In recent times I have chatted with 2 potential Slaves. Both showed serious interests and even provided pictures of themselves which none existed in their profile. Being here long enough I try to be cautions of players, scammers, and fakes so after chatting awhile I usually ask for proof who they say they are. Usually a few pictures first which I check against that on the internet (use both Google’s Image and TinEye) and a majority come back with a website with their picture. Many get out of that using the excuse saying their ex boyfriend or Master made them do it. However, in cases that no picture is found I consider them as possible legit seekers but perform one more check. I ask to see a picture of their driver’s license. This does 3 things 1) that their pictures match, 2) proves their age (get under age people a lot) , and 3) their true location (many are from out of the USA). If they are not agreeable I can only assume they are fake and move on. I’m not going to play a game with people who are liars and fakes.

I am writing this journal entry to ask if anyone on Collarspace (formally Collarme) is serious in finding an owner. I have been on here for several years hoping to find that special one but instead find scammers who are interested in getting relocation money but never show. Then when one no longer provides relocation money  you are called cheep and not worthy in being a Master. Then there are the non-USA individuals who start sentences with "Am" and use  "God fearing"  in the body of their profile.  Then there are the individuals who use pictures lifted from the internet implies that they are them. I usually wind up blocked when I point this out.  One can easily check for lifted internet pictures by using Google Images or Tineye.  There are males  who are seeking to be TS but list themselves under the female heading. Then there are individuals who seem to be lifers. Someone who states they are looking but not truly serious or just seeking chat buddies.  Then there are those who say they are looking but either had accounts years old or continually create new accounts. Unlike the Dominant males here who rarely are contacted I understand the females are bombarded with as much as a 100 inquiries a day. One would think by sheer numbers the probability would be there to find a match. It seems to me that many either like all the attention they are getting or they just are players looking for the thrill of it. Lastly for those very few who do take the time to respond whether interested or not interested I have to congratulate them for being so courteous. They are a rare find here on Collarspace.

Over time since Collarme now reborn as CollarSpace to me it seems like a few things are happening even more
1) The number of foreign individuals implying they live in the US.
2) The number of TS now appearing under submissive females.
3) The number of couples also appearing under submissive females.

Lastly I have to major questions
1) Why do individuals delete message unread? If the are seeking a specific type of Dominant then why don't they mention that in their profile
2) Why do individuals while viewing their profile go and lock you out before even getting a chance to email them or not. Again specify what you are seeking in your profile.
3) Why is it that so many women want specific messages written to them and pictures attached when they don't even respond to the message? I know most submissives are bombarded by hundreds of message and don't have time to reply to them all. So then why can't a Dominant just indicate they are interested and state in a canned message what they seek if most of the messages are being dumped anyway? Also most want my picture but several refuse to let you see theirs.

In the last couple of weeks I have been viciously attacked by individuals (submissives) who I never contacted. I thought this board was open to all types of various BDSM activities not just those who think their concept of BDSM is.  In most cases these individuals are younger and attack my age. my looks, and my profile sending rude and insulting remarks. If you disagree you can always block those you disagree with. However, those who send scathing remarks typically does this anyway.

I was chatting with a potential slave here on Collarme and all was going well until I mention I was not going to be a sugar daddy. While I am financially secure I don’t believe in the pay to play concept. Either your interested in beings ones slave or not after that communication with her ceased. Later I supposed in chatting with other Dom’s she added this line to her profile “Im not a piece of meat, im a woman and i need respect” . Umm … interesting that you want money to play and reject someone then come back with a statement like that.

This has been bugging me for some time. It’s people pictures. With all the modern cell phones in the last 5 years most take fairly decent pictures even the old 2 megapixel types. So why is it so many pictures are blurred or fuzzy? Also what is it with so many black & white pictures as well. Need to stop being arty farty and portray who you really are. After all you are trying to promote yourself.

Stop contacting me if you are

To all Gays - I am only seeking born females. I am not interested

 To all TS – like with gays I am not interested unless you are 18-30 years of age, a face & body that is 100% feminine looking, and a cock that is rendered useless by castration (neuter) or permanent chastity. Even then it would be a stretch to accept you.

I was asked about why I didn’t include couples

To Couples – After giving this some thought seeking only couples whose ages are under 30 & HWP that meet the following conditions  - the female will become my sex slave with no limits. She wil be totally “owned and controlled” by me. The male – who is cuckold and chastised will be our financial slave, cook, & house cleaner. In time my plan would be to turn him into a sissy TS who wears a maid costume and heels. Also place him on regiment of female hormones. His duty is to use his tongue to clean up after the female and I have sex.

I am just curious why so many supposed submissive / slaves can’t accept the following.

1) You must be a USA citizen living in the USA. (Possible exception Canada) – Reason too many individuals from overseas like Nigeria & Sudan misrepresenting themselves as living in the USA.

2) Also due to the large amount of scamming which has been done I will no longer be paying for relocation. – Reason proving monies for airfare, car gas, hotel lodging, and food, and apartment lease buyouts for potential submissives / slaves has resulted in everyone being a no-show costing me several thousand dollars. What guarantee that they will show?

3) Also, please not be trying to sell something like web cam porn or yourself for services. I am not interested. – Reason I am seeking a submissive / slave not someone selling web cam services or even selling themselves (prostitution or supposed slaves for sale).

4)  I do not provide my IM address immediately I need to get to know you and see if there is any true compatibility between us. Until that time I will use Collarme e-mail to communicate with. - Reason I have run into way too many fakes and players. Seems like less than 10% are truly serious if that. I do not want to provide my IM or email to anyone until I am sure they seem real and interested enough in a possible commitment. I want to remain anonymous until I am sure.

This has to do with individuals using color text and/or backgrounds in their profile. While it makes it appear cute it makes it very difficult to read. A simple black text on a white background is the best. Also please make your font size large enough to read.

More questions of whys

This has to do with Profiles who one enters to read their lengthy profiles because they state at the beginning to be sure to completely read their long winded profile before responding. I did that and wrote a response message only to find out I was blocked (profile not found) . It is sad that an individual would not even allow the first message through. If it had to do with conditions such as age, location, or HWP it should be mentioned in the profile.

In the following case age or race supposedly made no difference and Was ok with US or Canada as a location but still blocked before first inquiry.

- brightasunshine

A question of whys?

-          Why are there so many black & white pictures of people?

-          Why don’t more individuals have pictures? Everyone has camera phones these days

-          Why do Domme’s continue (3 to 4 a day) to view my profile when I am clearly marked my Orientation as Dominant Male & checked Actively Seeking Submissive Women?

-          Why does there seem to be a growing number of foreigners claiming to be USA residents and seeking money for relocation?

-          Why also are there more individuals selling their services – web porn, click on web site to earn them money, selling of slaves, selling of sexual services, and those seeking someone financially able to support them in a luxury lifestyle.

-          Why can’t individuals show courtesy to reply even if not interested and if they do in such a manner its not disrespectful or offensive?  

I just received the following messages from a submissive but removed her username due to the fact she was worried I use it against her.

The Comments:

1/28/11 at 1:05 PM:
by the way, I hope that my explanation will not actually land me in the journal with a nasty note.
My reason for explaining the proactive block was to avoid all that.

1/28/11 at 1:03 PM
Fyi, Criticism of another named user is one of the reasons you can report a journal entry.
I notice your journal is full of such things. That is the reason I blocked you proactively. I do not want to end up in your nasty grams if you find me lacking.
I think some people may be hesitant to talk to you, given they too don't want to have their name spread around negatively. Perhaps you would consider keeping to yourself your problems with others. As there are always two sides to every story.

The Response:

Here is an individual who has stated her opinion – good or bad I don’t care but proceeded to block me from responding to her criticism of me.  I am very open minded when it comes to honest feedback. I have rarely blocked anyone from saying their mind and have been very courteous when I respond even when I disagree with them. She points out there are two sides to every story so why is she opposed to hearing mine. She doesn’t know me personally. As for those whom I stated I feel if they were truly submissive they could of say they are just not interested without just coming out and blocking me. For the rest they are liars – People who state they are USA residents but actually from other countries like Sudan or Nigeria which even Collarme have warnings against. Scammers who ask for money (prostitution is illegal) or promoting a web porn site or another website for one to join (exempt are those paying sponsors to Collarme).

So yes Virginia there is a Santa Claus – so get to know me before making an opinion of me. There are people who are here looking for the real thing and not some fakes and scammers.  Please know all the facts before jumping  to conclusions why I stated them.

I have been on Collarme for about 2 years now. In that time I have met some wonderful individuals who became close friends. However, in trying to find the right female slave for me I have run into scammers and game players. Scammers in the sense they seek money or assistance for citizenship / relocation into the country.  Game players in the sense that they lead one on believing you are the right one for them only after weeks /months if chatting online either disappear or go with another Master.  What ever happen to the key values in D/S relationship such as respect, honesty, and trust?  

As many of you submissives/slaves know how aggravating it is to put up with the fakes and game players. Even with the bold red at the beginning of my profile of what I am NOT seeking I still get an average of three a week from those NOT a USA citizen. I try to be polite and restate my position but get into a debate how good a slave they would make me. It takes ignoring them for weeks until they go away. I also have been here for over a year and I know exactly what I am looking for. In my inquiries I state I am seeking a much younger Slave for serious long term/lifetime relationship. I am not looking for long drawn out discussion and seek a slave who is willing to relocate rather quickly in less than 2 months and willing to fund relocation on their own.  I also state no game players only those who are truly serious. I spent numerous hours chatting with potential slaves who appeared to be serious only to find out they accepted offers for another Master or been under another Master ownership.  I am not here to cyber sex or be someone’s entertainment. I am seriously looking for that one who will be my slave. If a younger slave reads this and is truly interested feel free to contact me.

In the last two months I had been communicating with 3 potential slaves each one individually of course. With the first two we chatted for about 4 sessions received mail how interested they were and then suddenly removed their profile. The third one responded she was definitely interested then before I had a chance to read it also removed her profile. If they changed their minds they could of erased the message or indicated they were no longer interested. Yes there entries were removed and not just blocked. Can any one tell me why someone would go to the trouble of showing interest then suddenly leave?