3/10/2014 8:24:00 PM: “It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn't give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don't like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.” ― Ashly Lorenzana

3/10/2014 8:22:53 PM: I must admit that I have been thinking of editing some of my posts because I have been contemplating constantly and deeply on the idea of humility, submission and pride and my ideas have evolved. I have also been doing so on the idea of being a good dominant man. While the search within myself for a deeper understanding of human behavior and BDSM righteousness/morality goes on, I have found that some small details of my post might have been too general and could possibly be misunderstood. However, The general idea of each post is still absolutely correct.   These profound thoughts and the fact that these writings have been so well received have led me to idea of writing a book to bring people personal evolution within the lifestyle. I am hoping that if I do write it, it can bring all of us involved in this community to look at ourselves from another perspective. One that is much more rational and fulfilling. One that looks at love and happiness as ultimate goals, instead of short term pleasure. Many of the ideas of morality within the lifestyle would have a touch of utilitarianism, existentialism and Kantian ethics, however, these ideas would form its on moral theory.   I want to thank all those people that have messaged me being grateful for the posts and those that have had such kind words to say. I am glad I can provide a bit of knowledge to many people that feel a bit lost out there :)

12/17/2013 9:46:34 PM: Please check 'radionaldom1983' for an updated version of my journal and profile.

11/2/2013 11:56:47 PM: What is the Difference Between a Dominant Man and a Master? The question 'what is the difference between being submissive and a slave?' is asked very often and there are many articles out there that discuss this issue. I have yet to write one about it but I decided to go with the differences between a Dominant man and a Master first because it is not questioned very often.   First of all, the word Master can be taken in two ways. It could mean 'a man who has people working for him, esp. servants or slaves' or it could mean 'a skilled practitioner of a particular art or activity'. If a dominant decides to have his submissive call him Master, he should explain to her in what sense she will be saying it. She should be aware of what she's saying, especially if you have few skills.   I describe a dominant man in my profile quite well, because that is what I consider myself. If you must know, I do have the almost impossible goal of becoming a Master one day (Although I heavily dislike the sound of the word).   A REAL dominant man is independent, charming, respectable (in every sense), stable, integral, strong, honest, intelligent, educated, imaginative, has a healthful amount of self esteem (unlike most here), has control of his life and has the ability to control his emotions and to guide and inspire his submissive. He should always have the safety and benefit of the relationship and the general safety of his submissive as indispensable requirements for every one of his orders and decisions.   A Master is a dominant man who is skilled in BDSM, therefore, In order to be a Master, you must be everything that I previously mentioned plus the following skills:   Bondage: This includes all or at least most forms of rope bondage there is.   Psychology: This is probably the most important skill you can have and the most difficult to obtain. Personally it is the one I enjoy the most and the one I work at the hardest. Understanding how the mind of another person works is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship. If you are unable to open the mind of a submissive, it is highly unlikely that you will ever be able to teach her anything, much less keep her with you.   Reprogramming: Many submissive women have been fed monumental amounts of bullshit from many online sources or other people in the lifestyle that continuously repeat erroneous ideas that simply sound noble but have absolutely no logical base. You are going to have the oh so simple and delightful task of teaching her the right ideas and getting rid of those wrong ideas that she holds dear to her heart. You must also become an expert at behavioral modification in order to be able to properly train someone. This includes conversational hypnosis, anchoring, cognitive behavioral therapy, neuro-linguistic programming or NLP (Although I'm not a huge fan of it), among many others. This takes many years of education and practice, don't expect to be an expert from an online course. A Master must always use these scientifically proven methods for reprogramming during training in an ethical manner.   Lie detection: I suppose this could be part of psychology. You must be able to read your submissive like a book. How can you have control of someone if you do not understand how they feel? How can you control someone if you don't even know that they're lying to you?   BDSM terminology: How can an accountant teach someone else what a balance sheet is if he doesn't understand what assets, liabilities, equity, debits, and credits are?   The many different power exchange lifestyles: This includes those that you're not even remotely interested in... You want to be a Doctor? You hate chemistry? Well... too bad. you still have to take it.   Experience: This is pretty obvious. I don't care how good you were in college. When you got that first job with your degree... on those first few weeks, everyone was better than you. Why? experience. Want to be a Master? It takes years. Be patient.   Proper use of toys. Whipping, floggers, canes, among many others can be very dangerous if not used properly. A Master can use and has control of any of these tools as if they were part of his body.   I am sure there are many more necessary skills but hopefully many submissive women will start asking self claimed Masters if they mean that because they already own slaves or submissive women or because they are extremely skilled and educated in the liy do answer that they are skilled, please question such skills.

11/2/2013 10:08:04 PM: Proud to Be Submissive? Then You're Not Submissive!   Many people in this website claim that they are proud to be submissive but this is a self contradiction. I would like to remind people that the core of submission is humility. The moment you say you are proud to be humble, you are no longer humble. The moment you become proud of your submission, it is goodbye submissiveness. As matter of fact, if you go on Google.com and you type the words 'Define humility' you will realize that submissiveness is part of the synonyms that show. Furthermore, if you click on the down arrow, you will see that the ONLY WORD listed as an antonym is pride.   Let's start by defining Humility. According to Google, Humility is a modest or low view of one's own importance. Please note that it does NOT say that humility is a low view of one's value. It does not matter who you are. You can be a famous singer, a doctor, a teacher, a parent, or the president of the united states, but if you are humble, you understand that your importance as a human being is equal to that of any other human being. No matter who you are, you are under the same social contract and you have the same 'rights' as anyone else.   Imagine a submissive person for a moment. Imagine all their personality traits, all the virtues that come from being submissive. The heart of being submissive is selflessness. The reason why they do what they do and the beauty of submission is that they love or care about someone so much that they put them before themselves. This is humility! Can you imagine this person as proud? I'm sure you can't and the reason you can't is because you cannot have a submissive person without humility, just like you can't have an egotistic person without pride.   A submissive woman kneels in front of another person because they understand this does not make them more or less valuable than the person they are kneeling for. As a matter of fact, they understand that this action does not make them more or less valuable than anyone in the world. It is a way of saying 'I accept you as my authority, as my guide and I submit to your will, I put your happiness and joy before my own'. A submissive woman understands that kneeling is not a way of saying 'Your life is more valuable than mine' neither is it a way of saying 'I am more valuable than most women because I kneel in front of you'. Do you realize how contradictory and paradoxical that sounds? The action of kneeling shows respect, appreciation, submission, selflessness and over all things, it shows that you are humble, if you are proud of it, then kneeling in front of someone is completely MEANINGLESS!   “Humility is like underwear, essential, but indecent if it shows”Helen Nielsen.   The same goes for saying that your submission is a gift (This was discussed to a deeper extent in my previous journal entry). I would like to ask these women if their humility is also a gift to mankind... Talk about pride.   'What the world needs is more geniuses with humility; there are so few of us left.'Oscar Levant.   Real submissive women understand that a good Dominant man or Master uses humiliation in order to remind them of their place, not to make them feel worthless. He is also able to explain how extremely humiliating actions done to them must be looked at in order to make them grow instead of making them feel worthless and useless.   “Pride should be reserved for something you achieve or obtain on your own, not something that happens by accident of birth. Being Irish isn't a skill... it's a fucking genetic accident. You wouldn't say I'm proud to be 5'11'; or I'm proud to have a predisposition for colon cancer.” George Carlin.   I believe that submissive women should be proud of their achievements but must be humble in their opinion of themselves. She should be proud of achieving a doctorate, she should be proud of achieving a big goal her Master or Dominant man gave her, she should be proud of finally receiving her collar after years of hard work, but she should not be proud of her submission. You can be happy to be submissive, you can be glad that you are able to experience this beautiful part of life, but don't destroy it by being proud of it. If ever felt proud to be submissive, then you are not submissive, you are egocentric and kinky.