11/14/2023 7:11:26 AM: So on the vaninlla side of stuff! ... I love outdoor activities including mountain biking, kayaking, camping, hiking. Just generally observing the beauty of nature. I live in the thick of the suburbs but on a river so I get to see a bit more wildlife out my window than most. I LOVE sci-fi and sword movies. Total science fiction geek. Grew up reading LOTR, playing D&D. Always wanted to be a knight. Did some sword fencing later in life. Umm... 'date' profile journaling out of boredom on this obscure site. Yeah, I'm on fetlife too, different name though. 

11/14/2023 6:59:05 AM: Anybody here? Geez, this site was so active in the CollarMe days. Too bad about the rift and that it hasn't fully recovered. I see the same dozen or whatever names in my state for years now. Anywho... 

11/14/2023 6:51:43 AM: Profile supplement: It sure can be diffiicult to sum up one's self succinctly! I don't wish to sound like a pushover. Yup, I'm a nice guy. Kind, thoughtful. Opens doors for women. This does not mean however, that I don't have rules, expectations, and urges to be pretty damn rough with someone within our own realm. It just means that it's all about consent. You need to respect me to the point that you want nothing more than to give me total control over you. That kind of power is delighful, romantic, intoxicating, and fun. And yes, it can be rough too. I picture myself as smart, talented, and deserving. Sometimes authoritative. I would not however define myself as 'alpha' and don't think that's a necessary attribute (or even a respectable one) to have in order to be a Dom, or a good leader in general. As the adage goes... there's a big difference between being 'a boss' and being a leader. 

4/19/2023 9:09:42 AM: Just adding a journal entry to expound a little on my ideal relationship. Perhaps entries with more of my thoughts will attract the right girl and prevent being pigeonholed as a certain type of man, at least by those willing (and able, lol) to invest some time reading. I would charactize myself as a very empathetic human-being. I am caring of other's feelings (at least of those that warrant such respect) and very mannerly toward women. This nature initially steered me toward being a DaddyDom. I also have no children of my own to dote over so one could possibly infer all manner of psychology there, if they wished to, heh. Anyhow...not all my thoughts and desires are of sweetness and over the years have certainly grown darker yet. Being physically rough has always been exciting. Someone who is willing to explore the darker depths of humiliation and subjugation has gained growing interest now. Some days a chained up fuck-hole of a slave, others my sweet little girl, or an obedient cherished pet. I do also want an actual partner that can laugh, have fun, preferably has some intellect and some worthy input on life decisions. A real man can actually be humble enough to accept input and advice from others. I seek the girl that can embody all those roles. The psych of cuckquean play holds a huge interest too. Although, in the cold reality of day to day life, monogamy with my mate would be the norm. Since just like any good D/s relationship in general, most of the excitement lays in the mental build of the ideas, and that any actual play with another girl would be rare considering that I have grown only more discerning in my growing age. Plus, I do not take such play lightly. I am very willing to invest the time, care, and love to build the connection and trust that is inherent in an ongoing fulfilling, and hopefully 'rest of my life' relationship, since that is what I seek. The girl or woman that can give of herself so selflessly to her trusted Owner, is one that I would adore all the more. It is with great irony that in my experience thus far, women that were not invested in a relationship (like early on in our dating) were willing to do such acts (like a 3-some) but once they became emotionally invested, jealousy sets in and they became unwilling to give in this way. Oh yes, believe me, I fully understand the fears that cause those particular inhabitions to manifest but it is utterly counterproductive to withhold one of the gifts that would only cause me to cherish and hold onto her yet more tenaciously. Anyway, not just threesomes, but in general, where I want to go further with my girl as the bond strengthens, I have experienced that their kinkiness only wanes. This has caused such frustration and discontent for me. FFS, where is My good girl?!