I am an intelligent, creative, loving and compassionate man wwith a penchant for kink and perversion. You will find information about me listed below under the following headings:

1. Personality/ non-sexual interests

2. Sexuality

   a. philosophy/goals

   b. kinks/preferences

3. Relationship goals

4 What I seek in a partner

Personality/non-sexual interests

I am a very warm hearted and friendly person, caring and giving,and a pretty laid back guy. Healthy relationships are important to me,  whether friends or family, coworkers or strangers. Being aware of my connection to humanity and living in a way which has a positive impact on the lives of those around me is something I am always trying to be mindful of. Moving through life in a meaningful way profides me with fulfillment- and living a fulfilling life is my ultimate goal. I am trying to live my life in a way where I can be as true to myself, as giving to others as I can, and practice personal freedom in a society in which the terms freedom and liberty have been used so freely and without consideration that they seem to have completely lost their true meaning. I work hard, and live a moderate, middle class life. I am spiritual, sensitive at times, fun, energetic, intense, playful and liberal. I live a healthy lifestyle- I do not drink, smoke, or do drugs, and I eat healthy, live actively, and take care of my body, and I am disease free. I want to grow old. I have a creative edge to me; I am always coming up with new ideas, and that definitely carries over into my sex life. I love nature, and prefer to spend time outside rather than inside. Connecting to the natural world both keeps me grounded, and is a solid reminder of my connection to the world as a living being, as well as a reminder of my true nature, and deepens my connection with my spirituality. I love to cook, I love to eat well crafted food. I find dancing to be a necessity, both as a form of expression as well as release. Music infects me; and I listen to everything from folk and bluegrass to deep, dark electronica. I  am a thinker, and a conversationalist, who doesn't much care for discussing economics or politics. I prefer to talk about philosophy, spirituality, human emotions, life experiences, hopes and dreams, challenges and digressions. I prefer to live, and discuss living. I can be very romantinc, and I am very, very affectionate. I have alot of nasty kinks; but that doesn't mean I am not as sweet as I am sour. Kissing, cuddling, petting and being gentle and sweet is something that makes my heart feel very peaceful and content. I like to treat my woman like a princess as much as a whore. Its important to me to make sure she knows how much I care for, appreciate, respect, and hopefully love her.

Sexuality

   a. Philosophy/goals

Kinky sex is a conduit through which we are able to experience a deeper connection both to our partner and also to ourselves. By creating a mindspace in which the darkness can reveal itself, we enter into a shared experience where the most intimate, secret, dark and perverted parts of ourselves are revealed in full force, for both ourselves and our partner to see. This is liberating, and provides for a deeply emotional and cereberal esperience.  Allowing my kinks to come out as they will in the presence of another who is doing the same provides me with a cathartic, almost spiritual experience at times. Trust, honesty, openness, compassion, understanding, and sometimes love are all present in the internal, while externally, the nastiest, filthiest things may  be taking place. This dichotomy is unique, and by exploring sexuality to its fullest potential we can exploit this channel of life to our advantage, and allow the beauty of the human experience to reveal itself to us. Kink is a conduit through which  these experiences amplify themselves, through which emotions are intensified, through which our fullness as individuals is amplified. My kinks are as much of an internal practice as an internal one; I feel very strongly that my kinks can be done in a very harmful, destructive way or a very productive and positive way. My intention is not simply to take what I want, or to indulge in whatever sexual fantasy I have without temperance or control; that to me, is a very animalistic, selfish and destructive path, which all too many 'Doms' seem to be on. for me, being able to practice giving my partner what they so depserately crave, and being mindful of the edge on which I tread between production and destruction is an excercise in discipline and free expression. I want to share in the experience, not just have an experience. I want to create an experience by mixing the energies (and someetimes bodily fluids) of my partner (or partners) and I together, being aware of the connection we are sharing and the energy, experience and revelations which are resulting from it. Its a journey, really. Not only to the dark and perverted depths, but then rising out of them. This transition and ascension is almost like dying and being reborn; and gives us an opportunity to recognize not only the darkness but also the light. I emerge from that dark place, and I carry you with me. Sometimes into the bathtub so I can wash your hair, and then into our bed where we melt into each other again as one, as light. This is why I do what I do and how I do it.

Sexuality

   a. Kinks/preferences

 I am essentially a straight dominant man, but I do not think it is realistic or accurate to categorize oneself in these ways. I have had experiences in my life in the submissive role, and I have had experiences with men.  But they are not my preferences by any means.  What is deeply rooted in my being is the desire to dominate, punish, use, humiliate and degrade a woman who is beautiful of mind and body, to take her to the darkest depths of her being and hold her there for as long as I can. I will of course be venturing into that space with you, and find the act of feeling dirty and perverted by making my partner feel filthy and used allows me to achieve my goals as I decribed above. As you read on, please keep in mind that I have very few hard and fast kinks- I am very flexible on this stuff, dependent on my partners needs and desires. That being said, I enjoy the following kinks: Ass play, and lots of it. Bondage, but not all the time. Verbal abuse is something that just brings me even deeper. Stretching, fisting, toys, etc, amaze me. I love to see how far my slut can open up her holes for me. flogging, spanking, slapping, etc etc etc. is a requirement, I think, and something I thoroughly enjoy administering. I like to create reasons to punish my slut just so I can watch her ass shake as its being hit. pure pleasure. I enjoy various types of toilet play- especially piss play. so dirty, its almost beautiful. Enemas, of various types for various reasons. Chaining you to the toilet bowl and using you as a urinal- I can work you up to that if need be. incest role play, consentual non-consent/rape play, slut training, puppy training, breast bondage, slapping, tickling, slathering in cum. all tools in the toolbag.  Multiple partners: not a must, but I am open to it. I think too much sharing dilutes intimacy; but not enough may be too limiting, as some things you just can't do alone, such as: double and triple penetration, gang bangs, bukakke, public humiliaton, slut sharing, etc etc. are things that I don't get into often, and if you were only interested in monogamy, I would strongly consider not doing any of them. What takes place between me and my woman is way more important than what takes place between us and others.

Relationship goals

I have several different levels at which I seek. I will start at the top.

I seek love. pure, boundless love. Love for each other, for ourselves, for life and everything it encompasses. I seek a good friend and companion, who I can go to with anything and who can come to me knowing they will never be judged and always treated with kindness and compassion when they need it. I seek to find someone who I can care for and protect and provide the intimacy and connection which she needs, at the level she needs it. I want to find the last woman I ever want to be with. But until I find her, and I know I will, I seek friends and playmates who share some/all of my kinks and are interested in exploring them with me, or just discussing them as like minded friends. I am not opposed to starting as playmates to see if we are sexually compatible; in fact, I would prefer we not wait too long only to find out that we really dont mesh well with our clothes off. all the appearances we create through our perceptions can be deceiving, and true chemistry can only be found through true experience.  I am not opposed to starting a family at some point if the relationship allowed it; though its not a dealbreaker if you don't want kids. But that is a discussion for a later time.

What I seek in a partner

Finally, we are getting to you. I don't think I need to say much- if you have gotten this far (unless you skipped to the end!) you already know what I am seeking. And if you message me, you will know you are the one when I choose you. But just for the sake of practicality, I will say this: Be sweet, be kind. Be caring and compassionate, with a respect for our planet and the people and other living things on it. be open and honest, be yourself. Be intelligent, informed, and free thinking. Imaginative and creative. attractive and at least reasonably fit- someone who takes care of their body and enjoys doing so. You don't have to be perfect, in body or in mind. You don't have to be into all the kinks I am into, but please be into the journey on which our kinks take us. Be driven by the internal factors of life, not the external ones. Be a seeker. Of knowledge, of insight, of a deeper connection and mostly of love.