• Detroit area Dommes communicate on this site
• We share information about our experiences with  fake, disrespectful and dangerous men/women
• We often compare and share note on who to avoid because they are no shows or make us uncomfortable
• We are communicating in growing numbers for safety
• We will not tolerate the continued disrespect experiences from people on this site who disparage our photos, ethnicity and/or race
• Stop bothering us if you are not mature enough to handle this lifestyle! 

The following note is wrong on soooooooooooo many levels!   Ugh! 

________________________

________________________

Step away from the drama!

Do not greet/introduce yourself to a member of the community outside of basic manners.  Hello Mistress/Goddess.......my name is______________ is a good way to start.  

The following greeting  is totally unacceptable:

Enjoy the peace and sensuality of a rainy evening!

Enjoying a day of gardening!  Still optimistic that one day........some day.......I'll find a true sub ying to My Yang! 

WTF.  Stop reaching out to me.....scheduling a dinner/lunch meeting then not following through!  Grow up!!!

Still seeking a mature, professional, discrete male/female sub who understands the true meaning of this lifestyle!  

To all of you who are sincere in your DOMINA/sub walk,

I've grown sooooooooooo, sooooooooooooo tired of:

• Game players
• Wanna-be-subs
• Rude people
• Disrespectful people
• Those looking for sex buddies....not a true DOMINA/sub relationship
• Culturally and ethnically insensative bafoons!!!

I'm taking a well deserved break from this site! Enjoy your new year!

Mistress Jhai!

How to piss off a Domme Queen Color......joke with her about her crack use!  Wrong.....rude!   FYI - I do not nor have I ever used crack, cocaine, smack, meth, etc.   Not cool dude!  Not cool at all!

 Good day!

   Kick Rocks!    

Bounce - be gone!

My fantasy.............having two sub women suckle my breast  and massage me while a skilled sub male licks my  juicy clit and drinks my warm "Queen Juices" until I shake in orgasm!  ......then repeat!

Yum!!!!!

Where  oh  where  is my true sub!?  

Where is my one.....the true one who understands the powerful nature and needs of  Queen Jhai!  

Where are you.  

 I need to be pampered, treated well, pleasured and services by a sincere, mature, compassionate sub!  

I hope you show up soon! 

Class is in session!

Dear new subs,

Introduce yourself to a perspective Domna before asking for a Yahoo ID .......asking to chat!

Proper conduct dictates introducing yourself through collarme...initiating introductory conversations and demonstating sincerity, maturity and decorum before asking for chat information!

Looking for a beautiful, healthy, sane, clean and mature submissive woman to play with my partner and I!   This is hard to find.   Any suggestions?

Planning to do some relaxing gardening this weekend.  I need to de-stress quickly!!!

I'm being stalked on line by a twisted person who is upset that I don't want them in my DOMME world.

I'm going to lay-low for a while until this cools down.  I don't have time for drama!

Broke two toes on my left foot.  It hurts to walk and I cannot, repeat, cannot wear heeled shoes.  How can one strut like a diva in ballet slippers!  I haven't worn flat shoes since the 80's! 
Ugh!

Oh how I long for the days when manner were paramount and people began a saluation with the following statement ".............Hello!  My name is________________, followed by a statement of interest and/or intent! 

How to you beging a concersation or engage a DOMME QUEEN by stating ....."I  wanna B ur slave"? 

Honestly????!!!!



Mistress Jhai

Hello,

Had a wonderful Friday evening. Met with potential sub Sean.  He treated me to a peaceful, mentall stimulating and engaging moment of good food,  thought provoking conversation and plentiful compliments.

I've been out of the "LIFE" for over a year due to numerous encounters with immature, unbalanced and insincere people claiming "sub" alligence. 

Hoping things continued to move in a positive direction.

Mistress Jhai!

Heading to the beach for a wonderful day of well deserved rest, reflection, regeneration and relaxation! 

Form letters are the most unerspected, disgaceful displays of communication from a potential sub to a Domina....example (this is truly over the top -reads like a novella)

Dear Dominant Lady Slaveowner,

Good day to you and thank  you for taking the time to view my profile here on collarme.

My profile concerns real slavery of a real entity. It is not about fantasy playgames or other such nonsense. One liner respondents are always playgamer respondents and so if you are one then kindly do not respond back.

My profile is currently not yet available so I am sending it to you directly.

I do not know if collarme moderators will permit my profile to be viewed because it may well be seen as being far too extreme.

A Photograph of me is included in this my profile at the bottom  of my message.


Obedience is a requirement for a slave and is pleasing to an owner. However it is not true that a slave will obey anyone that comes along. Slaves must obey the rules and expectations of their owner to the best of their abilities. Sometimes this means submitting to and obeying another, but such is always done by order of the owner and not every owner will share their slave this way.
Being a slave does not erase individuality. Instead, it enhances it. Often slaves who are unowned must hide or exert a lot of control over their submissive and service based nature. Society does not approve of people who are submissive or people who are happiest when they serve another before themselves. The very nature of a master / slave relationship allows a slave the freedom to express every part of their personality and hide nothing. It encourages the slave to grow as both an individual and a slave. Every slave is different; with different likes, dislikes, wants, needs etc. A slave must have a good working knowledge of who they are and what their wants, needs, expectations etc. are. It is impossible for a person who does not know who and what they are to give those things over to the control of another because you can not give away what you do not have or know. A slave and their owner use this self awareness to help the slave grow and to make changes in the slave’s behaviour and mental state. Often these changes are discussed before the slave submits by the prospective owner telling the slave their expectations of the slave (including behaviours they want and those they do not want). This allows the slave to decide if this is how they want to be, the relationship they want to be in, and gives them a chance to consent. These changes are beneficial to the slave, helping them to be more of the person they want to be and to be more pleasing to their owner. Master / slave relationships require the same kinds of compatibility as vanilla relationships with the addition of bdsm compatibility. In order to achieve this, the slave must know themselves well and have a strong belief in them selves.


The information contained herein is purely from my own personal experience and long held belief system. I make no demands upon anyone. It is essential though that I am owned by one or more people who share most of my own beliefs and who have had similar desires or actual experiences. We are all different yet many share some of the same ideals. I am also a loner by nature and so carry no emotional baggage having no ties with family or friends whatsoever. We shall need to establish and maintain, a mutual trust and respect between each other during any period of progressing fruitful dialogue. Trust and respect are earned and never ever demanded. Such are  essential in our lifestyle.


 We  real slaves are normal. Slaves are not average. Slaves are special creatures, unlike any other on earth. They are made differently, with different life patterns, responsibilities, frustrations, satisfactions, needs and characteristics. Long live the differences! Let us celebrate the precious, irreplaceable machines they are. Let us celebrate by giving them Our lives, and making them happier as owners.Our opinions and preferences are of no consequence once we are owned and we must always surrender to our owners wants and needs which superceed  our own at all times. In truth our needs are basic and revolve around food, shelter, health and fitness, maintaining physical strenth to function efficiently.



I reside in the United States but until recent times I served for over 16 years within the home of a Lady who lived in Eindhoven, Nederland. I am able to relocate at my own expense to serve anyDominant Lady or partner couple, within the European Union or Commonwealth of Nations and the U.S.A.  I hold both British and American duel nationality.

I will also pay my way so as to cost my owner nothing to keep and maintain me in slavery. I will therefor purchase any restraint equiptment and pay for my board and lodging and share of utility bills monthly in advance. Being a slave I work long hours and don't get any salary.

I do not drink alcohol, partake of illegal narcotics, or engage in gambling. I am sexually transmitted disease free. I have no debts, criminal record or psychiatric history.

I do have photograph's but will not send them out ad hoc to everyone. Only those who are genuinely seeking a bona-fide slave and express interest will recieve photograph's and only then once discussions are progressing. Trust and respect must be established between us.

I am willing to undergo background checks and  character reference checks prior to being acquired as legitimate servile property.

What do I have to offer any interested prospective owner?

Physical Description:  
 
Age: 37 years  
Weight: 190 lbs  
Height: 6 feet 2 inch  
Hair Color: Brown  
Eye Color: Blue  
Build: Medium Muscular  
Chest Size: 40  
Waist Size: 34  
Hip Size: 36  

I am used to wearing a made to measure, locked chastity restraint device which I now prefer to wear because although I am asexual by nature, the device prevents any form of erection from taking place.  My potential owner must recognise and appreciate this device as been essential in the day to day control of the slave in their service.

I have trained in a number of occupations and acquired various skills over the years. Some where even obtained during my periods of pseudo-legal Slavery as the temporary  property of each lady. These skills are has follows: -  
 
Qualified Chef ,
Certified Masseur,
Qualified Silver Service Waiter,
Qualified Personal Valet,
Qualified Gardener,
General Handyman,

Everyone must start somewhere and the compulsion to serve and be owned like the compulsion to want and need and to own and control are important criteria in any first time slavery or ownership situation.

Please contact me only if you are genuinely seeking to acquire ownership (in the true meaning of that word) of a male slave. Do not contact me if your best subject is english and you like to critisise peoples spelling, puntuation and grammer. I am not here to enter a english language contest. Nobody is good at everything and I find English Language majors are generally useless at mathe's, science and generally everything else including History.

I am what I claim to be and am not here to0 waste my time or the time of other people.

I have sadly discovered that so far profiles that state they are seeking a slave, houseboy, servant etcetera are infact not really seeking anything of the sort and so are misleading.

I as a consensual slave up until the moment of acceptance and entry into slavery have a choice and want to be owned by high calibre people. They also need to acquire ownership of a highly skilled and high calibre slave. doormats and fools do not make for excellent slaves. The fact someone claims to be Dominant does not give them any automatic right to demand anything whatsoever of a complete stranger even if the stranger is a submissive or slave.  Ownership as too be earned through trust and respect being established and maintained. Slavery to must be earned and the fact one is or has been a slave does not give me any automatic right to be owned by a Dominant person.

Lifestyle lessons 101
(class is in session)

Received the following request this morning!

***** has requested to add you to their public circle of friends!

I've never communicate with this person and they want to be in my circle of friends?

Always establish some form of communication before asking a member of our "family" to become part of your circle - I get numerous invitations throughout the day without so much as a "Hello....I'm *****.  I'd like you to be in my circle of friends"

Do you walk up to a stranger and ask to become their friend?  I'd hope not. My small circle of friends contains people who've communicated with me and have established some form of understanding regarding the DOMME/sub lifestlye.

The level of ignorance I experience on this site is blinding. When did common manners become passe.

I assume the following note was  R's attempting to connect with me (and he thinks I'll reply????)

my pic
i enjoy looking at your face and hope you give me the opportunity to know you
R

A greeting from someone with stalker potential!!!!

  Who says "i enjoy looking at your face...."?

Ugh!

Respect must be earned before deference is granted. Trust is paramount.

Where oh where have the literate people gone?  How hard is it to use "spell check".   Received the following note from a 35 year old sub.  Can someone help be understand what the poor soul is trying to convey......

Mistress wish boy lived near youso boy could have a real Mistress know wassup and how to control her boy like you

Help!

..........lol - just had a 22 year old sub ask if I would be his "Cougar DOMME".  OMG - that was rich!

Just received a verbal threat from a "sub" member of this site....angry because I've not replied to his notes of interest.

Is this kindergarten? 

If someone doesn't want to communicate with you on this site, in real life or anywhere else, build a bridge and get over it .....it's just not that deep.

Have reported him to site management - he'll probable be removed.....only to create a new account in the future and bother adults on this site.  Ugh
!

 I've grown weary of people who don't/can't use spell check and send a barrage of disrespectful, vulgar notes.  Happens daily.

Here's how I operate.  Send a decent note stating your interest and intent.  Will chat a bit. .....and, if mutually agreed,  meet for coffee and/or nosh then move toward next steps.

Thanks!

Created a new note for subs who are obviously new to the life...and not at all familiar with proper verbage to get the attention of a potential Domina. Revew this note and let me know your thoughts!

Oh how I miss the days when people would greet one another with a cherry hello before typing a tirade of their desires.  Try this in your next form letter.....

Hello Mistress! 

I am sub *********.   I am looking for a New Mistress as I've recently been released. 

I'd like to get to know you as I am sincere about pleasing you and doing your bidding from head to toe. 

A sincere,  true sub allows their potential Mistress to tell them of her wants and desires in introduction before they  send a form letter discussing their preferrences.


Wishing you peace on this journey. 

The rant of a fake male dominant!

OK - back to school people. A "dom" male from Novi took time to write a note resplendent with grammatical (your vs. the correct word you’re) errors.  The cute little note is as follows:

Your a bitch. FUCK OFF!!!! Don't talk about respect bitch, your whats wrong with this site. Your the trash that needs to go away, not the others. Get the fuck off this site!

This is comical in sooooooooooo many ways.  The attempt to disrespect me is funny because it takes time to write a letter demonstrating abject ignorance while agreeing with my stance on the need of mutual respect to all on this site!  Who has time to rant about someone they don't respect??  Duh!

The correct way NOT to communicate with anyone on this site. 

Note of ignorance and disrespect sent 1.10.09. I've pasted the note in tiny print because it came from the mind of a miniscule  person. 

Hey cunt-

When is the last time you had a big dick shoved up your ass?

I would love to rip off all your clothes and make you moan like a whore.

Send me some pics of you naked. You know you got them.

If I like them I will let you dance nude on your webcam for me.

 

I swooned when I received the following literate, articulate note from a member of our family.  I'm grateful for the favor of his reply and candor.  Read and learn people.........read and learn!

People don't read anymore. Newspapers are going under and the only things we have to read are on-line, where much of the material is unchecked and unprofessional. We learn to write from blogs instead of books and that leads us to suck at written communicaction. But I agree that ever since the invention of Instant Messagers back in the early 90s, written communique has gone way down. People don't seem to understand that how one writes into a phone or IM box is different than how one should write formally. It's a shame. Just one more thing to have to train subbies to do properly...

Nice to meet you, btw.

- Joseph

We have truly lost the ability to effectively express ourselves via the written word?!

I've become so disenchanted with the following communication attempt(s)

sent 12.29.08 by a misguided sub…..
hello maam 29/m in michigan

A proper, literate attempt at communication would read as follows…….

hello Ma'am.  I'm a 29-year-old man residing in Michigan.  I found your profile very engaging and would like to communicate with you!

How hard is that?   Goodness!!!!!!!

Mistress

iam a 26 old who work in a bank.. can i get to knw more abt you

Maturity is key - if I block you it means I'm not interested in getting to know you.  If you establish another profile in an effort to share your displeasure (from being blocked)......it become evident that I made the right initial decision to discontinue contact with you! 

Example of an immature sub note sent 12.19.08.

ok i sent you a message awhile ago under my sub screen name on here and you never responded. i just went to send you another message tonight just wondering if you werent interested in talking to me but i couldnt send it cuz you blocked me for no reason. i dont give a shit if you are a damn domme, in my eyes now you are just a low life who thinks shes above everyone when she is not.


I don't think I'm better than anyone.......but I know I'm more mature, polished, suave and cultured than this backwards individual

Class is in session.  Do no send a DOMME a form letter or extensive questionaire when attempting to introduce yourself .......... rude!

This long, extensive note was sent by a sub.........and he expects a reply........WTF!?

The above questions are for clarity and also to determine the parameters of the slavery.

Will begin to post (without personal identifiers) ignorant, rude and/or disprespectful notes in an ongoing effort to teach and help the lost souls in our family! 

Please review the following information prior to initial contact.  

Local  men & women-  must meet the requirements outlined in my profile and journal to generate a personal reply! Mature (40+), physically fit, etc.

Will NOT communicate nor respond to anyone  classified as  switch!

No cyber activities!
Not interested in connecting to your ISP to
 chat without established mutual interest!

Will not accept FRIEND invitation(s) without an established relationship

Additional information available via my profile

I love and respect People/people in our diverse family throughout the world.  ….but, per my profile, I am exclusively interested in establishing relationships with potential subs residing in the Metro-Detroit area or traveling to this area frequently for business.

To Family/family in Australian, African, European, Middle Eastern and South American countries, know that I wish you well.  Also know that I seek local/stateside subs.  I’m not interested in long, long-distance nor cyber relationships.

Wishing you well on this unique journey.

It is not difficult to write a profile.  The profile is an introduction of ones self and their place in this life. 

To you who claim their rightful stance as a submissive......please take time to write an articulate profile. Those of us who are true to the life understand their import!

Thank you!

I will not accept Circle of Friends invitations without proper introduction.  Not interested in becoming part of your Collarme.com e-photo album!

Please communicate in whole, structured, complete sentences when sending introductory and all e-mails. 

Acceptable:  How are you doing today Mistress Jhai!

Unacceptable:  Hw r u do-ng 2day Ms. J.

Communicating in proper English is a sign of submissive respect and intellect.

Not interested in the following relationships...

Cyber
Video
Online
Phone


Exclusively interested in one-on-one contact!

Exclusively interested in mature (40+), literate, professional submissives who understand and/or are willing to learn this unique lifestyle!

I do not accept Circle of Friend invitations from strangers! Let's get to know each other before you send an invite! 

If you haven't taken time to create an informative profile.....I do not have time to communicate!

I have met a plethora of wonderful, interesting, exciting and intriguing people on this site!  Thank you for your compliments, encouragement insight!

I've also encountered people who truly haven't a clue about proper etiquette and conduct.  Please review and respect the following. ......

I have no interest in chatting via Yahoo, AOL, MSN, Gail, etc.

I will not have any cam-to-cam meetings or training!

I do not cyber-train.

I do not reply to illiterate or ignorant replies.

I do not want an e-relationship.

I give respect when and where it is warranted and demand the same at all times! 

I have no interest in being the third wheel in your sexual fantasy!

Again - I enjoy this site!  Let's work together and grow as a family in this life!

Mistress Jhai!

I wish us all success on this unique, exciting and fulfilling journey!  I also wish people would stop asking me to chat with them on their choice of ISP! 

Class is (once again) in session! 
If you are not schooled in proper DOMINA/submissive etiquette please review the following!  

Collarme is not a dating site!  I am not looking for a boyfriend, husband or any form of significant other!  Please desiste inquiries/questions regarding the aforementioned subject(s)!

For Dominant Sisters who are new members of the family  - I am very open and willing to train and guide you in the ways of male/female submissive sensual  domination and control.  Send a note stating your interest and intent and I will reply in timely fashion!

Class is once again in session.  Please greet a Domina with respect.  Sending a note stating....

"hi, slave joe here on slavejoe at yahoo "

....is very rude.  I don't want  your e-mail address because you have show disrespect and lack of understanding of this precious lifestyle! 

We/we will initially communicate via collarme then, if I deem it of interest, we will communicate via a more intimate medium!

Attention Masochist!!!!

I am a sensual DOMINA!  I am not into torturing anyone for any reason!  NO blood play, cutting, tattooing, fecal matter, bestiality, minors, suffocation or excess harm of any kind shall befall any sub under my charge!

OK - for those of you outside MY preferred age category...please understand and respect this desire to associate with DOMINAS and subs 40+.   Nothing against younger members of "the family".....I just prefer the maturity and understanding that comes with age (not everyone 40+ is mature....but it's MY preference). 

I wish all of US/us success and peace on OUR/our strange, wonderful, exciting journey!

MS Word spell and grammar check are wonderful things!  Do not send any note to anyone on this site without checking the aforementioned.  Receiving a letter full of spelling and grammatical errors is an introductory sign of ignorance and sloth!

For those residing in the greater NYC area - I am willing to travel to The Grand Apple! NYC is my favorite city, bar none!

I've become soooooooooo tired of game players on this site!   Where are sincere male/female subs with a brain, heart, manners and intellect?  you have to be out there somewhere? 

Greetings!  Please do not attempt to communicate if you do not have a profile in place! 

Please, please, pull-ease stop sending photos of your genitals!  Your member is not of interest nor does it impress me! 

I've just been asked the dumbest question!

"Why are you dressed in your photo? You need to post a nude photo!"

What the ****?   This is not a porn site.  I am dressed in my photo because I choose to be!  This life is about DOMINATION & submission.......with our without clothing! 

I've had negative experiences with those classified as Switch...therefore I
will not
entertain communication with anyone identified as such....past or present!

____________

Do not use IM speak when communicating with a DOMINA/QUEEN!

Correct:  I would like to ask permission to speak with you!

Incorrect (IM Speak): I wld like 2 ask permisn 2 speak with u!

Show respect - use spell/grammar check!

____________

I only communicate with sincere, articulate, polished subs.....must be 35 +.

Females - must be in decent shape - I don't mind a little extra padding!

Males - must be
 at  least
6' tall and in good shape. 

I will not entertain obese pets!

.........and do not use profain or disrespectful language when sending a note!

.....and please, please, please stop using a general form letter or copying your profile and sending it as an original note!  Pull-ease!

____________

 Sub Pets -
 stop
sending new chat request.  I do not chat with anyone who has not sent a proper note requesting permission to contact me via IM! 

To do otherwise is a blattant sign of disrepect and lack of sincerity in this life! 

I do not believe in inflicting abusive pain -- no welts (scars left from excessive spanking/whipping), cutting, bruising, burns, drawing bodily fluids, torture, etc.)  Also - no scat, Minors, animals, sadistic force, sharp/sharpened objects.   

I do not train on line, dominate on line or use any form of cyber domination.

OK - let me offer additional assistance to those who are new!

1.  Do not use profane language when communicating with a Queen Domina

2.  Spell and grammar check your note prior to submission.  A poorly written note speaks volumes about your character.

3.  Do not send a form letter to the Queen.  Be personal and address HER by name and/or title!

4.  Immaturity and disrespect = blocked communication.

...........are there any mature and sincere subs out there!  FYI - a real and sincere sub does not send a DOMINA questions regarding their freaky little desires!  

1.  I don't give 2 cent about your penis
2.  I don't care if you like panties
3.  I don't care about your material possessions!
4.  I don't care about your car nor how much it cost!

AND

5.  Get it in your head....true .DOMINAS are not interested in having sex with you!

This is frustrating!

Beware family - there is a scam running rampant in our community.  Watch out for those who profess their undying faith in this lifestyle.....and keep your private business private.  Just be careful out there!

Note of warning!

I want us all to be careful in this lifestyle.  Watch out whom you associate with in this and all other websites. Have a “buddy” who knows where you are if you are in private sessions with a sub (share phone numbers, e-mail addresses and other information so they can be there in care of an emergency)  – just be safe!  ….and if you encounter Mike, a submissive, 40-ish,  auto executive that likes to brag about material things......….run! 

Mistress Candy

A Note to New Subs!
Show some decorum when communicating with a DOMME!

Sub - do not send a chat request unless you've received prior  written permission to do so!

New Sub Notes!

Lesson #1 - Manners!
When establishing contact with a DOMINA it is proper to greet her with a standard salutation of "Hello" or "Good Day" or something showing respect! We ladies and will be treated as such!

Lesson #2 - Introduce yourself!
Follow the greeting with information about you - i.e. -name, years in this life, etc. The intro may also include a bit about what you are into to allow the DOMINA character insight! Do not start your introductory note questioning my abilities! That is sooooooooo how rude!

Lesson #3 – Etiquette
Brush up on your etiquette before contacting a DOMINA – do no come across as rude or impolite!
 
Lesson #4 - Follow the rules!
If you do not fit the qualification a Domina specifies - do not bother to contact her. It is a waste of her precious time!

Lesson #5
Rude! Rude! Rude!  You do not e-mail a DOMINA and ask questions about another DOMINA! Address your note(s) with a proper salutation before asking questions! ..........and we don't tattle on each other! 

Sub - do not send a chat request unless you've received prior  written permission to do so! 

 

For all submissives, so called submissives and those who have lost there way.....Class is in session!

(FYI - I only reply to collarme members with descriptive profiles - no profile....no reply!) 

 

Lesson #1

 All subs have potential.......and all DOMINAS have rules regarding their subs.  Respect the rules...do not bother a DOMINA if you do not fit the criteria/rules. 

  Mistress Candi’s Rules

I love and respect everyone, however, I am exclusively interested in sub pets that are aesthetically appealing and meet my visual qualifications

Females -must be curvy/thick.  Males - must be 6' or taller and in decent shape. I am not interested in nor attracted to  thin or obese female or male subs.