For those who claim to have no limits, what if I enslaved you and used conditioning, hypnosis and brainwashing to erase who you are. You would forget who you are, and not care. You would lose all memory of your life to this point. You would just know that you suddenly started to exist in my home. I would convert you into basically a drone.

You would be my fuckdoll when I wanted to rape you, which would be often.

You would be my victim when I wanted to hurt you, and I am a sadist, so I would want to hurt you all the time.

At other times, you would mindlessly, but obediently perform whatever tasks I directed you to perform.

You would never have to think again except on the steps required to complete assigned tasks, and I could either teach you each of those, or else provide you with step-by-step written instructions to blindly follow without ever having to think or make decisions again.

If I enslaved you in this manner, there would be no going back. You would be permanently my property, and my complete airhead girl.

There are variations on the theme.

Maybe I program you to turn any intelligence you have on and off at will.

Maybe I program you to selectively remember who you are, or forget, for times when you talk to family or require medical maintenance.

Maybe I program you to selectively forget that you live in my house, and who I am, and when you think that you are in a strange house with a strange man, I rape you, and then turn your drone mode back on afterward. The nice thing about that is that I get to actually use the force necessary to rape you without the actually legal issues of rape because all of this was pre-planned and consensual.

Maybe when I need a life assistant who is still capable of logical thought, I turn your brain back on for a few hours at a time, and when I am done using your mind, I reset it back to vacant, and I fuck your face.

Being a computer software programmer at the core of my chosen career path, becoming a slave mind programmer has a great deal of appeal.

100% Dominant 
99% Non-monogamist 
98% Master/Mistress 
97% Degrader 
96% Voyeur 
95% Sadist 
95% Rigger 
93% Primal (Hunter) 
92% Experimentalist 
86% Owner 
82% Brat tamer 
68% Exhibitionist 
45% Daddy/Mommy 
11% Vanilla 
10% Ageplayer 
4% Brat 
2% Masochist 
0% Boy/Girl 
0% Primal (Prey) 
0% Slave 
0% Submissive 
0% Switch 
0% Pet 
0% All-rounder 
0% Degradee 
0% Rope bunny

Someone recently asked me, “What kind of Dom you feel you need to be?”

Suggesting that I need to be a particular kind of dom implies that I am assuming some kind of role. I do not. I have a naturally dominant personality. It is just intrinsically who I am in all aspects of my life. Now, I don't walk around with a chip on my shoulder attempting to enforce my dominance on everyone. Someone who actually has a dominant personality is not in the slightest bit threatened by letting someone else have the spotlight when it is a good occasion for someone else to shine. With dominance also comes humility. When a person with a dominant personality shines is when no one else is present who knows what do, or how to cope with a situation. Then, the dominant acts without hesitation to manage whatever requires management. BDSM is an acronym for Bondage Domination and SadoMasochism. For BDSM purposes, I tend to describe myself as a sadist with a dominant personality. This is because most BDSM dungeon-like activities involve the "SM" (with the "B") more than the "D".

I am married to a woman who also has a dominant personality. We have been together for over 25 years. She is my life partner, and we have obviously worked out between us how to effectively segregate realms of our life together where we each tend to have primary control. My wife’s male slave has lived with us since 2010.

We have a large quad split level house that was built in 1965 which makes it now over 50 years old. It is a nice house, and it sits on about a half-acre of heavily wooded land in the middle of the fourth largest metro area in the country. However, like any house with that many years behind it, it needs some maintenance and updating. There were also several owners before us, and at least some of those owners have done some interesting modifications to the house over the years, and not all of those were done in line with normal building codes. So, there are plenty of home improvement projects on the to-do list.

Given possession of someone’s life, I know how to give them purpose. That is the whole concept of enslavement as a life choice. When someone chooses a life of enslavement, the purpose of a slave’s life isn’t just that she becomes a permanent kinky sex doll for her owner. Certainly, there are a wide spectrum of ways to use a slave’s body for the pleasure, enjoyment and amusement of the owner. If you are enslaved by me, I will use you in every depraved, perverted way which can be imagined. You will be extremely well used and abused on a constant basis. However, the simple fact is that no one has time to use your body for sex, torture and torment 24 hours every day. Normal people have other responsibilities, and enslavement must necessarily involve more than being a fuck doll.

At the core of enslavement is the concept is that the sole purpose of a slave is to amplify what the owner may accomplish to a degree greater than what he would accomplish alone. That means that a slave will give her life to her owner as his property, and willing or not, dedicate her life's labor to the assistance of the owner. In this way, the slave becomes part of something greater than herself because she is making it possible for her owner to accomplish greater things than he would without her.

This is not just a one way street where the owner takes and gives nothing in return. A slave owner is responsible for care and maintenance of his property. The important thing you would learn to understand that you would be a valuable piece of my property. That means that you will be a possession into which investment for improvement is a worthy investment. Not only would you receive training directly from me to teach you how to serve my needs more effectively, but depending on circumstances, it may be appropriate to have you acquire additional education or training external of my training.

It is possible that there are times when you would have outside employment, but normally, I would find your service would have greater value to me if it was spent in assistance directly to me rather than in the pursuit of money.

You should understand the manner in which I use the word “abuse.” When I spank someone, I am abusing her. When I tie someone up and leave her to struggle against her bondage, I am abusing her. When my hands squeeze around someone’s throat while I am fucking her, I am abusing her. When I use humiliating language, such as “slut,” to remind a woman that the primary function of her body is to be fucked, I am abusing her.

By common definitions, those of us who practice BDSM activities are warped, perverted, and even broken. I am completely capable of containing my sadist desires if I wish. However, there are people who have masochistic tendencies, and they want what I can happily give them, and what they want by normal standards is abuse. This is different from misabuse, but the line between the two can be fine. It is the responsibility of the top or dominant or master or owner to determine where that line is, and do their humanly imperfect best to never cross that line.

If you have an account on that other web site that begins with “f” and ends with “life” with “et” in the middle (the CollarSpace web site is well known for its internal filters which automatically delete the name of that other web site), then you can find some of my additional thoughts on the topic of abuse versus misabuse here:

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As you may have by now surmised, when I decided that I wished to acquire a slave, I had two basic motivations.

My first motivation for acquisition of a slave is that I want someone with whom I can build enough trust in a relationship to do extremely intense BDSM activities with her. One of the things about the submissive women that I encountered is that they all seem to be sort of the kinky equivalent of swingers. They want the kinky experiences for the purpose of getting their endorphin highs, and maybe even with some orgasms mixed in. However, they are ridiculously choosy about what activities they will do. That is because they are only interested in what is good for them. They have a very self-centered mindset.

The slave mindset is that of service to the owner. She does things because she is more interested in catering to the needs of the owner than her own needs.

Consequently, a smart slave owner knows he must learn about the needs of the slave, and make sure that she is placed into situations where her needs have a chance of being met. Part of that responsibility is to not push the slave beyond what she can handle even though the limits of what she can handle are continually expanded.

The second motivation for acquisition of a slave is my need for a personal assistant. Every task that my slave can perform is one more that I do not have to do, and that allows me more time to do other tasks. The simple fact is that because of my responsibilities for my house and my business and my external job (when I have one of those), there is too much to do for even the three people that currently comprise my family. I need someone else who can find ways to add to that equation rather than subtract from it.

Maybe my slave would spend time with mundane tasks such as mopping the floor, or doing laundry. Maybe my slave would spend time doing house repair and renovation. Maybe my slave would spend time working in the yard. Maybe my slave would spend time performing tasks for my business. Almost anything is possible, depending on her aptitudes and interest in training to learn new skills.

A simple question is, “Why not just hire people to help out?” That is always a possibility. However, the fact is that people for hire almost never care enough to do as good of a job as someone who must live with the results on an ongoing basis. Generally speaking, I would rather have a slave make mistakes while learning how to do something well than hire someone off the street who might or might not do a good job. Plus, there is this slave who needs something to do when I am not fucking her silly, and there is something particularly satisfying about being able to grab my slave while she is wiring an electrical socket or pulling clothes out of the dryer, fucking her face for a short bit, and then allowing her to return to her previous task. Additionally, I am a nudist and slaves do not complain about my nudity, but hired people are not amused by such things.

The slave owner is the care taker of the slave, and the slave normally obeys the owner without question. Because the owner must create spaces for the slave to exist, it is the responsibility of the owner to keep the slave as safe as possible, even when the slave is given enough latitude to fail, and learn from that failure. The skill is to allow a space for small failures at first, and then increase the size of the failure allowed over time as the skill of the slave increases, and at a rate that continues to challenge the slave. It is very much like working a muscle to increase its strength.

So, how can you add to the equation of my life to make your addition to my family a good investment?

Yesterday was the 150th anniversary of the day when Lincoln's Emancipation Proclamation went into effect. Would anyone like to celebrate by becoming my slave?  : )

Today, Yvegee and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary.  Because we got married on the 8th anniversary of our first date, it is also 18 years since we first met.  Just as in previous years, we renewed publicly re-declared our love for each other by renewing our marriage vows.  Aside for the fact that we are both fighting off the remnants of headcolds, we had a very nice day together!  :)