Collarspace

Well... I am warm and bubbly, fun, outgoing, intelligent, genuine, open minded, adventurous, cultured and well traveled. I am incredibly affectionate and very tactile ( especially after a couple drinks oops)... Im a bit of a paradox, incredibly open minded and sexual but I am not casual about my sexuality. I love exploring and learning about new cultures. I take great pleasure in taking care of and helping others its just how I am wired I guess. I love animals, and volunteer with a rescue. I am family oriented and in general a good girl. I try to surround myself with intelligent and interesting people that I can learn from. Ive been an equestrian my whole life (competitively most of it) and I love riding, I also used to play polo. I practice yoga, play tennis, ski, love the beach, hike, snorkeling, and love film (Im a bit of a cinephile).

I am submissive but Im not your typical.stereotypical idea of what that means. I am confident and alpha in my life and interactions and am only submissive to my partner. Men seem to expect that anyone who identifies as submissive will automatically drop to their knees, and begin taking order.. That may be true for some people but I feel that devalues my gift of submission to my partner. Submission is earned not just given. The major appeal with submission for me is control, not having it is incredibly freeing and cathartic to me. Im highly analytical so not being in control and getting out of my own head is amazing for me. There is a certain freedom in not making any decision. Apart from control service, both sexually and domestically are a big part my submission. I am culinarily skilled and I love cooking. I take pride in my domestic abilities. I believe in traditional gender roles, I find solace traditionally female activities. I am a girly girl, I love to dress up and I work to be put together. Im a natural pleaser, not just in the sexual sense but overall. I love making people happy. I would love to find someone who is also a foodie, and can appreciate good wine and bourbon too. I try to live a healthy lifestyle but cooking for someone who wont ever eat a carbgraindairy can be a bit trying.

I dont have any specific fetishes per se, there are certain activities that Im more drawn to and others Im certainly not interested in. Im still figuring things out where my experience is still limited but I do know where my limits are pee, blood, scat, hard pain or impact play, fisting, rimming or anything bodily damaging. I am as far from a masochist as possible. I like to play rough but I dont like pain for the sake of pain. I enjoy control based activities such as breath play and bondage. Pretty much Im still a mostly blank canvas looking for the right partner to help me develop and become whom I am meant to be.

I prefer more experienced partners, Ive generally dated older and have no interest in anyone under 30. Physical attraction is important but most important is a mental and intellectual connection. In an ideal world Im looking for the holy grail eventually a 247 1950s style dynamic with the twist of Ds relationship that is happy and healthy. I am monogamous and that is non negotiable. I want to add Im not looking for anything online only or anything long distance for the long term. If we have mutual interest and youre not local I would want to establish a proactive plan to meet in person and then eventually be in the same location in a reasonable time period. Im not looking for a penpal, or kinky phone chat. This is my life and very real to me.

ENFJ personality type