Who Am I?

I am the man, to whom, everyone in the room, naturally seems to defer.  I don’t raise my voice or make grabs for attention to achieve this…it just happens.  I am almost always the wisest man in the room.  If you know me, then I am the one you come to for advice and I am the one whose advice you heed most carefully.  

I am a gentleman.  I believe in good manners.  I abhor those who use this lifestyle as an excuse to abuse others.  I am a leader.  I am fiercely intelligent.  I have a commanding presence. I would rather command with a whisper or a look than raised voice.  

I am silly.  I love to laugh.  I have a boy’s heart.  Star Wars is my favorite movie—I quote it often.  I love sports.  I don’t play video games.  I love to read.  I am a voracious reader.  I am always in the middle of a book, unless I’m choosing a new one to begin.  

I am affectionate.  I enjoy touch.  My hand belongs somewhere on your body.  I am looking for love.  D/s without love is empty and meaningless to me.  I love dogs.  I’m allergic to cats—no matter how perfect you may be for me, if you’re unwilling to give up your kittens, we can’t be together.  

I am not wealthy.  I do have my flaws.  I am single, never married with no kids.  

I am very sexual.  I am very kinky.  I am sincere in my search and honest in my dealings.

Who are you?  

I don’t come looking for you with some preconceived idea of who you are.  You don’t exist in my mind as a checklist.  In fact, I find checklist people to be amazingly foolish—as if any of us are aware enough to know it until we find it.  If you believe in checklists and have foolish bunches of deal breakers, you aren’t for me.  

I’d rather be surprised by you than fit you into some preconceived box.  

There are some things about you that are important, if we are mesh, though.  For instance, it makes you happy to make others happy—especially someone you love.  In fact, acts of service is your love language.  It’s how you show affection.  It makes you feel good to serve and please the one you love and not having someone to dote on like that makes you feel sad and lonely.  

You need control and discipline in your life.  Whether you’re an executive with a team of people reporting to you all day or work on the bottom rung of your flagpole, you have within you a hunger for someone who can make your world a smaller place, safer place—a place where you need not worry and stress.

It’s important that you have these qualities because this is what I take, what I need from you and it’s what I give, what I offer you.  These are the means of how we will serve one and other.  These will be the basis of our symbiosis.  

What kind of life will we live?

I’m looking for a TPE and to live the D/s lifestyle.  That means different things to different people, so allow me to elaborate.  I don’t seek role-play and I don’t seek bedroom games.  I seek a permanent power exchange dynamic.  I expect this to be how we live our lives.  Does that mean we can’t go out to dinner with vanilla friends or go on dates to the movies?  Of course not.

It means there will be a constant dynamic between us that will be the structure of our relationship.  It means you will be Mine in public, in private, in the bedroom, on the couch, at your parents’ place for Sunday brunch.  In private, there will be one set of protocols in place.  In public, there will be another—a very subtle, discrete version, that will be just as strong but no one will ever know our secret, unless we choose to tell them for some reason.

THAT is living the life 24/7.  It is consistent, even though it’s very different in public and private.  It gives you the security you need to be happy, because it’s always there.

What else?

All the rest is details.  Are we attracted to one and other?  I find that to be a necessity.  Are there things about you that make me want to know you more?  Are there things about me that make me want to know you?  Fetishes?  Oh, I’m happy to discuss those with you, but this life is only about fetish for those for whom it’s ALL about fetish.  If there’s something, in particular, that you feel you need, just tell me and I”m sure I can accommodate you—however, I am not a sadist.  Don’t get me wrong, I believe in a good spanking.  I just don’t get off on your pain.  I am more of a sensual, psychological dominant than one who needs brutal force to get what he wants.  

What’s next?  

The ball is in your court.  You must be brave.  You must show that you’ve read this far and do something that may be outside of your nature.  You need to contact me first.  The fakes and flakes very rarely do so—if you take the time to introduce yourself to me, as I have to you, I can promise that I will respond.  I would prefer you say more than hello.  If you can’t put yourself to words, the way I have done here, that’s okay.  But tell me a story about yourself, tell me a secret, tell me something that reveals a bit of you.

If you can be that brave and give that much…who knows what might happen next.

The Pictures: They are not me.  They are what I wish to create. If the life in those photos appeals to you, we'll likely get along just fine.  I have no problems sharing my own photo.  Simply send one of yourself and I will return one of me.

Finally:  I’ve been on this site for a while, though the truth of the matter is that my search was very casual.  That is changing.  I expect my search to intensify and bear fruit.  If we have communicated in the past and fallen off for any reason and you wish to begin anew, I would encourage you to do so

P.S.  My journal entries will help you understand me even better.  You should read them if you’re interested in becoming Mine.