Hi! I'm Mike, and I'm in central Mass.
First off, I'm single. Divorced actually. WELL over 10 years ago. I have no kids at home. I am NOT a switch! And no, I'm not 'seeing anyone' right now, vanilla or otherwise. Figured I'd get that out of the way first.
I have pics I can send, but public posting is uncomfortable due to job and other issues.
I want a serious partner. Yeah, a relationship. Real time. In person. But play is play. This is too serious with some people. You gotta be able to laugh! At me or with me sometimes. This should be fun. Maybe even buy a piece of gear and surprise me with it, saying use this on me kind of thing. If it's not fun, then something is wrong! Bondage with a smile! (I think some of the sexiest most enticing photos I see on the web are when the woman is smiling as she's being tied up. Just something about that... What is absolute tops though? When I see a video or photo set of a woman in bondage and there's a pause in the action for a kiss. And the woman just melts... OK, I'll admit it, that's an 'Oh My God' moment for me... And I want those Oh My God moments with someone I care about.)
I want to be able to sit on the couch WITH someone after we're done and cuddle and hug, and maybe even laugh at some of the things that happened while we played. I want to be able to wake up on a Saturday morning in bed and be able to just spoon up and cuddle with someone as a thunderstorm booms outside and the rain pours down, and if something starts, it starts. Yes, I want MORE than just a piece of meat!
I want the look in the eyes, looking at me with hunger for what I'm doing to them, knowing that the hunger is for me, and that my hunger for them is just as visible.
I don't want someone that shows up for a 'session'. I want someone that is here for me, and I'll be here for her.
Her pleasure is my pleasure, and my pleasure is hers as well. If I 'get off' and she doesn't, that's a huge disappointment and hardly satisfying. Seeing my partner, well, that's a large part of my pleasure.
The 453 in my name doesn't mean anything. I used to use Mikey everywhere as my standard login, but seems everybody wants that. The 453 was just something a site added to my name.
Been into this since I was a little type (are we allowed to say under 21?) By college I knew what it was, and how to play (somewhat, mostly just simple 'love bondage' games really), but it wasn't until I was divorced almost 15 years ago that I fully realized what it was.
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I will say that I'm not interested in married. Someone married to someone else, that is. And probably not interested in separated, unless it's complication free. If we can't give each other our attentions, what's the point? I'm not interested in poly or groups, or sharing or being shared.
Not into public play either. This is for 'us'. One on one! And mostly private. Ok, exciting things hidden under clothes, but collars and cuffs to have a al dinner at a nice place? Come on! Yeah, I realize some things can be exciting to show off, but most things should be hidden and private. Guest at my house won't see shackles hanging on the living room wall.
And it's gotta have a 'click', or again, what's the point? In case there's any confusion, I don't want a short term fantasy, I want the real thing, where we get in each others heads and bond, hopefully for a long, long, time. I will NOT be someones 'Tuesday Night'
That's not to say I adhere to that 100% I have had friends that were married, but then there's always the danger of it becoming more than friends, and it can be very tough to back out without someone getting hurt.
Just added some photos this morning, Jan 12 (2011). I think the Mustang isn't gonna get out till spring! And yes, there IS a Jeep under that pile! It may be March till I can use the grill on my deck! And sorry, I forgot to change modes on the camera. I left it in auto mode, I should have changed it to one of the bright 'scene' modes. There's one specifically for snow in the thing. Didn't think. I'm still learning with it.
And the rainbow. Always keep looking! (And yes, I did take the photo. On my vacation the summer of 2008. Went skiing and ended the vacation with a side trip up into the rain forest.)
Mike
I'm glad there's skiing as a choice! I ski 50+ times a year. My rainbow photo was actually taken on a ski trip!
A few final things. I'm not into drugs. I drink socially, but don't get potted (not for years!) And to me this is a very sexual thing. I know there are people out there that treat dominance and submission totally off the sexual map, but that's not the case for me. It's VERY sexual. And very emotional with the correct partner. And that defines what I'm really looking for, a partner. I can't conceive of me being happy in a vanilla only relationship. Or any kind of relationship where the person I'm with isn't really a partner 'with' me.
As one woman put in her profile... "If you're looking for a long term relationship with a nice, normal woman who happens to also like kink" yes, that is what I'm looking for. Not some 'image' that I can lead around with a leash at events, as some seem to think. I have to wonder about that. Yeah, it could be exciting, but for how long? I would much rather want something to last.</>
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