Collarspace

Thank you for taking the time to read my profile, if you have questions, you may ask.

I am often asked if Im a sadist or like hard activities. This is a very hard question to answer as the interaction changes with each Ms relationship. I feel the Dom needs to be satisfied in the dynamics but he doesnt just get to do as he desires without regard for the sub. I seek submission and it excites me when a sub submits. This can be from the exchange, pain, pleasure or sexually. Most of us can tell when your partner is struggling or not enjoying themselves. And each sub has a different pain and pleasure scale. This is what makes meeting new people awesome. If you kept meeting people that were exactly the same you would stop trying. This is why its hard to answer the sadist question. To some submissives the cane is the worst implement, to others its the paddle. We often hear do you like thud or sting? And each sub handles pain differently and some seek subspace more than orgasm. I like all bdsm activities, but I understand that 10 cane strokes is a deal breaker to some and heaven to others. It doesnt matter to me what you can handle as long as you submit.

Many dominants on this site like to control another orgasms, I ask why? Is this to have the submissive ready and wanting? This seems like a physical attraction at best, what about the mental need. I view the withholding of an orgasm as a sad and lonely substitute for what a submissive truly desires-- a deep, passionate erotic existence in the arms of a strong, demanding, dominant man- do your toys or fingers provide that? And we all know its better to give than to receive, especially when a strong woman gives you her most intimate actions...

My Ideal Person have loved ever lady I have ever met. I love conversation and play equally. This does not mean I wont take one over the other, its just, I dont really make that decision until we meet. There are of course a few things that work well with my demeanor unfiltered, optimistic and wanting. And ladies please know your own body, I will of course guide you as best I can, but if you cant describe or at least show me your pleasure areas, how in the world can I push you during a king or when pain comes into play?