Slavery; as we talk or accept it today (consensual) can take many forms. But for most on this site it appears to be about bondage play and sex. How wrong that really is, if you (those advertising) want to find someone for romance/kinky sex/relationships then please do so; but don't call yourself a slave/sub; so if your starry eyed dreams of being kept in luxury and 24 hour sex are important you should stop reading now. There is no tall handsome man to drag you off to that very romantic place to be kept as the princess you think you are.

  In my world, a slave/sub has a deep desire to serve an owner/dominate. This desire is a part of them and the driving force is for them to find a situation they can live in and feel complete. There is no requirement for bondage play or even sex. This should be about service, and the condition that service is offered. 

  A slave/sub may have limits, she may have a safe word and she may get up and leave any time she wants; she is consensual after all.

  In my home a slave will have a goal, a concept of who she wants to be. The Dom/owner is responsible for the care and maintenance of his property. The owner is responsible to do everything in his power to ensure that his slave/sub reaches her goal. A slave/sub will live in a structured environment, stepping outside that structure results in discipline. 

 Think, analyze, review then make an informed decision.

JohnP 

2/25/12 If you are a parent you should know that when your child reaches a certain age that you can't micro manage them any longer. You have spent their life time establishing and enforcing rules that by the time they reach the mystical age  they know what is expected. And at that point in life they will either accept or reject the guidelines you have tried to establish. 

  Isn't it about the same with training a slave/sub? You as an owner have conveyed all of the guidelines for life with you that you can. At that point the slave represents you the owner in everything they do. So do you micro manage or rely on training, have you really trained your slave/sub to represent you or do you just bark orders all of the time?

  Hows that working for you?   

A small rant for most all want-to-be subs and slaves; Forget all of the thought and dreams you have about some big, powerful, incredibly handsome owner/master/whatever showing up on your door step to carry you away to a land of bondage and love and whatever else you think a sub’s/slaves life should be.

  There will be play times with ropes, cuffs, spanking benches and all of that good stuff for what; maybe a couple of hours in the evening or on a weekend? What are you doing the rest of the time? Who makes the bed every day, who put breakfast and dinner on the table; your owner? Who takes care of you when you are sick? Are you allowed that “headache” when you don’t feel like ”it”. Do you get to even sleep in a bed or on the cold floor?

  It is important for you to keep those dreams, but real life does come along. It’s my belief that every slave should have a goal they work toward and its every owner responsibility to do everything possible to see that those agreed upon goals are reached. Every owner should be responsible for the proper maintenance of their property as well as a providing a formal education when required.

  If love or strong feelings do come about more power to you and your owner, but also keep in mind that this slavery thing is not about sex or love but about servitude.

john  

Ladies, girls, women and maybe some men (I have not looked) Why all of the photos that aren’t you? If A D’s relationship is to work it’s based on honesty and you advertise using a photo that is not you? How in the hell do you ever think you can explain that one away. TinEye makes it damn hard for you to do this with any success.

  The first thing I do any more when reviewing profiles is check and see if the photo is on 200 hundred other site. If it is why would you think I would ever have you in my home? How could I ever trust you?