To open with, in full disclosure: I am a switch, yes, but I have a sub who satisfies my needs in that regard. If you're a sub, I'm *only* interested in conversation, please do not approach me as a prospective Domme. For Doms/other switches, I'm much more cautious around men than women, so be prepared to take your time if you're approaching me for more than conversaion.

Next potential dealbreaker, I'm gray-ace. Which is to say, most of the time, I have zero sex drive, do not try and convince me otherwise, accept it as a part of me. I'll go through month-long phases where I do, but they're an exception rather than the norm, so if sex is an inherent part of BDSM to you, I'm not who you're looking for.

Rather, my kink tends to be focused on the emotional/mental aspects of power exchange, as well as being *heavily* sadomasochistic- pain is a far more important sensation to me, and if I had to give one up, I'd give up sex before pain, any day.

If you want to be my Dom/me, then expect to be held to a high standard- sure, once we're *in* the dynamic I'm happy to be degraded and treated roughly, but *before* that point you need to be someone I can trust with my vulnerability. If you can't both radiate care and dominant energy, chances are, things won't work out.

If you're just looking for friends, though, my inbox is always open. I love getting to know fellow kinksters and talking about whatever's relevant, sharing interests and experiences.

Once again: I am not looking for subs. Please, please have read this before messaging me. I don't want to be heavy handed with the block button, but if I have to, I will.