrageous one for you ...A woman on here claims to be a 20 year old dominate but her profile has been active for 10 years.....I guess her family and CS let her make a profile when she was cracking her whip at 10 years old Kids these days!  They grow up so fast!A further, reflective comment.  I've realised that CS doesn't automatically update our ages. So, I might join now, at age 20.  Unless I make a point of updating my age on my profile, in ten years time, I will show as having been here for 10 years, but will still show as a 20-year-old.  That makes some, less cynical, sense of the ones whose profiles suggest that they have been here since before puberty.  

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